ASMR ... didn't think I would ever talk about it 🫣
Added 2022-11-18 20:23:17 +0000 UTCI was going to talk about art, galleries and Van Gogh but ended up talking about sex lol... Well, I'm not a very open person in that sense and a lot comes from my upbringing and where i grew up :)
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I wasn't implying being promiscuous, I was suggesting opening up to the idea of falling in love and viewing relationships as great learning experiences, whether or not they work out. Those "random people" you're referring to are people with whom you had a real connection with and a common goal and purpose at different stages of your life. That was reality at some point but we all learn and mature and our requirements in a partner become clearer and more refined, by virtue of going through said experiences. And the "one true love" is quite subjective really because people get divorced at different ages, and leave their partners for various reasons.. So my argument is that "reserving" yourself for the right person is just delaying the inevitable journey of finding that one true love (which entails knowing oneself and what you actually look for in a partner not what you thought you looked for), except now you're a lot older, navigating through that journey with a lot more at stake (children possibly, alimony etc). If that's your perspective then fair enough.. I don't mean to have a dig at you, i don't know you I'm just referring to that mindset, but I personally I just see that as an insecurity, from a place of controlling and a fear of being compared to others yet anxious about not being good enough (however you define good enough), and maybe a moral judgement based on the narrative that some people tell themselves around sex and how women are "meant" to behave.. a girl's history is not a reflection on me just like my sexual history has nothing to do with her. Because if you switch the roles, someone else could view virginity as a lack of experience which to them isn't attractive, so who draws the line here if we're gonna make someone's sexual history relevant? If you were brought up to think that women should have few sexual partners, then you will look at your woman’s past and think there’s something that's not right. But if you were brought up to think sex is something that is entirely between consenting adults, and fun, and the number of partners isn’t really anything other than a history, then her past would carry little potency. If her past is an issue, then digging a bit deeper, in the privacy of your own head, into why her past “hurts” you may be helpful. Again, I'm not advocating for anything other than your life is your life, and none of this means that you have to put up with behaviour you find hurtful but, you need to own who you are and not try to change someone to suit you. It’s normal, especially if you are cautious, to look for reasons you might be let down, but if that starts to dictate the chances you take, your life will narrow to a point where there’s little disappointment, but also little joy. And however much you talk about her history, it’s not going to change.
Motaz
2022-12-07 12:10:06 +0000 UTCYou're just super cute and innocent 😊 .. first of all great to see you taking initiative and breaking the taboo around sex as an Armenian lady, even just to yourself. And I certainly understand where you're coming from. I grew up in a religious family so I get the taboo around sex and male-female interactions, but if I may share my perspective and give you my take on this, i would suggest that this mindset around sex, love and marriage is preventing you from one of the greatest experiences to discover yourself truly before you actually commit to someone and decide to get married, because I promise you there's a LOT to discover. Once you dig deep and really challenge your own beliefs and the stories that your culture circulates about how sex should be viewed, and why sex is even taboo in the first place, you'll eventually remove the classic stigmas of "sin, shame, dishonor, dishonesty etc." and all those scary words and you'll appreciate it for what it really is, as a deep bond between two humans that fosters feelings of closeness and emotional wellbeing. It's an emphasis of the pleasure your body can give and receive, and an exchange of energy, intimacy, self-expression, connection, data about one another and it's a safe space in which you are most vulnerable, yet comforted by the knowledge that despite all the doubts and imperfections you may see in yourself, you're in the company of another human that genuinely loves and worships every inch of your body and soul, and without doubt that contributes significantly to your confidence and self esteem.. Relationships... Let me put it this way.. I always thought I knew what i wanted in a partner and what to look for in a relationship, but only after fully committing to romantic, sexual relationships did I really understand what i didn't know about my attachment styles, my childhood traumas that affected my view of life, what insecurities i projected onto people, the behavioral patterns I repeated. I learned about my love languages, how to receive love in ways that truly fulfill me, and how to express it in ways my partner will appreciate. I knew about my needs and desires, my habits and coping styles, what aspects of my personality really come to light when someone lives with me, and i learned that not everything is as black and white as it may initially seem, because we often go into relationships with unrealistic expectations about how we want things to be like. Interestingly enough, when you consider all the factors that play a role in relationships, and the expectations you carry for your own relationship, you can see how being in one is a great way to learn about your way of living, and how to be a better lover. And from my own experience, looking back at myself from distance, how i am in a relationship often reflects my take on life and the way i handle problems or challenges. It's a reflection of how you carry yourself on a day to day basis, almost like the relationship brings out the character you present to platonic relationships as well. I learned so much more about life from relationships because there are frequent checkpoints that force me to stop and reflect, and that allows me to evaluate if the choices I’m making are really aligned with what I want in my future and how I want my life to be, or if I'm simply being passive of whatever comes into my life, and settling for whatever standard i get. Because a long-term relationship is also a reflection of what you’re willing to tolerate, of your values, beliefs, your life’s trajectory and how you initiate that path for yourself.
Motaz
2022-11-20 12:28:21 +0000 UTC😂😂😂 I actually remember that specific comment where the guy asked you about foot fetish. That was so random! I was laughing because it just makes no sense to ask an asmrtist such a question! For some reason the people on the internet that like feet specifically seem to be extra weird.
Jake D.
2022-11-18 23:46:11 +0000 UTCokay so now I've listened to it. I really love your energy in these videos. It feels like I'm just having a silly conversation with a close friend.
Jake D.
2022-11-18 23:40:08 +0000 UTCI was in a class of mostly boys a year older (it was an all-boys' private school and anyone expected to sit for scholarship exams to senior school was put up one year as there was a dedicated year for the more advanced scholarship syllabus) so they would mostly have been 11-12, and the topic may well have been sexual reproduction in frogs or some other species, but the word just triggered me into embarrassment and I couldn't wait for that lesson to end. To this day, I've never discussed the topic with anyone in my family.
Astrolearn Astrology Library
2022-11-18 22:38:29 +0000 UTCHere it’s still not an open topic. The time is changing though. I didn’t know anything about reproduction till I was 12 … so can’t even imagine how I’d feel if anyone talked to me about it so early. I think parents here would be mad 😄
MissASMR
2022-11-18 22:02:27 +0000 UTCDon’t know what you’re talking about but there’s no lingerie video coming. It’s only about growing up and not being triggered by the S word
MissASMR
2022-11-18 21:56:57 +0000 UTC🤣🤣 It's like watching a Virginia Woolf or JD Salinger novel (stream of consciousness). You're too funny. Don't worry, Shushanna. You can talk s*x with us anytime you want 😉 (and maybe work some sexual paintings of Van Gogh in there next time 😂).
Greg Loden
2022-11-18 21:52:38 +0000 UTCLove to see you coming out of your shell more & more after doing that Lingerie video !
Justin
2022-11-18 21:45:22 +0000 UTCBrave of you to post this, Shushanna! I can remember feeling very similarly to you in my childhood in England, and think that shame over the discussion of a certain subject may be common to Christian countries. It was never discussed in my family (my parents are both from quite old-fashioned middle-class families originally, which may be a factor - not all British people are like that), and I also vividly recall getting super-embarrassed in science classes at school when I was about ten and the science teacher was talking about sexual reproduction as a topic in biology. One of the other boys caught my face flushing and loudly whispered 'Graves has gone red!' and that made it worse as it felt as though everyone was watching me. Even today it's not a subject I openly discuss - or ever discuss - unless someone else raises it first, then it can seem just about acceptable!
Astrolearn Astrology Library
2022-11-18 21:21:42 +0000 UTCInteresting video Shushanna
Oliver Jayawant
2022-11-18 20:30:20 +0000 UTC
