The Seven Steps to Seeding a Date

1. Field research: Find a few place you'd enjoy taking a date:

This happens before you go out to meet women. After all, if you want to take a woman on a date, you should know a cool place to check out with her. The more you know about what's happening in your city –from art festivals, to cooking classes or wine tastings – the more social, hip and worldly you will appear. Do your research, then get out there and explore.

Exploration can be its own fun adventure. Bring friends; the side effect is that if you were the kind of person that didn’t get out much, your friends will begin to see you also in a new light. The places can be anywhere from a cocktail lounge to a park that you think you’d enjoy visiting.

In the end, what’s going to matter is that the place has special meaning to you. In other words, it has to reflect some part of your identity. After a night of exploration, ask yourself a few questions:

• What did I like about the place I visited?

• Are there any stories I can tell about the place itself?

• Was there anything about the place that triggered a memory or sparked an idea?

The answers to these questions will help you when you start recommending locations and setting up dates.

2. Plant the Seed by Recommending a Location:

Once you've met a woman you're interested in going out with, give them a recommendation to one of the places you'd like, but here's the catch: Don't invite her to go there with you. All I want you to do is recommend the place, and I want you to do it early on in the conversation. Make sure you really sell it: 1) tell her what's special about this venue, and 2) what the place means to you, what you love about it, and why she needs to check it out.

3. Wait to Invite:

After you recommend the place, just keep talking. Tell stories, be entertaining, flirt, tease – just keep the conversation going.

4. Invite Her:

So, you've recommended a great place without inviting her. Then you kept the conversation going, being as conversationally attractive as you could. If she's giving you signs of comfort and interest, it's time to invite her out. The key to setting up the date is to be specific: pick a date and place. Say something like this, "Hey, this Thursday I'm headed over to that [fill in the blanks with what you had recommended earlier] I was telling you about, you should come along. I think you'd really enjoy it."

5. Agree or Disagree:

At this point, she's going to do one of three things:

a. She can reject your proposal by saying something like, "I'm busy" or "I'm working that night". If this happens, then she's not into you, and you're going to have to go back and work on being more conversationally attractive.

b. She’ll accept by saying something like, "Sure" or "Yeah, that sounds great". If this happens, move on to step 6.

c. She'll reschedule by saying something like, "I'm working that night, but I'm free Friday." This is a good thing – people will go out of their way to hang out with people they're interested in, and you've just proven to yourself that you're interesting to her. The only problem that pops up here is that she might pick a day that you're not free. Don't worry about it; just work it out to find a day that you're both available.

6. Exchanging Numbers:

Now that she's agreed to go on a date with you, and you have the date and place picked say, "Great, lets exchange information, and I'll text you the night before with the details." Give her your number and get hers.

7. Stick Around:

Once she gives you her number, don't just leave. You don't want it to feel like the whole reason you were there was to get her phone number. Hang out, keep the conversation going, leave when it comes to a natural end, and contact her like you said you would in the previous step.

8. Text her when you said you would

The next step is pretty simple. If you were going to text her the night before your planned date with the details then, do exactly that.

The text should be simple, it should have the address and the information about how you’re getting there. For example:

· "Tomorrow night, here’s the address: [name of place, address]. I’ll meet you there around at 8pm."

· "Tomorrow afternoon, here’s the address: [name of place, address]. We’ll meet at my place and carpool over."

· "Tomorrow afternoon, here’s the address: [name of place, address]. The closest subway stop is West 4th street."

And that's it!