Sleep Deprived Therapy Time: Episode 37
Added 2025-06-01 17:00:08 +0000 UTCHappy June! Happy Pride!
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Hey Mika and Astro,recently I’ve been struggling with a problem with my friend. I’m a high school student and recently moved into a new school.as I’ve been gone one of my closest friends did some extremely awful and illegal things and is now in prison for an amount of time not yet set. If one of your closest friends were to do something like this would you still be friends with them?
Phildogian
2025-07-01 03:23:48 +0000 UTCHi Astro and Mika, just thought to let you know that you are doing amazing, I have a question, how would you go about someone blaming you for their mistakes and never seeing your side of things and they just always blame things on you ?
Johnnyhotbody
2025-06-29 12:40:35 +0000 UTCHi again Mika and Astro! My short film that I sent you guys (‘Turnstile’) has been doing pretty successfully in really really small, mostly local festivals, and has even won two really tiny awards at the East Village Film Festival. Also, Zohran won in NYC!!! My efforts canvassing for him in my neighborhood were not in vain! Anyways, I’d love to hear your proper feedback on Turnstile. And have a great summer!
Howwis
2025-06-28 20:21:34 +0000 UTCHeyo Astrid and Mika! I hope the new solstice has been treating you both very well! As it is officially summertime, there have been numerous concerts and festivals happening, and I've been having a grand ol’ time attending as many as I can. Live music has a magical effect on the soul, leaving you feeling like you're walking on air for days afterward. Have y’all attended any concerts this year yet, and which was your favorite show so far if you have? Or if not, what show would you like to go to? Be well, and all the best :3
shan
2025-06-28 17:16:17 +0000 UTChello astrid & mika! hope you had a lovely pride month! :D before i ask my question, let me give you some not-so-brief background info.. i'm a 19y/o bisexual girl, i've only been in 1 serious relationship with a girl, and a couple of unserious flings with both guys and girls. dating has never really been a top priority of mine (of course when i was in a relationship that was different) but as i get older i find myself more interested in the idea of it. don't know if this matters but i find myself getting more crushes on guys but more comfortable with the idea of a full-blown relationship with a girl. that being said, i met this guy a couple years older than me and he lives an hour away. i guess you could say we've been "talking" but it hasn't been established as that, and it's only been going on for a month or so. we are SO similar in most ways, it's almost startling, and i really value that about a person more than anything else but the problem is i don't find him physically attractive which sounds SO shallow. i don't think i'm a supermodel by any stretch of the imagination but i just don't think it's right to have this thought without doing something about it. most of our conversations can be read as platonic so i don't feel that i'm leading him on per se and we haven't gone on a date (mostly bc of the distance and busy schedules) but it still feels wrong. i'd love to be friends with him, but i feel like #1 this may not be easy for us to get past when i'm honest with him and #2 i've considered playing the date out and seeing if that changes my mind. now here's the kicker :,) i've been in contact with some friends from an old arts summer camp and i'm seeing them over july 4th (yay!!) but there's one girl in particular who i've been texting all hours of the day (unusual for either of us to do w anyone), we also have quite a lot in common and because of the previous friendship i already feel a deeper connection with her obviously. however she's going to college on the west coast while i'm in college on the east coast (and she doesn't turn 18 until august. ruh roh) i definitely like her and i think that she likes me too, though this hasn't been confirmed, but she says she "hates calling people" and calls me for hours, also says that i'm pretty/cute/has said "you look like a disney princess" (my personal favorite LOL) made a photo album for me/my interests/my pets and family and says she loves me at any chance she can slip it in (which girls do platonically too but not THAT much so not sure how to read it, also not really her thing) anyway since we're going to see each other again i kinda wanna see where that goes too. moral of the long-winded story, i'm stuck between the two, i think it's clear which one i'm more interested in at the moment but i feel like i'm thinking emotionally and not completely logically and i don't know what to do... i'm scared of hurting someone and my relationships with these people but also can't help but feel this is just a silly problem. thank you guys for taking the time to read/respond to this <3 appreciate you both and sending warm wishes for your month
reeseroni
2025-06-26 20:16:01 +0000 UTChelloo, new patron here, i came across mika's wonderful stream of consciousness yt videos and inspired me to come here and spill. i have always wanted a relationship, but have very high standards and just wanted to like only be with the person id end up with. i found that person at work, and we met and started dating in october of last year. but around april everything started to go downhill in my life. i found out i was getting kicked out of my house, i also ended up getting let go from my job, and with all of that i started to make lots of mistakes that ended up costing me the relationship. i have felt so insecure my whole life and although i want that love i feel like i am undeserving. and this person was so ideal and special i was afraid to mess it up, so in order to avoid arguments that i thought would push them away, i lied about stuff i thought they wouldnt accept. i didnt mean to hurt them, i hate that it started to become a pattern, idk if im a pathological liar or why im afraid to be real. but i just want to get better. now we are broken up but still talk but it is still hard for me to be as open which causes them to get more upset and only make things worse. then if i tell the truth later it hurts them bc they found out i lied so it feels impossible to make anything better. i had to move back home, lost my job, lost my shot at forever w the person i love, and grades started to slip which isn't good because i want to go to vet school. what do you do when life just tosses you all these bad things and you want to stay above water? how do i learn to tell the truth even when you dont feel like you can be accepted for it? i know i need to learn to love myself, but i honestly don't know where to begin. thank you mika and aztro for creating this space u are both incredible
kestin
2025-06-26 03:38:57 +0000 UTCHey Astrid and Mika! I hope you are having a nice day whenever you’re reading this and had a great pride! :> I think my situation is more so aimed to Astrid but I’d love to hear your thoughts too, Mika! Okay so a few months ago I come out to my friends as trans, which to me felt like a HUGE milestone, and they’ve been great! Offering to do makeup days, helping choose a name I like, stuff thats really meant a lot to me and motivated me quite a bit! But it’s more so my family that I’m nervous about. I’m not afraid of them disowning me or kicking me out, but more so that I feel they would be uncomfortable around me if I did, like they would be cautious of what they say around me and treat more like an alien than a family member. A couple weeks ago, I thought that I might just be overthinking it, but while me and my mom were talking about trans rights, she said ‘She was glad she doesn’t have to worry about any of that with me’ and laughed, which just really cemented that I would be seen as less than what I am now. I really don’t want to make things between my family awkward or be treated differently, but I can’t really start to present as femme before I come out. I just don’t really know how to go about any of this, but any words of advice would be appreciated *:> Also just wanted to say, Astrid, seeing you transition to the person you are now has helped me start my journey a lot by seeing that it IS possible to be the woman I want to be, and I’m probably one of many tgirls you’ve helped break out of being just an egg! Thanks for taking your time to read and I hope you have a nice July!! <3
Lamb
2025-06-26 02:31:22 +0000 UTCHey guys hope everythings well! i was wondering if youd have any advice on introducing myself to guys as a bi man. im 18 and recently broke up with my ex gf of 2 years, i think its time to see what its like on the other side but i dont know how. i have no experience with guys and dont really know how to meet people well. i cant go out to bars or clubs on the weekend (legal at 18 in my country) because i work only weekends, and idk if my gaydar is just really bad but i have no idea if someone's queer before i approach them and if i go talk to a guy on the street who turns out to be straight i will shoot myself with a gun on the spot. Do queer people not look like scary monsters like the government says? Please help.
cooked
2025-06-25 04:22:25 +0000 UTChi astrid, hi mika! i want to start by saying thank you (especially to astrid) for being my entry point to socialism/communism along with one piece. all of my high school history classes demonized communism and painted america as the heroes of the world, but from reading malcolm x’s autobiography and learning about the black panther party i’ve realized that what i was taught was a lie. i’ve been learning about organizing from youtubers but it seems really hard since i live in a very liberal area and im a very socially anxious person so it’s hard for me to make new friends altogether, even disregarding political beliefs. i want to fight for liberation but from what ive heard i should take small steps to “build my revolutionary muscles.” i guess i just want to know what i can do to help the fight in any way. thank you two for changing my worldview in such a positive way :D
millie
2025-06-23 18:09:52 +0000 UTCBiogiorno mis amicos! It is I the resident Italiano back with renewed vigor after finding some more topics to put into rotation. Apologies for the last one about a TV show or something my original script for a knockoff Sleep Deprived show must have gotten in somehow, anyways.... My problem this time around is books, specifically the issue is that I read them too much. When I start a book I get into it and end up taking only 2-3 days in finishing it (Even the bible took about a week to read) because of this behavior I buy more and more, so much that I ran out of space for them. I literally built a bookshelf on my own to house all the books I buy and it still has been overflown with every one I buy! It's to the point I have books lined up in a line with more Infront on them and more laying on top of both lines and this goes on for two more shelves. How do I solve my problem? And because I will invetablity will buy more books in the future which ones do you suggest I read? But don't say 101 Ways to Influence Friends and the Communist Manifesto because both are already in the pile on the third rack. P.S. A clock can tell you the time but never the moment, live for yourself and buy some corn.
Suilverio
2025-06-21 08:01:54 +0000 UTCI’m late but how do you feel when you get bored of money? And how much money do you think it’ll take to get bored? After spending all this money on things you truly want what’s next after that? Is money overrated, and is it wrong to throw all of yourself to try and get it? I know work is important but the day I choose extra overtime over being at home with my family is the day I truly believe I’ll lose my humility. Moneys cool, but is it really worth it?
Toaster Rodriguez
2025-06-20 03:01:23 +0000 UTCHey Mika + Astro, this is probably a stupid problem but I got a crush recently and I have no idea how to tell her that I like her. She likes literally everything I like (including sleep deprived and Alex unknown, she’s literally perfect) but I deadass cannot lose this friendship.
Top tier goon
2025-06-14 22:54:23 +0000 UTCHappy Summer. Hope you guys have been enjoying the sunshine. I've had a problem lately with feeling disassociated with life in general. I feel like I'm just stuck in a loop, getting caught where suddenly a whole month goes by and I feel like I wasn't even there. I work, eat, get like 2 hours of free time, then sleep. Some people have told me that it's just growing up, but I feel as though this is different. I've tried to fill my days with little happy things like watching a show I like or listening to an artist I enjoy but, I end up sitting in bed thinking "Damn, I have to do it all again tomorrow". It gets to me sometimes I feel like there is nothing more in life for me. It's tough but I haven't given up completely. I'm just a bit lost in life right now with me mostly just working and I've never really opened up or reached out to anyone because I'm too nervous that someone will laugh or ignore my problem, but then I saw one of your guys' therapy vids and it made me want to try. Happy Pride and I hope have an amazing month. Thanks. P.S. Sorry if I ramble. I haven't written/typed like this since high school.
LogMan
2025-06-11 17:05:53 +0000 UTCHey, hope you’s have been well :D, I’ve just recently joined the patron and it’s definitely crazy LMAO. I’ve lost all motivation to do stuff and it drives me nuts casue I used to have loads. I’ve tried going on the odd big trip, new exercises and tried new games. Must just be a me issue. All I ask is if you’s maybe have any suggestions of new stuff that I can find that might give me inspiration again. Thanks :D
Undertaker
2025-06-09 04:16:21 +0000 UTCHallloooo :3 So a few months ago I came out to my mom as nonbinary, but she clearly doesn't understand what that means exactly. It seems like she just pushed the idea of it too the side, with the exception of about 2 months ago when she asked if i felt more comfortable with being myself ( that being being male ) and me saying no to it and her saying she would look some stuff up about how she should handle it, but hasn't mentioned it since. While she doesn't seem to understand it, she isn't being hateful about it either. So I was just wondering what the best way to talk to her more about it. Thanks ^w^ ( also sorry if I explained the situation poorly lol )
Charlie_ig
2025-06-04 22:37:21 +0000 UTCnah not the january askers doing follow ups 😭🤍
xochitl ocean
2025-06-03 18:01:35 +0000 UTCI asked yall for advice in January for breaking up with my boyfriend. Months later I've finally done it. I feel so much better, but he's not taking it well at all. I do want to stay friends with him, but I think he needs to reach out to his friends for support instead of me. He keeps messaging me about how down he feels and how he's barely eaten, but I'm firm in my choice to leave. I need him to understand that I don't want to continue, I don't want couples counciling, and I don't want to try again. Just want to be friends. I do really care about him, but he needs an outlet for this that's not me.
Mackenzie
2025-06-02 18:03:09 +0000 UTChappy pride and my favorite season!!! yes astrid, welcome to the summer hive!!! i sent advice back in january about seasonal depression. yall put me on gummies and i haven't looked back especially as my diet has changed for my fitness journey! thank you so much. the sun is my savior. alas i have. a new problem. i have a crush BUT i dont want to be crushing. lmao i sound so juvenile..... so i'm sure its a proximity crush since i spend time with this person over ten hours a day during work and then some on the weekends since a group of us hang out (update: i have friends now). i feel insanely attracted to and an intense CONNECTION to this person. but they're far from my type and most importantly their lifestyle and interests don't align with mine. i love the fantasies i have in my head but they don't match the actual person, never as curious or serious as i want. so along the lines of limerence. i suspect since i haven't had friends in a while my subconscious latched on to a close friend. tell me how the fuck can i get over such a person!!! i get these urges to make a move, get jealous easily too, but i know it'll ruin the friendship and whatever forms won't last and won't be satisfying. and i value the friendship more than any potential romance. what should i do? how can i get over them? i've been struggling with this since march now and i feel like it gets worse each day. i'll make up my mind to move on and then i see them immediately and go back to square one. im full of dramatics! anyway just a lovely end note, thank you both for being YOU. you both are beyond talented and entertaining. astrid especially, your recent music has been a lovely addition to the soundtrack of my life. sending you all an amazing summer and that the sun and heat treat y'all well. sorry for da verbal vomit. 🩵
xochitl ocean
2025-06-02 05:42:17 +0000 UTC
