The answer is it doesn’t matter what it looks like but rather how it feels?
Do you feel deeply connected and present in the pleasure?
Or do you find yourself focusing on what it “should look like” based off unrealistic, unhealthy expectations of patriarchal pleasure taught through p//orn and societal pressures?
When you are connecting, when you are consciously flowing with another or others- allows yourself to release any expectations around how you might look, or how you think you should look..
You are beautiful, powerful and sacred, allow that to shine through you and remove all expectations or internal pressures to perform- allow yourself just to be, to feel and to experience the pleasure at its full capacity..
A mirror work technique i love to use is playing in the mirror, how do i look from this angle? What about this moan- what's the matching facial expression?
Get comfortable with how pleasure looks rippling through you, so you may surrender deeper into enjoying it all..