What compliments do you like to get?
Added 2020-08-13 13:24:05 +0000 UTCHey all! I'm working on planning the next few months of Myth-Alignments, and I need some input. I like to do these in a schedule: every other week, they're comfort-themed, and in the in-between weeks, they're "I love this about you"-themed. It's not too tough to come up with things to offer comfort for, but I'm curious about the other: What things about yourself would you like a partner to appreciate about you? Do you prefer to be told that someone loves an aspect of your personality? A physical attribute? An interest of yours?
How do you most enjoy being appreciated? Please vote and then suggest whatever you like specifically in the comments. And hey, I know it can be hard to think of things about yourself that you are happy with, but please DON'T comment with "there's nothing about me that deserves compliments." Because there is. You're awesome. And I'd like to be sure you are appreciated for what you're the most proud of or what makes you the happiest to hear. :)
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I prefer to be appreciated for what I have done. Not an immutable trait or some behavior that I should be displaying anyway. Restoring a car, making a dress, writing a book, painting a landscape, cooking a holiday meal, searching for the first car your dad owned and after 10 years of dead ends finally standing in front of it. These are worthy of recognition.
Jeff Nielsen
2020-08-13 20:30:39 +0000 UTCI prefer compliments on personality traits because for one, I have a certain degree of power over that; I try to strengthen the parts about my personality and character, that I feel are 'good' and beneficial, and I can choose to p.ex. be kind to service industry workers etc.; On the other hand, I don't have total control over my character. It makes me who I am. I can change my style of clothing or my hairstyle etc. and even looks to a degree, but my personality comes with me and makes me /me/. So if someone compliments how I am, that makes me feel personally seen. Plus, what vodyinoy said: it feels good to hear how the way I am helps someone or how they enjoy it, makes me feel valuable and valid.
Kas
2020-08-13 18:55:46 +0000 UTCCompliments of any kind are nice, of course, but compliments about what makes me "me" always seem to light up the day and carry more long-term weight. The ones that really get me are the "you do :this: so well and it helps me :insert a way it helps: and I appreciate it." That'll brighten the whole week!
Vodyinoi
2020-08-13 13:56:27 +0000 UTC
