Searching for a Mea Culpa

This morning I posted a photo set and spoke honestly about a new model that I didn’t have a great experience shooting with. I still stand by what I wrote, but the model somehow quickly was sent a screen capture of what I wrote and was deeply offended by my comments, so I deleted the entire post straight away.

I always want to be honest on my Patreon, viewing it like an online diary for the most loyal and dedicated fans of my work. But clearly, since my analytics says that less than ten people read the post, I have an infiltrator in my midst, and that’s deeply disappointing.

I never share anything hoping to be mean-spirited or harmful, and it affects me deeply when my honest opinions do turn out to be hurtful. For this, I deeply apologize. But also, since I don’t know which of my sponsors here are improperly screen-capturing and sharing my posts, I feel the need to be much more guarded in the future. I could message and single out the specific accounts that I think were the culprits, but I don’t think that would solve anything because the offender could just start a new account with another fictitious name and start the cycle again. So maybe from now on I shouldn’t be so direct and honest with my opinions.

Again, I feel deeply troubled for offending a young woman who clearly doesn’t understand the complexities of the modeling world and the kind of images I prefer to take. But I also know that no amount of explanation will ever make her feel better about this situation, and I will for sure be troubled about this for days and weeks to come. One of the main joys I get from working with models is being able to steer them in the right direction, befriend them, maybe boost their egos a bit, and help them in any way I can in their careers. And I feel horrible that I’ve sent negativity into the world, especially her world.

So please, if you feel the need to call me out on something, if you think I’m wrong or being hurtful about someone you know, feel free to reach out and message me directly. I have nothing to hide here, but I also don’t want my words to be read by those who will be hurt by them.

Thoughts on this topic? Opinions? Message me. Thanks.