Times I made My Ex BF Cry (and more tales from the crypt!)
Added 2020-03-17 20:16:39 +0000 UTCWhen I first drafted up this series it was just so I could say to myself, this actually HAPPENED, and I'm not crazy. Take one of these scenarios, and I'd chuckle or shake my head... Take them all and cram them together, and you get a wildly different story.
Growing up I had no healthy relationships around me to learn from, and being bullied mercilessly at school left me ill-prepared for an adult relationship. I was a late bloomer at 19, and he had years of experience on me. At a certain point I was pretty convinced everyone in a relationship cries themself to sleep every night. Never in front of their partner though, because he would tell me that I was being "manipulative" when he'd make me cry. A comic called, "Times My Ex BF Made Me Cry" would be a very different comic indeed.
I realize now he told me my tears were acts of manipulation, because that's how he utilized his. Every concern or attempt to protect myself or playful ribbing was met with a salty explosion and a limp, saggy pout. Puppy dog eyes that'd say "h..how COULD you?!"
I always felt I was the "bad guy" in our relationship. He'd be cruel, I'd push back, he'd cry, I'd comfort him, and the argument would end there. I didn't realize tears were a means to an end for him, and not an explosion of emotion I could no longer contain like they were for me. It actually wasn't until I lined out all these comics that that dawned on me.
Neither did I realize how not alone I am in my experience. The outpouring of support, both given and received, has been enormous. Scrolling through hundreds of messages, saying they had the same conversations verbatim, it broke my heart. But it helped me lift the veil of guilt and shame I'd been holding on to. Everyone aside from a few close friends blamed me, during and after the relationship. Dummy, idiot, fool, boo boo the goddamn clown! Why didn't you just walk away?
Abusers aren't abusive all the time. They are often charming, funny, have a shine to them you'd love to catch in a bottle, if only they'd let you close enough. Those parts aren't exactly outlined in this comic. You can only see the puzzle for the steamy turd painting that it is when you have all the pieces.
Uploading these comics for the whole world to see has always make me feel a little queasy, naked, and vulnerable, but I will never regret the good they've done, the teenagers who said "I saw myself in this, and I had the courage to walk away because of it." Because of that, it will always be worth it, no matter how much abuse is hurled my way.
And yes, he's seen them. And you know what he did?
Well... It was a time I made my ex bf cry!
Comments
Wow, Ilovethe expressions on the sixteenth comic
Amy Sennett
2024-11-12 20:00:51 +0000 UTCWow i hate your ex 😃🔪
Milena Bauer
2021-08-19 19:39:29 +0000 UTCI followed the link from your recent V-Day post and reread these all together for the first time. You're right, each one in isolation--as I originally encountered them--is hilarious because it's just so ridiculous, but taken all together, they show a devastating picture. I'm so impressed at your fortitude, to have faced all these painful memories and shared them with us. You're awesome!!
Nug
2021-02-17 15:44:28 +0000 UTCThese are fantastic. I love the one where you eat your own eyes, what a clever gag.
Guy
2021-02-14 22:55:03 +0000 UTCThis should be required reading. I wish I could buy a physical copy to give someone as a gift. I'm sorry you had to deal with this but your experiences serve as a very "Goofus and Gallant" explanation of how not to treat people (with you as the soft and relatable Gallant).
Hachiko
2021-02-14 22:00:34 +0000 UTCThey are amazing and horrible . I am sorry that you have experienced this, but I am also happy that you have overcome all this and have created this series. I love your art💜
Eda Nur Dalgıç
2020-04-18 21:52:33 +0000 UTCi found your stuff through these comics, I fuckin love these
Ellen Kramer
2020-04-04 21:07:56 +0000 UTCThank you for sharing these !! They're honest and striking and that paired with the colorful cartoon illustrations makes them more jarring and blatantly personal. Thank you for sharing your story and your creativity with us.
Jawacki
2020-03-18 22:25:03 +0000 UTCThank you for posting these! these lil comics make me feel so much less alone with my shitty experiences and your art is always a treat to look at
Magicdawolfy
2020-03-18 14:27:59 +0000 UTCThank you!!! I’m really excited to be here!
Little Tunny
2020-03-18 13:49:52 +0000 UTCThank you for sharing something so personal
Action Potato
2020-03-18 13:42:47 +0000 UTCAlso, by the way - I'm really glad to be able to support you on Patreon now!
crystalhearts
2020-03-18 13:32:10 +0000 UTCThese are brutal, stone cold classics.
crystalhearts
2020-03-18 06:44:13 +0000 UTCBeen following you for a while on Twitter. Love your art style and your sense of humor (and your pets 😁). Glad to be able to throw some monetary support your way and excited to see what else you might create!
Scott Berry
2020-03-18 04:48:40 +0000 UTCMan I was there once, err well twice. It took so long to climb out of that hole and to learn that that's not what a good relationship is. Glad you're out of it now and hope anything of the sort is behind you now!
Klotzzilla
2020-03-18 04:36:27 +0000 UTCWow, I didn't know anyone else was accused of being manipulative when they cried. Looking back, it's so obvious, and I feel like a fool for letting it go on so long. These comics make me feel better ❤
Jiji
2020-03-18 03:48:30 +0000 UTCWow, I didn't know anyone else was accused of being manipulative when they cried. Looking back, it's so obvious, and I feel like a fool for letting it go on so long. These comics make me feel better ❤
Jiji
2020-03-18 03:48:20 +0000 UTCThese are wonderful and Im so sorry that you had to live this
Cynical Sagittarius
2020-03-18 02:42:04 +0000 UTCI would love to listen to water with you :)
Grodie Chan
2020-03-18 02:27:49 +0000 UTCI am happy to support your work. Thank you for making a Patreon! Edit: Hadn't seen the last few pages until after I posted. You are powerful and you should be proud of that ;_;
Greenbeans
2020-03-18 02:19:44 +0000 UTCSo relatable I want to cry. Thank you for making these comics 🔥
pixlotl
2020-03-18 02:11:13 +0000 UTCCan’t wait for those sweet feet smooches
Stephanie Dee
2020-03-18 01:24:35 +0000 UTCI HAD to pledge knowing these were all in one place. Thank you so much for turning all of these experiences into comics. Can't wait to support you for as long as I can! <3
thekingtheory
2020-03-18 01:10:23 +0000 UTCYes! I am so pumped to see you on Patreon so I can shower you coins and appreciation. I love these comics, they made my heart hurt so much less coming up out of a really terrible relationship. Thanks for making them and collecting them like this 😊
Becca D
2020-03-17 23:29:05 +0000 UTCWhats better is after admitting they all happened, he took it back, made a tumblr about the hardships of dealing with a narcissistic ex-gf, and reblogged constant articles on the evils of "call out culture" (but the only person who told people who the man in my comics was...himself... to his roommates!! lol!)
Little Tunny
2020-03-17 23:04:19 +0000 UTCYou are too kind!! Thank you so much! I'm really excited to be here and to take this next step!
Little Tunny
2020-03-17 22:51:08 +0000 UTCThank you so much ;___; it means a ton to me!! I'm so excited to be able to focus more on original art!
Little Tunny
2020-03-17 22:50:48 +0000 UTCLittlest Tunny, how I've longed for this day!!!! welcome to Patreon! I'm so happy to be able to contribute to your ability to make art on a monthly basis!!!!
Alexandra Evans
2020-03-17 22:33:05 +0000 UTCWow he’s an even bigger piece of shit than I feared 💔
FanartIGuess
2020-03-17 22:23:02 +0000 UTCI've been following your content for years and it's about time I ponied up 😤
T Man
2020-03-17 22:16:51 +0000 UTCThis is such a strong piece and I'm so happy I can finally read them all!!! It really pulled at my heart.
Kell Takara
2020-03-17 22:15:17 +0000 UTCHE DIDN'T KNOW YOU FELT THAT WAY AAAAAAHHH THAT IS SENDING ME!!! I would've expected him to twist it and say you're lying or something since that's the usual manipulator tactic, but it's honestly HILARIOUS that he just fully admitted he did all this fucked up shit and STILL acted like the victim somehow! That is a satisfying resolution, thank u
Lyla Hammar
2020-03-17 22:01:39 +0000 UTCThese are nothing short of amazing, thank you for sharing!! I had an ex who was just like that and I just kept putting up with it until I finally had to break up and just ignore him altogether. He also pulled the same "let's break up over summer" crap. You're an incredible artist and person!
Leslie
2020-03-17 21:42:40 +0000 UTCThanks so much for reaching out!! I'm glad you're also out of a bad situation! I didn't hear from him directly, someone posted them to 4chan and he saw them and showed his roommates, one of them reached out to me and was very concerned by them and asked me if they were true... He said my ex had shut himself in his room and been crying all day. I asked them if he said they were lies and they told me "no he said they were true but he didn't know you felt that way about those things" LOL!
Little Tunny
2020-03-17 21:37:58 +0000 UTCTYSM!! Glad we could share a laugh about the shit we went thru!!
Little Tunny
2020-03-17 21:36:25 +0000 UTCI remember discovering these several years ago on tumblr, and it was shortly after a break up with my own terrible ex. So many of your comics reminded me of him and the fights we had. It was great to finally look back at those memories and LAUGH MY ASS OFF. TY for helping me feel less alone during that difficult time.
Jennifer
2020-03-17 21:01:40 +0000 UTCThis is the first time I've seen all these comics in one place, I've only ever seen a couple of them when you post on Twitter! I feel like every new comic was another "of COURSE he did that" moment, like of COURSE he frequents r/guns, of COURSE he's transphobic, of COURSE he's a rapist, of COURSE he made you sleep on dirty laundry (OH MY GOD)!!! Thank you so much for sharing, my last relationship wasn't NEARLY as bad as this but I still feel afraid to talk about it so I can't imagine how much courage it takes to share this experience! I really wish I could see his reaction to these comics, I imagine that was so satisfying lmao (but of course I would never ask you to share any more than you already have)! <3
Lyla Hammar
2020-03-17 20:58:43 +0000 UTCHey thanks!! Glad you liked them :^)!!
Little Tunny
2020-03-17 20:37:14 +0000 UTCTYSM! Thank you for subscribing!! :D
Little Tunny
2020-03-17 20:36:45 +0000 UTCThank you so much for sharing these comics, I love reading every single one :)
peanut
2020-03-17 20:36:39 +0000 UTCI've always wanted to read these! Amazing
Alex
2020-03-17 20:33:10 +0000 UTC
