Talking is key. Before my wife and I got married, she was kinda sneaky about it and βaccidentallyβ sent me a text that was talking about the fifty shades of grey books, supposedly meant for her best friend about how she should βtotally read it it was totally hotβ, etc. that got the ball rolling about talking about kinks and stuff weβd be comfortable with and wanted to try. I was a virgin up till our wedding night, so I didnβt really know what felt good or whatever. So after a while of talking about stuff more after we were married we found out some more stuff we could try. I was pretty vanilla too, but found out some stuff I liked that she liked too. Itβs a process, and if heβs anything like I was, he will want to be the best he can for you and please you in any way he can. So just talk with him and maybe ask him if you can go slow and try some small things maybe one at a time or something. Ease him in to the possibilities? He may be nervous at first, especially about hurting you if youβre into some rough stuff (I know I was). But again, communication is key. Slow down and stop safewords are really important, not only for you but for him too. Itβll probably take some getting used to, but if heβs up for it, having safewords could be a relief and I donβt know, comforting. He doesnβt know your limits, and having that boundary could be good for him to be open to stuff. Sorry if this is all TMI and stuff, but thought it could help. Good luck with that awesome guy of yours!
2020-08-22 07:00:39 +0000 UTC
You gotta ease him into it. But once he gets an idea of what you like and is comfortable with it, you better get ready for a wild ass ride.
