Sleep Deprived Therapy Time: Episode 32
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Hello aztro and mika, this is the first patreon i’ve put money into and i upgraded my membership just to hear you guys talk because you two vibe so well. It’d mean a lot to hear your thoughts on my situation, and as you say, you aren’t licensed therapists but you still offer advice just as good. I turned 19 in november last year but i feel like i haven’t really moved forward in any meaningful way. I have autism so it’s hard for me to put myself out there but even so i still feel bad because i’m still living with my mum and sometimes my dad and im just really scared that i’m a disappointment to them. I wake up with no particular goal in mind other than making my bed, showering and playing video games. I sometimes break this pattern by going to the gym and working out, or attempting to start a new hobby, but i almost always lose my motivation. I don’t know what i can do to help myself and i just feel like im at my wits end. Anyways, thanks for listening i love you both
kaleb
2025-02-02 09:06:52 +0000 UTChi mika hi aztro hope both of you are doing well during whatever hell schedule u guys are in when you read this. i have a question about marketing myself in a creative field. i’ve been teaching myself how to make beats for about 5 years now and i’ve gotten to a point where i’m confident enough in the quality of my product to share it with the world, but i don’t know how to market myself to get people to listen. it’s like i’m trying to sell some yummy food but nobody’s buying it because the packaging is shitty. how do you two approach branding and promoting yourselves as creatives? thank you! (p.s. i wish music posting was still alive so i could hear u guys could talk about ghais guevara’s debut masterpiece)
Miles D
2025-01-31 15:04:45 +0000 UTCHey, thanks for answering my question Mika n Astrid, a lotta what ya guys said was real solid n I appreciate it. It’ll prolly take some time to get into that mentality but hearin it helped quite a bit I think so thanks a lot 👍👍👍👍 Rn the ways things are rollin be all but slick, I figure that sick Camino I was talkin bout might have to be put on hold cause the financial situation with my mother just sorta got limp with the hog sauce (lame). Right now my mother’s boss be slacking n ain’t paying her so she’s gotta pick up someplace else n she ain’t lettin me help out with the money I’ve saved with my own job, the thing is we are bouta loose the house (dead outa money n stamps, things be rollin) She’s kinda gave up on people as a whole too which is a bummer, says everything’s all tapped out so we gotta pick up and book it on out to some other city which I ain’t sure how to handle. I’m down for it, I mean we gotta do what we gotta do n the place we’d be moving is real sick but I’d be changin schools right in the middle of things n would be ditching my job (not that it’s important, just kinda feel bad bout leaving the place). She says that after establishing a two year residency at the new place we can afford a property there and would be living in an apartment/trailer in the meantime. If this were any other time I wouldn’t care too much but at this point in school I’m gettin set up for some extra jazz n I don’t know if I’ll have to reestablish this elsewhere (worried I won’t have the time for it, my mother said imma need to pull up with a scholarship for college cause we ain’t got the bank for that (hell yeah)). There’s a lotta jazz with that, just not sure what to do, there’s a lot to get acclimated to n I was hoping for any advice on what to do with that (my bad if this ain’t a great place for this kinda question, sorry bout that, thanks for reading though) Also yo, just checked out Alex Unknown and Lilac Boy, both are seriously banging, heck yeah dude (irrelevant but Lawnmower Man is a sick movie, has a monkey with a gun in the beginning) Thanks again, appreciate it 👍👍👍👍
Tony Magnum
2025-01-26 10:24:18 +0000 UTCHello Mika & Aztro, I have two questions, so if you only want to answer one please answer the second, as I've already spoken to my work resources on the first question, but wanted to get an outside opinion. My first question relates to my work environment & motivation. I was raised to always try my best, and there was a lot of pressure, both in extracurriculars and in school to excel. After I graduated college & started working, I hard-assed my first year, and quickly got a promotion, but began suffering from burnout, so I started slacking off. The issue with that is my company doesn't seem to care, and no matter how much I ask for constructive feedback as to what I can improve on, they just keep showering me with praise. Realistically, I understand that this is because I worked way too hard initially, and am used to forcing myself to work ridiculously hard to meet my parents expectations, but I have a hard time reconciling that. I also based a lot of my confidence on my academic success & work ethic, but now neither of those things seem to matter, do you have any advice on overcoming my lack of motivation, and how I should handle what I kind of viewed as the core of my being becoming obsolete? To be blunt I make good money (more than I would at another firm in the same position), and get to work fully remotely, so I don't really want to leave the job as work has always been a means to make money to me. My second question is more for Aztro, although I'd love to hear from Mika as well; I have a weird relationship with gender as I don't feel uncomfortable being a man, but I also don't think I'd mind being viewed as a woman (or more specifically, "pretty", which I associate with women). Initially I thought I might be non-binary, but the lack of dysphoria makes me unsure. I'd like to begin exploring more feminine clothes & make up, but to be blunt I'm scared I won't like what I see. Did you have similar fears around exploring your gender? Do you have any advice for overcoming them? Thank you & sorry this was so long, especially if you answered both questions, Ball is fricken life, Weedle
peter ivan
2025-01-21 22:55:30 +0000 UTCWe meet again Lilac Boy and Alex Unknown on this very particular campsite that only Sleep Deprived members can access. It seems you've even come prepared with even more songs/albums that you can listen to on music platforms such as Spotify and Youtube. But for now you can just play them quietly in the background as I tell you my issue of the month. My issue is that I work a very corporate type of job which I'm at most of the year, I stay on that grind and do my best to keep the bosses happy and my paycheck high. However I recently took a holiday vacation to the old rural town I grew up in which is relatively a lot more poor than most places, with one of it's remaining beauties being it's gorgeous wildlife. But it looks like some big city companies are starting to exacavate into some empty land plots that were filled with flowers and that wild rabbits would frequent as a safe space to apparently build some future apartment complexes. I fear this may snowball into a slow destruction of what makes my hometown who it is and rip it off any identity, but since coming back from vacation I'm conflicted on what to do. Should I trust my instincts and go back to try to rally against the companies invading my home town or should I just mind my business and not do anything? I should mention that my home town does have a hunk that has recently started working for my family. P.S. Know y'all might not have been in the animal kingdom circle to know about the Gold Toads passing but you gotta respect the Rainbow Toad, they hid in plain sight for 87 years.
Suilverio
2025-01-21 03:39:31 +0000 UTChellow mika and aztro, second time writing this because my browser crashed and didnt save ): i remember playing lethal company with my friends, and i completely ruined my expierence by googling things i could have easily figured out in game. it also makes me really sad to see barely anyone talking about lethal anymore which is such a stupid problem to have have there been any games you wish you could replay for the first time to see it in a different way? also have there been any games that fell off that you miss seeing people play im assuming this will never happen but would you ever consider getting schlatt and panda on an episode for a special or something? it would be cool to see into their dark fucked up realitys.... just a peek into their messed up and twisted world....😈😈😈 jokes aside would actually be really interesting to see though an actual problem i have now :) I think i might be transfem. I've tried using she/her pronouns but it made feel very uncomfortable. I think i would be more comfortable with those pronouns if i started actually transitioning by taking estrogen, doing voice training, etc. but i still have doubts about me being transfem, which makes me scared that if i start transitioning i might regret it and not being able to undo it. I've been procrastinating asking people about this because of social anxiety and some family members that seem unsupportive. thank you guys for doing this podcast :) also mika i love your music i think everyone should stream alexunknown, and astro you're so good at drawing i wish to be as good as you some day :D you and sleep deprived are probably some of my favorite millennial content creators
Ross
2025-01-20 18:06:49 +0000 UTCHi Mika! Hi Aztro! I'm currently in college working towards my Education degree and acting career! I've known I wanted to be a teacher for a long time now and I can't wait to make a difference in children's lives! There is a question I wanted to ask you two because I'm currently having trouble with my personal identity and my career. I recently discovered that I am a trans woman (been going by NB for a while now). Also on a slightly off topic note I want to thank you Astrid for helping me discover and accept this. Queer content creators like you really help people like us feel accepted. My concern right now is that if I try to transition and even if I completely pass at some point, will it negativity affect my career? I want to be happy with myself and how I present but I'm scared that school systems, acting opportunities, and especially parents might not be okay with my identity and will make it harder to get work or work and feel safe. The political climate of the world right now has me scared for my future as both a Trans woman and a teacher. At the same time I dont want to be afraid because I want to be that beacon of hope for some kid out there who would feel safe around someone like me. I was bullied growing up because of the color of my skin and my identity and as a teacher I want to try to stop that kind of behavior in children. But idk if transitioning would make me a symbol of hope for queer (or any) kids out there or am I just setting myself up to be a victim of hate like every other point in my life. Do you two have any advice for how I should approach this or have words of encouragement? Thank you for taking the time to read this and I just wanted to let you guys know that Sleep Deprived is my favorite channel to watch and Thank you again for always putting out hilarious and conforming content. Thank you for everything!!
Dee
2025-01-19 18:50:36 +0000 UTCHello Astro and Mika! My name is Noelia and I’ve been a big fan of you guys for a while and first I wanna say thank you as I’ve been listening to your podcast and Sleep deprived videos and has relief the stress of work and etc, im 21 years almost 22 and I have been having a full time work while studying Software Enginnering, I’ve never been the smartes or the most mathematical expert and it’s kinda stressing me as I feel I do not have the enough time to study or to focus on programming, as well I’ve been having doubts on this career, the problem is, I don’t have a plan B, and I feel like I will be a disappointment if I say “hey like I’m going to dropout and don’t know when to return to college” and that feels shitty idk.This feels silly as I do not know if you have drop out, sorry if you have. Anyways, how do you think I can go on about this, should I have a break? Should I continue with the career? What to do pls help. TQM, hello from Costa Rica (you guys should visit Costa Rica btw! )
eiprol
2025-01-18 19:27:27 +0000 UTCHey Mika and Astro, been a sleep deprived fan for a bit now and recently got the $15 upgrade on the Patreon! Why I’m reaching out today is that I recently got engaged with the love of my life and things have been going well but from time to time I feel like I miscommunicate and cause issues when I don’t have the intention to I want to get better at communication but I don’t know where to start. Any tips ? Thank you guys!
Noah Singleton
2025-01-17 20:28:01 +0000 UTCHi Aztro and Mika! Love your content and a fan of all of you since 2020 (yeah, pre-SDP comeback). Crazy it’s been almost 5 years. Also i really appreciate that you do this series. I live in Russia and times since the beginning of the war has really been tough mentally for me. I live in a big city up north, so my life is not directly under a threat, but my heart goes out to all, that are not so lucky at this time. All of my close friends had fled to europe already, but i dont have the money, or the opportunity to do so. I have them online, but it’s not the same for me. Discord got banned last year, YouTube is on its way (VPNs barely work, but they are a pain in the ass). You can imagine it gets pretty lonely, especially when all people here feel alien to me, be it their worldview, their values etc. I just feel out of place all the time. Im in my first year in uni and struggle to connect with my classmates, even though they are kind to me. It just feels, again, very lonely. Any advice on how to battle that feeling? Also hearing Mika speak Russian is especially cool. Thank you. Im sure you made russian part of your audience feel a little less cut out from the rest of the world right now. Fuck Putin.
gorgonzolo
2025-01-16 15:08:31 +0000 UTCoh my god what a paragraph i didn't expect that i was practically free journaling lol feel free to skip around no hard feelings
yeehaw ocean
2025-01-13 08:40:20 +0000 UTCheyy you two! i hope you all have a great february!! valentine's day is my favorite holiday so i'm sending you two hearts and ur favorite snacks. my question is how do you all deal with seasonal depression, if you do deal with it? i've been feeling it particularly hard this winter. i had a great 2024 i accomplished a lot of my personal goals and went on so many adventures #flex! yet around christmastime i started feeling out of sorts. i stopped working out and fasting and got into some bad eating habits. i was going to anyway, but i deleted a lot of my social media cold turkey for reasons so i feel super isolated. the weather hasn't helped with all the snow and cold regarding the feeling of isolation (i'm a tropics lover). i detest driving in the snow and don't leave my apartment besides for work and grocery. i do not have friends but normally i would go out to be around people sans socializing haha. i've tried prioritizing warm and cozy but i didn't find any improvements. any tips? not even a cure, but managing it will do. (the REAL solution is permanently moving to an island but alas...) i'm prepared to wait it out until the spring but ive never felt it like this!!! at this point i have started sniffing the perfumes and body scrubs i would use in the summer to feel something again ugh (i don't use them in the fall/winter im particular about pairing scents with the season, are yall the same?) it's seeping into my motivation and mood. i worked hard to improve my life and am afraid of regressing. i got back into yoga again, so fingers cross i can start to see improvements? thank you for your time should you answer! you both rock yall are super talented and insightful. again, lots of red and pink hearts and have a loving february.
yeehaw ocean
2025-01-13 08:38:40 +0000 UTCHi Mika and astro!! Idk if you remember my question from a month or so ago, but i started nursing school this week! It’s going better than i could have ever imagined. I have many new friends, my professors like me, and i got a 22/25 on my first nursing school quiz. Im feeling so excited and thank you for your amazing advice. Im ready to take the rest of my time in the program by storm 🩷 mika- the new album is amazing!
bryn
2025-01-10 15:28:10 +0000 UTCI just finished reading The Song of Achilles. I don’t know if either of you know this book, but it was absolutely heartbreaking. But it was also so sweet and written so well. I just started reading, and I’m liking it a lot. But never would I thought that I would cry over a book. I finished it last night and when I woke up I immediately thought about it again, like I was thinking about it all day. I literally had tears rolling down my face. Idk what the point of writing this was but I am like blown away by this book and I can’t get it out of my head, it definitely exceeded my expectations. I cannot get over the ending pls help😭😭
Vel
2025-01-09 22:00:36 +0000 UTCHey Mika and Aztro! So I’ve spent years being a major hermit and barely leaving the house. I have a job but I work from home and my job is very solo. I do want to go out more but I don’t have anyone to go out with really, and I still live with my parents in an area where I don’t feel like there’s much to do. My social anxiety holds me back, but I did finally get help and started meds a couple months ago which I think is helping. My main problem is I still don’t have any clue where to start when it comes to going outside and making friends as an adult. I also feel like I’ve forgotten how to be a human being in society at this point. Any tips on what I could do to get myself out of the house, and how do I start a conversation with strangers??? You guys are the best thank you for all you do! Much love <3
abby
2025-01-09 13:36:18 +0000 UTCThank you so much for answering my question/concern! I definitely know love and kindness are things everyone grows themselves. It's not really something that's fully taught, and it's nice to find/hear about people who have felt or feel the way I do. There's this beautiful anime (it's actually one of my favorites) called "Fruits Basket" where the whole anime is essentially about how if you want to be loved you have to be willing to be seen, be known. Honestly I highly recommend it to both of you, there's an amazing psychological aspect to every character, there are also so many amazing quotes in the anime. I forgot why I brought it up-oh wait I remember! Since this is for February I wanted to share something I love with you guys. In honor of Valentine's Day! I hope you are both enjoying your month so far and aren't working yourselves too hard!! Love you both (not parasocially)
Royal
2025-01-09 06:27:38 +0000 UTCdo you guys collect anything? personally i’ve been collecting pokémon cards recently, but i’ve also been collecting figures and records for years
tickle
2025-01-09 02:31:01 +0000 UTCHello Mika and Astro :3 I have a problem that’s been stressing me recently. I’m in my junior year of high school (relevant later) and have had a part time job at in n out for a while now. I’ve always got straight A’s my entire life mostly due to my parents expectations. Junior year has been hard I’m taking 3 APs 1 honors and 2 dual enrollment classes which is a similar workload to my last year but with harder courses naturally. Last semester I got All A’s except for 1 class Ap Calc which I got a C in. I’m shit at Calc honestly I have no clue about it. I study for that class 2x all my other classes out together seriously. my parents blamed this failure on my job and have told me to quit. I love everything about my job so much and I’m only working about 8-10 hours a week. It’s true I could spend that time studying but I think my time is better spent at work. I will have to put in my two weeks soon. Any advise? About quitting or maybe hiring a tutor. Ty :3c
Sadie Long
2025-01-09 01:58:51 +0000 UTCSteven mika
Joseph Solis
2025-01-09 01:48:24 +0000 UTC
