Cancer

*gives a great big hug* I know what it's like. Know that we're all here for you, something like this is hard to get through. Take the time you need to grieve.

Kayin Sparkle Twilight Dreemurr

Im so sorry :(

sorry to hear that dude, take your time to process all this.

Yetila

I'm sorry to hear that man, cancer's a bitch and no-one deserves it, it's a nightmare for the one who has it and twice as much for those that have to live on after witnessing what it does. My advice (i apologize if this sounds harsh, but it's the truth, not just a bunch of platitudes): Firstly, it may sound cold, but say your goodbyes to your dad and limit your contact with him (especially if he's not cognizant enough to know you're there) the resulting trauma of watching someone you know and cared about in a very rapid mental/physical decline is more traumatic than i can even say, it's more important to be there to support the rest of your family through this ordeal. Also, it feels terrible being powerless to do anything but there's not much you can do, and you don't get over it, it changes you and while you'll eventually learn to live with your feelings, it takes time. Also don't let anyone tell you what is a "reasonable" amount of time to be effected by all this, everyone's different, your real friends will know that, respect you and be there for you when you need them. Listen to yourself, do what you need to do to stay safe and heal, be open with those that are close to you and take your time, many have had to go down this road and it's not easy but you've got people in your life that care about you, and they'll help you get through this.

My condolences. This will make things very dark and difficult for you for a long while. Be prepared for some massive emotional burdens.

Papanomics

That sucks to hear man, only thing I can really say is that I hope you keep strong despite this, both you and your family.

DaBouncer

Lost my mother to leukemia a couple of years ago. It's the worst thing in the world, for everyone involved. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Do what you need to do, man. Vent on here if you want, or even take some time to yourself if you need to. It's a lot to take and it's very hard to take it. We understand.

Zay Bee

Spend your time with him, tell him to be happy and have faith in god and heaven! Don't show him your sadness, it will bring him down!

Cancer is by far the most shittiest thing I have ever dealt with, and I know it's hard. I feel you man. My mother and older brother got diagnosed with cancer within 2 months of each other. My mother survived. My brother did not. Sitting at his bed side during his final hours and watching his breaths get farther and farther apart till they stopped is easily the worst moment of my life. Still though, I found it in me to keep my chin up and go forward in the years that have followed it. I understand your pain and am completely understand it, so take as much time to do what you need to do as you please. However, even if your father is deteriorating I would recommend you go see him and spend time with him. Just because he may not be able to speak or function very well at all does not mean he may not recognize you, even if he can't outwardly show it anymore. Even if the possibility is small, I think you should let him see you in his final days. It might be hard, but in the days that follow I promise you that you won't regret, and in fact will make you feel better.

Jondude

My Grandmother on my mother's side of the family had a very long battle with cancer, having it removed and the doctors telling her it went into remission only for it to come back a couple years later stronger and harder. Needless to say she didn't make it, she was a tough stubborn kind old woman and loved by many so I can honestly say I know some small semblance of your pain. Cancer sucks, it takes people that don't deserve to die before their time... Take time to vent however you need, and know that there's a lot of people here to support you, at least in any small way a little blurb of text can help you, which I know probably isn't much in the grand scheme of things. Each person grieves differently, and for a different amount of time, you've survived some crazy shit so I'm certain you'll bounce back twice as hard from this too, patiently anticipating your next game release and for what it counts you and your family are in my thoughts, take care Anon.

Renmaru

Christ almighty i'm sorry that something this shitty is happening to somebody as good as you

blep

Wa are with you

I'm sorry for you lose man, I've lost both my grandfathers to cancer too so I understand, If not to the level you are going through. Take your time, being with your remaining family and you will all get through it together.

Dude, I support you! With each of us this can happen. Nobody is immune from this. It just needs to be accepted! The main thing to hold on! (ง ͠° ͟ل͜ ͡°)ง

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Take your time to grieve and vent. Deaths in the family are always shit to go through.

M B

Hang in there man. I'm not going to pretend I know what you're going through, but I hope you and your family will be alright. I guess I'd also say that while he may not be entirely himself right now, do what you can to spend some time with him. I know that will be extremely hard, given his condition. But I think it would be good for you, and for your mom, and for him. Thoughts and prayers going out to you, and do what you have to and take what time you need to make it through this.

Meh

It's never easy to lose those closest to us, especially to something as faceless and unfeeling as cancer. Take the time you need to work through this and know that our hearts go out to you and you will be in our thoughts.

Matthew R Vaccaro

I've lost my father to cancer when I was 18. I miss him so much but life has to go on. Wishing you all the strength in the world for this difficult time.

Akaira

I wish you all the best and stay strong man. Right now family is the most important thing.

Nathan

I'm so glad your mom was able to make it at least this far through her fight, that takes a lot of strength. I pray for her that it doesn't come back. Deep thinking is about all I've done since I got the news, but I'll keep it going until I've figured out what I should do. Thank you.

Anon42

Thank you. And don't worry, I've got no plans for stopping. All sorts of people go through all sorts of traumatic things in their lives, I'm not some special snowflake that has the luxury of giving up because shit's hard.. just might take me a while to figure out which way is forward again

Anon42

Weep when you can, regret what you must, but please keep going. And fuck cancer and the haters.

Zuripai Sama

My mom had tit cancer, shes in remission, in the words of wade wilson "cancer is a shitshow" and im sorry its one you have to go see, do some deep thinking and decide if you want to go see him or remember him as you do. Whatever you decide, i hope its not going to wreck you too bad.

jin

I appreciate the news was shared. No reason to do it and you're right that there's not much we can say. Especially about trying to bottle up feelings. That shit didn't work for me ... I thought I could prepare myself ahead of time and mourn a dying grandfather because I thought it would help ease the pain. The day it happened, I felt less stressed than I should have; maybe I took it too well. A month later, I lost my mind in public when the emotions hit me like a truck. I can only hope the same that the remaining time is spent with family.

Robert-Alexandru Deleanu

haha yeah losing one of the most important people in your life is super convenient, you want the fucking death certificate after he's gone?

Anon42

Well, that's convenient. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Lukarreon

I do not know what to tell you mate that will make better, or even help get to go on with your life. Personally I have to say do whatever you need to do let that shit out and not bottle it up mate that doesn't help you now or in the long run trust me on that. you have my sympathy and hopefully they can make the rest of his days comfortable.

JudgementsKiss

I'm sorry to hear that. I can't really offer anything but my sympathy but, I'm sorry you and your family are going through all that. There's an e-hug waiting here if you need one.