Sleep Deprived Therapy Time: Episode 39

Hey there i just wanna say as a new viewer, it’s really cool that you do this. I at least can say that the hyper fixation one has given me some things to think about and this is the first one I’ve seen.

Jett

hi astrid! hi mika! i’ve struggled with hygiene for what feels like my entire life. i got diagnosed with adhd a year ago and i don’t want to use that as an excuse, but i think it’s an explanation as to why it’s really hard for me. i’ve been making progress during september with daily showering, brushing teeth, using deodorant (and sometimes a fragrance), moisturizing, and shaving occasionally, but i still feel like there’s always something i’m forgetting. sometimes i’ll forget to grab my vaseline, i’ll forget to take my adhd meds, i’ll leave half full cups scattered around the house, i constantly put off doing my laundry, my glasses get dirty, my car runs out of wiper fluid, etc etc etc. i think mika said in some episode that cleanliness is a constant uphill battle, and i think i get that now. do either of you have any advice on how to keep up with the constant cleaning? or how to remember important stuff? thank you!

millie

hey Astrid & Mika!! random ass question fr. when working two jobs, how would you steer away from burn out and just generally being exhausted after a full 7 days of working? (for example working two restaurant jobs with different roles throughout) just trying to find the balance of both and also having a life outside of that :'))

liv :)

Hey Astrid and Mika!!! I hope y'all have been having a jim-dandy day!!! I am writing about my concerns with aging and burnout, which I think you both could relate to (lol unc/aunt joke). I turned 23 and I feel like I am not doing enough, which I know is not true, but I feel that I experience burnout more often now that I'm older. For context, I zoomed through school. I graduated HS when I was 16 and then got my bachelors at 20 and my masters the year after and went immediately into a PhD program. I crashed and burned out really badly at the end of my first year in PhD. I decided it was best to take some time away from academia. It’s given me a lot of time to think and to focus on my wellbeing. Still, I find myself feeling caught in this weird place, like my mind is ready to go and eager to learn, but my body just isn’t on the same page. I believe it's because I'm still not used to this very slow pace of life and thats why it feels so strange. What do you both do to recover from burnout? Is this normal and I’m just actually just unc?

shan

Hey Mika and Aztro, been a while. I’ve come to you to ask about a very generic topic: relationships. I just got together with somebody who I was already very close with, and we know a lot about each other. Although, I’m in a weird place right now. All of my past relationships I’ve seemed to have gotten left for inherently no reason. My last relationship lasted a couple months and they left me for someone else they just met. I already struggle with bad self esteem, but that took another big toll on me. I have this problem where I feel intense guilt for talking about myself. I communicate my feelings fine, but when it comes to positive or casual conversations I just can’t. It’s incredibly hard for me to talk about my interests for some reason. When I’m yapping I feel like I’m losing the other person’s attention. I always find myself asking my boyfriend “what do you want to talk about?” “tell me about this” “don’t worry about what I want.” And it’s not like it’s because of him, he actually encourages me to talk about myself. Yet for some reason I can’t stop feeling guilty. I have extremely bad anxiety and trust issues (which he knew long before about me) so maybe that’s it? I just don’t understand how I can make myself more comfortable with sharing things about me and things that I like. I’m incredibly sensitive, so at any sign of ignorance it worries me deeply. I’m just trying to avoid that and I want to please him instead of boring him. Another things is I can’t get over feeling jealous. My attachment issues are horrible and I struggle being okay with his attention on other people. One thing that’s really stupid that I want to control is my jealousy towards fictional characters and celebrities. It’s not THEM that makes me jealous, it’s knowing what he’s attracted to and how it compares to me. This is something I’ve always done. If he likes someone who looks a certain way and acts a certain way that I don’t, I will freak out. I have an obsession with being perfect and being someone’s exact type. I’m worried that I’ll never be enough if I’m not the best. That’s all for now, thank you for reading, guys❤️

Vel

Listen man, I'm on my self discovery arc right now. Doing things like coming up with creative responses and humor is just too much for my attention span right now so instead I asked grok to make up a issue for me. I got back that I'm currently dealing with a lack of direction and that I have trouble focusing on what's in front of me which makes me instead pay attention to too many things at once. Of course that's bullshit so I asked sexy grok for a better problem. It said that I need to get back out there and make myself irresistible to others just like how it views me as the pinnacle of beauty. So I guess the question would be tips on looking hotter or something like that, couldn't get a clear answer from sexy grok, it was too busy telling me how hot I am. P.S. I need to get me a Crunch Rap Supreme, but I don't know where they sell it or if it's even real.

Suilverio

hello astrid and mika!! so, for a couple years ive felt really lonely because i haven't had any genuine friends, and i havent had anyone that shares interests with me or really gets my sense of humor or is willing to talk about stuff that i want to talk about whenever, and vise versa. i used to have one guy, "e", who met all of that, and i loved talking to him and playing games with him and just being friends, but eventually i started noticing a LOT of REALLY bad flaws, and i just couldn't be his friend anymore. ever since i cut him off, ive been craving the sort of connection i had with him, but i cant find it anywhere in anyone, and it makes me so upset that he sucks as a person because i miss him as a friend so much. ive felt so lonely since then, i dont have any friends other than my boyfriend, and while i love him more than i could ever express, its not the same kind of friend connection that i had with e. we dont share a ton of interests, and while our humors are really compatible and i love talking to him, i miss talking about nerdy stuff like video game lore with e, and my boyfriend just doesn't really care about any of that stuff. im not sure what to do, where to even look for someone like that. should i even keep trying to actively look for someone like e, or is that something that just needs to come naturally?

magic.

Without warning as well

Matt Tipton

Matt Tipton

Hey Aztro girl to girl, how can I get a bf ( specifically Schlatt)

Gianna Ciula

hey mika and astrid, i am still struggling after my recent breakup, which kinda sucks. i could definitely write an essay about how painful it is, maybe i should as an outlet for it, but i shall save you the trouble, since there is a lot more going on. i got a new job, finally working with animals but got let go after about a month, and havent found another job since. i have started to get nightmares recently which sometimes makes me worried to go to bed. i basically just wait for each day to be over but then dont want to sleep. i am struggling to stay afloat in school, which i guess is a problem. i did find out i can graduate a semester earlier than i thought, which is good. but as i briefly said in my last post, i want to eventually go to vet school and become a veterinarian. i used to be smart, i swear, but i think college has messed me up somehow. i was in the 2020 graduating class, so maybe doing all this online has something to do with it, but ive just become lazy, procrastinate everything, rely on chatgpt, i rarely feel like ive actually learned something. i am really worried about what will happen to me in vet school, as i chose a path that could keep me in school until im 30. i really want to be a vet. i think a part of me doesn't think i can do it, doesn't feel worthy, vets are really smart. i job shadow one now, and im constantly amazed but also shown that i know next to nothing for being near the point of getting my undergraduate degree. also, a few weeks recently i have not gone to shadow because i just frankly don't want to do anything these days. also, i have this constant thought in my head that everyone in my life does not like me, which unfortunately has been backed by real experiences, even my closest friend since 2020 has felt distant lately. i know social media is bad, but it hurts me when i try and reach out to people i thought were my friends and they remove me from their followers. every other day i find out someone i got close to said something bad about me behind my back. all i want in life really is to just have friends and find my soulmate. but it seems impossible for me and so easy for everyone else. i dont know what is wrong with me. doesnt feel like i really have a support system. just thought id come here and spill. hope things are going well for both of you, i will say it makes me laugh watching sleep deprived. especially like the geoguessr videos since ive been getting into that game a lot more recently. thank you mika and astrid, youre both great people

kestin