Self Feeding Systems ; Self Esteem, Negative Self Talk, Trust In The Unseen.

Self esteem is oftentimes overlooked, as if it has no correlation to manifesting consciously/reprogramming the mind. It is one of the most, if not the most important factor. This might be an uncomfortable read, I ask you to read the entirety of this article knowing that all you get out of this will be beneficial for you in the long run. Self esteem is directly related to the way you treat yourself, and by extension others. It is also directly related to your confidence, confidence is not only the way you show up in the world, it is reflected on how you react to certain things, how you interact with others and how those interactions make your feel internally; confidence is not a performance, contrary to popular belief. The foundation for self esteem has to be stable, not shaky; your thoughts lead your emotions which lead your actions and way of life; a poor mental diet/negative self talk inevitably leads you to experience negativity. Even if we take the law of assumption/manifestation out of the picture for a minute, this still applies; it is factual. (and so are the effects of a mindset change, by the way.) You are not separate from yourself, what we need to truly understand is that we are as human as other people are; and if your morality wouldn't allow you to constantly repeat negative things, give harsh and unfair criticism, express disrespect to another human being out of basic respect, courtesy and fear of causing harm; then you should never have that behaviour when it comes to yourself because the effect is essentially the same, if not worse; you are with yourself 24/7. Lacking self esteem is damaging, you are harassing yourself, distorting your view of yourself and others, making life difficult internally before it is then reflected externally. The equivalent would be to bully someone and then expect them to show up as if everything is okay, be perfect in every way and when they fail, the bullying just gets worse because no matter how mean you are, they cannot seem to do any good; that's what you are essentially doing to yourself, being both the bully and the victim. It's like repeating to someone that they are incapable of doing something 24/7, discouraging them and then being surprised when they give up, I could even argue that the effects are deeper as you know enough about yourself to be your biggest enemy. What we need is objective truth, as a way to establish our position in the world; and I would argue that we all need something to rely on so we can stop being so harsh on ourselves; as we all agree everything happens for a reason, whether you give that responsibility to God, the universe, anything bigger than you, etc; that is up to you, but you should never jump at your own throat when you find yourself in unfavorable circumstances, that makes no logical sense, even when it comes to the law of assumptions. (You were not born with thoughts that oppose your desires, patterns are taught.) We can keep in mind that our own thinking takes the wheel, and that there are things you can explain from your own point of view, such as patterns and deeply rooted beliefs; but they are not innate to the human being. If something has an effect on you, good or bad; it is pushing you in a direction, internally; and that leads to external change in the process. You can assume that there is a wisdom in every little thing that comes up, and leave that up to something outside of you as a way to reach inner peace and tranquility, knowing that you are not to blame, you are not less than, you are not incompetent and your self esteem does not depend on situations when they are clearly out of your control. (ex; unfavorable circumstances due to deeply rooted negative self talk, which is not your fault even though it is “your own” thinking, it is all a product of your environment, you weren't born self hating.) I am not sure why the fact that some things can take a little more time than others is rejected, but change can take time; it is a subjective experience, not everyone is going to change their own mindset overnight, and it is not fair to assume everyone has the luxury to stick to a certain way of thinking when they have only known the opposite. This notion of “getting over it” and just persisting sounds insane without context, the psychology of a human being is not as simple as this makes it sound, even though it is not wrong per say, it is just a rushed way of explaining that you need to make a conscious and internal effort; and that usually takes time, human emotions and feelings are involved along with years of programming for environments that oppose the ideal circumstances. The reason why we need to let that immense sense of responsibility and desire of control go is because in a vulnerable period of transition, it can be overwhelmingly confusing. I like to believe there is a wisdom behind every experience we have, even the smallest for seemingly insignificant ones; good or bad, because there is no good without bad. I am not telling you to just leave it up to whatever, giving up control means stopping the self blaming and never ending scolding that happens whenever things don't go your way, you need to look and understand that there is a bigger picture from the moment you start to affirm that whatever you want is yours, and that not everything is your fault. We are about 8 billion on planet earth, if everyone was to talk to each other like you talk to yourself (inner dialogue), things wouldn't be pretty, and you have to take that into consideration when you address yourself, why do you think positive thinking is so life changing? Oftentimes we point the finger at our environment, our upbringing and our circumstances as enemies of ourselves, yet we turn against ourselves and affirm against ourselves, we are part of the problem in that sense and that is undeniably true. Now, before you use this as an excuse to yell at yourself even more, think about this objectively and try to get out of it the main message; negative thinking and negative self talk hurts you and does nothing else; so what is the alternative? I think it is very easy to reject positive thinking and label it as toxic positivity, even when it doesn't disregard human emotions and feelings, and that is just because we are more comfortable in our misery and change feels like too much work, and so suddenly any form of positivity is corny or toxic; which is a subjective and self destructive opinion used in a way to excuse negative thinking, which is a form of emotional self harm. This can be a difficult conclusion to come to, but that is essentially what is it; I am trying to get you to stop pointing the finger without pointing it at yourself in response, because it is not the solution but a part of the problem. What kind of life does someone who has thoughts that oppose your own have? What does it look life, logically? If you have a mindset that implies that making money is challenging for example, what kind of life does someone who thinks the exact opposite have? The self talk, the inner dialogues differ and so do the circumstances. We are self feeding systems, which sounds confusing but it is the truth; it all starts from within, and it all starts with what you tell yourself is the truth. Creating new neural pathways that align with positive statements you would like to literally experience in this life is a life changing ability, often overlooked and ignored even by those who understand its benefits, that's how strong your mind is; even if you show it objective truth, it will initially reject it if it opposes to what it initially believes to be the truth; which is also why people self sabotage, and why people have subjective opinions they peach as absolutes, universally valid when they are far from reality. Now you can go ahead and pull out the “just persist” card, while taking into consideration how your mind works and why it can be a roller coaster for some to get their desires; I can promise you that you are not doing anything wrong besides being mean to yourself, and that your reactions are only human. I do not believe in randomness, anything that lacks pattern and is completely inexplicable; I believe that even if there are answers we cannot reach or understand immediately, there are answers. The inexplicable/misunderstood is part of a process you cannot comprehend, and trying to control the entire process can allow more harm than good when it comes to your inner dialogue, such as doubts, confusion and self blame. Whether you can see it (identify internal patterns, train for thoughts etc) or not, you are being pushed and pulled in ways you cannot comprehend, staying on track and having a positive mindset can only be beneficial and guarantee you to experience your desires, and enjoy the present, and even see the wisdom and truths of the concept of it in past, positive experiences. This is not blind faith in the unseen, it is having an understanding of how your desires can come to unfold in the first place, if all your attention is on the “how, when”, that is all you will experience; a never enduing waiting room.