Strap Pros

No, it’s not a post about being a pro with the strap (heh, but I could write one if you want!) THIS is a post about all of the pros of fucking a strap on.

This post was inspired by a conversation I had with Max when we first started dating. She’d heard a lot of straight patriarchal propaganda about how there’s nothing like “the real thing”, and knowing I was historically bisexual she felt a bit insecure that strap-on sex might not be as satisfying for me. When I started sharing some of the reasons I love strap-on sex she was surprised, she’d never heard these positives. So I wanted to share them here too in case anyone else needed some strap confidence! (*Please note, saying positive things about a dildo does not imply that a penis or bio-dick is bad. Thank you for understanding this nuance.*)

• The biggest pro is they’re reliable! They’re always ready to go. Unlike bio-dicks, which have an emotional and conditions-based component, dildos are always hard and ready. There’s no concerns about losing an erection, getting hard, staying hard, losing an erection after orgasm, refractory period, soreness after too much friction; it’s just hard!
• You can select the precise size and shape that you desire for the specific interaction. You can even switch up during! Variety! This would mean more people if you were using bio-dicks, and scheduling group sex is DIFFICULT.
• When you’re getting fucked and rubbing your clit at the same time you don’t have to be concerned about your nails mortally wounding the strap. (This has been a huge plus for me personally!) *insert “sorry to that man” gif*
• Women experience less UTI’s and STI’s with a (well cleaned) strap vs penises connected to men. There’s also ZERO risk of pregnancy with a strap, which is nice if you’re anxious about that sort of thing.
• You can bend those fuckers any way you like! You can bounce on them aggressively without worrying about injuring them. Reverse cowgirl to your hearts content, that curve can keep bending.
• With dual-density models you get a really nice heft to them. Glass models even more-so. There’s a lot of variety available with texture and weight, a lot of different sensations.
• Doing certain sex acts in spite of there being no direct tactile benefit to the strap-wearer is somehow even hotter. For example, I enjoy choking on a strap just for the love of the game.
• You can BITE IT!

It’s also good to note that even with partners who have their very own (lovely!) penis we’ve relied on dildos on occasion for all of the reasons listed above.

Three cheers for the strap!

Unecessary but related story; When I was a teenager two guys who sat beside me in Grade 11 math worked for half the class on a very intricate drawing. They kept giggling and covering the page so I couldn’t see. Finally they passed me their work of art and it was me, standing in front of a tall shelf that featured dozens of very comically shaped dildos. The title in big bubble letters, Heart’s House of Dildo’s, was prophetic really. I squealed at the drawing, aghast, and then I got kicked out of class for being disruptive because my teacher was a misogynist. I was too embrassed to tell the principal why I yelped in class, but I really wish I’d kept the stupid drawing. Do you know how many times I’ve wondered how those teenaged boys knew more about my future and sexuality than I did? They really did see the vision.

LET ME KNOW IF I MISSED ANY OTHER STRAP “PROS”… I WANT THIS LIST TO BE COMPREHENSIVE. 😘❤️