Eve's Guide for Regular Guys: Episode 17 - The Friend Zone
Added 2025-06-22 15:43:50 +0000 UTCThis is a long episode! I covered a lot in this episode, so I hope you’ll get comfy, get a snack, and give this some thought.
In this episode I talk about:
The difference between friendship and "The Friend Zone"
The differences in attitudes and sex drive between men and women
Why many women aren’t too eager for "Friends With Benefits", etc
An analogy! A long one
Why you shouldn’t remain in anyone’s Friend Zone
What to do if you are in the FZ
I do want to clarify one point that I'm afraid I didn't express as clearly as I could, so let me try to do that now.
Regarding my statement that women care about what a man does, not what he is, please let me be clear that I'm not implying a woman won't love you for your personality, your character, your mind, your soul, or all the things that make you who you are. She absolutely will. A woman is definitely looking for the same things in a partner that you are - a nice personality, a sense of humour, intelligence, kindness, generosity, a loving heart.
What I didn't explain well enough is that when a woman sees a man doing something she is impressed by, like drawing or playing an instrument or fixing a car or anything, it makes her want to get to know him, it makes her want to find out if he is all those things she wants. Just the way a pretty girl makes you want to find out more about her, to get to know her more. It's that old saying, in a nutshell - "looks or good luck may open doors for you, but your personality is what keeps them open". A woman will fall in love with everything that is you, just as you will with her. What you love and are good at is just a way to draw her eye at first.
All I meant to do was ease your minds if you're worried that you're not good looking, ripped, tall or 'sexy' enough. I meant to assure you that a woman is going to be impressed by those aspects of you that shine through when you do things you love and are good at.
