Adventure Dating

RULE #1: Present Your Best Authentic Identity

Whatever venue you take your date should be a place that allows you to express your identity. In other words, the location you pick should allow you to easily bring up identity stories and share yourself.

RULE #2: Explore Multiple Venues

The more places you visit with a person the longer they'll feel they knew you, because you shared more experiences together. If you go boating and afterwards to a cooking class, she will learn more about you than if you just go for dinner. Why? Because each environment comes with different sights and sounds, it generates new types of conversations, it suggests different things about your individual qualities, and at the end of the day you'll learn more about a person than you possibly could in just one place.

RULE #3: Ask Interesting Questions

You need to learn about each other, which means you shouldn't be the only one talking. Be sure that you're finding out what you can about the woman you are interested in. The questions should be relevant to the conversation. If she's talking about her job, then think of questions that will reveal something about her. You're looking to answer questions like these:

• Why does she do what she does?

• How does she feel about different aspects of her life?

• What kinds of things does she want to do in her life?

• What has she accomplished in her life, and how does she feel about those accomplishments?

• What stories does she have to tell?

RULE #4: Simplify Logistics

Before the date, always make a plan for where you're going and how you're getting there. Send the name and address of the location the night before the date via email or text message. If you're planning on going from venue to venue, then spend some time planning out how you're going to get to each place. Being stuck at a venue, standing outside trying to figure out how you're planning to get somewhere can be a real mood killer. Also, dependent on the place you might want to let her know what she should wear. She'll appreciate it if she is not going horseback riding in a cocktail dress.

RULE #5: Always Be Flexible

Sometimes you'll end up somewhere that the woman doesn’t enjoy. That's fine. Just be ready to move on and have a backup plan if this happens. That is another reason why I suggest going to multiple venues on your date. If they don't like the place, you can easily move on and keep the vibe of the date positive.