December 2021 Tea Time: a rambling update i recorded after recording for 4 hours and drinking why too much coffee i shouldn't have had :') LETS GOO
Added 2021-12-20 04:34:53 +0000 UTCJust one thing quickly i want to make sure i make super clear because listening to it while editing i was worried someone might take something i said wrong- at around 8:44 i make a comment like "what is wrong with people???" while im talking about how uncomfortable some certain reactions/comments/messages made me.
I want to clarify that when i say 'wtf is wrong with people' and refer to people twisting my work into something 'disgusting' i am in no way referring to people's kinks! The thing that made me uncomfortable was the brazen, bold disregard for my personal space or me as a person or the fact that the audio in question was posted on a public, SFW site. I was, and still am, uncomfortable because for me it broke the safe, consensual boundary that kinks should reside in and came off as how they really felt, irl and as a woman, it made me feel both uncomfortable and unsafe that someone would so brazenly and publicly share a desire to own another person and have sex with them regardless of legitimate consent. In private, personal porn, i have no problems with this as a kink. but it did not feel that way in MANY of the comments and messages I received.
I just wanted to make sure that was super clear because I don't want anyone to feel ashamed for their kinks, which they enjoy, in private, with the consent of all participating parties. oki thanks <3
Comments
Late to this ramble and to the support party but here have these I'll just leave em here: ❤️❤️❤️
phoenix
2021-12-27 03:40:51 +0000 UTCHaven't listened, yet, but I can only imagine based on what little I know of you as a person and from what I'm hearing from the community here. I'm sorry you had to go through that Ruby, and while I don't personally get CNC, I can see where it would be hot. Practiced in a safe way, with a concenting adult partner... ownership of another person makes my skin crawl and again, I'm sorry you had to deal with creepy mother fuckers.
Wraith
2021-12-20 12:35:43 +0000 UTCI'm so sorry you had to go through such a rough time just because there are way too many total assholes in the world. Here's hoping you can keep moving forward and making progress towards your goals at whatever pace you can. Remember slow progress is still progress. Here's to what I hope will be a much better next year.
SDH
2021-12-20 09:53:45 +0000 UTCYou have done a lot this year. I'm glad you found a good therapist. You may not be where you hoped, but you are moving forward. You have new tools to help that you did not have before as well as professional validation. Really looking forward to next year.
Jessie
2021-12-20 06:19:57 +0000 UTCYeah you've made it clear that the kink isn't the issue. You've even posted things with those kinks before. So it's obvious what you meant.
Jessie
2021-12-20 06:12:44 +0000 UTCYou've made it very clear. That sounds absolutely horrendous and I'm beyond disgusted that so many people think that way and that any of them would have the gall to think sending that shit was okay
Shadowy Fox
2021-12-20 05:22:07 +0000 UTCI really appreciate this comment.. I'm glad i've made it clear enough in the past that it's easier to tell what i meant ;~ ; Sadly it wasn't just 'someone' it was hundreds of someone's with a large handful- i'd say over 20 people- who were the worst of them sending me detailed private messages and DMs about it... :/
2021-12-20 05:04:36 +0000 UTCI am SO very sorry you experienced that from someone. Just reading about it makes my skin crawl, so I can only imagine how it made you feel to witness it. I know, from what you've shared, that you value consent and wouldn't shame people for the kinks that they engage in consensually. When you say things like "what is wrong with people," I know someone was an awful fuck
Shadowy Fox
2021-12-20 04:48:12 +0000 UTC
