His Man - Episode 7 Reaction
Added 2022-09-19 17:04:50 +0000 UTCThis turned into a conversational RV, so make sure to leave your experiences and thoughts down below!
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I resonated so much with Jeong-Ho this episode. I had a similar experience with my dad when I came out. He actually blamed my mom and was so upset about it that he divorced her. So on top of all the other shitty feelings I had surrounding my situation I also had this guilt of ruining their marriage (I've since worked past feeling responsible for his decision). On a happier note, one of his daughters with his new wife turned out to be a lesbian 💁🏽♂️
Chris B.
2024-01-08 02:44:17 +0000 UTCThis episode had me in my feels so much. I was looking forward to your reaction to it so much because i knew you would have a lot to say. Literally everything you said was something i had thought.Personally, being a gay man for me has always been really difficult because I'm also trans* and femme. When I came out as a transman I chose to not transition physically so my feminine and masculine duality makes most people believe that i'm a lesbian lol It's also such a big deal between cultures as you stated. We act like humanity has come so far but...nah. We pretend progress is happening but we are back stepping so hard
Kasey Emig
2022-09-22 03:01:45 +0000 UTCi'm a bi girl and (semi) closeted. only a few people know, and they're all friends. i don't think i could ever come out to my parents. we're very close, but they're religious and not very accepting of the community. i fear it would ruin my relationship with them. i know who i am and nothing and no one is going to tell me otherwise, but i prefer to keep it private from most people. everyone i've told has been very supporting
katsu ne
2022-09-21 20:34:49 +0000 UTCThis episode made me cry. I don't have any experience with coming out since I'm straight but I can't imagine feeling like this especially from your family which is supposed to be your biggest support system. You shouldn't have to feel guilty about it and carry that with you for so long. I would never do this to my kids if I have any in the future.
Jasmine
2022-09-20 20:15:12 +0000 UTCWeirdly enough, your reactions also feel that way for me. With you it feels like I'm watching with a friend with whom I can say whatever crosses my mind, like thirsting over a hot boy who took his shirt off hahaha. When watching with stuff with straight friends (guys and girls tbh) it still feels a little uncomfortable to me to give loud reactions to things like that. So really, thanks javi, for letting us have a moment where we can be ourselves with your reactions.
Manuel Cabrera
2022-09-20 06:35:15 +0000 UTCI am straight so i have no coming out experience to share but gay people are very close to my heart. Many of my bffs are gay and this episode had me bawling. I told myself I will never ever make my children feel this way. My heart is breaking for each and every gay person who has to go through this 😭💔
LG
2022-09-20 06:23:11 +0000 UTCOK, it is my turn. I came out first to my friends at college, it went very well, all of them were supportive. Well, some cliché here, my female friends were even happy to have a gay friend... yes...cliché I said. Within my family, I was afraid of my father reaction but anyhow, I came out directly. I am gay, I love guy. Strangely, my mother started crying, she hoped for a traditionnal way of life (wife, house, children, dog, you name it...) so her hopes were shattered. My father was curious, he asked questions. What do you mean when you love a man ? It is like when you love a movie or your sister or anything else... And it was a really strange moment in my life. The strangest, the wierdest. My father, which I feared, was in fact more open minded. Yes, the questions seemed ridiculous but I understood them, I understood the meaning of them. My sister was in shock because I did not tell her first. Being gay was OK but I was suppose to tell her first and she was mad because she was no the first to know... well.. a sister. I felt like, when I came out of one closet, my mother simply put me in another one. The door was open but a closet is still a closet. We never spoke about it after my coming out. And it was painful because I needed support at that moment. My father was not the dominat figure of my family, the mother was like the matriarch, so the support of my father felt somewhat weak without the approval of my mother. Feeling somewhat abandonned, some years later, I left France to Canada, were i now lived since 22 years. It was the distance who brings us together again. Because there was an ocean between us, our relation became closer. I do now share my life with my husband. 19 years together. Talk about commitment. My mother passed away some months ago but she totally accepted the fact her son was gay. My boyfriend worked as a fashion designer years ago, he created mantle, handbag, coat for my mother, that somewhat won her heart... Childish ? Materialistic ? superficial ? I don't care as long we never broke apart (at least from the heart point of view cause to be happy I still needed 5000 km of distance to be myself).
Cédric Bardoux
2022-09-20 06:06:03 +0000 UTCAww, Stéphane 😭 I’m so sorry. It’s hard hearing stories like this but there’s comfort in knowing you chose yourself. A chosen family is just as important. 💛
ReactionsByJavi
2022-09-20 05:19:02 +0000 UTCIt’s interesting. I feel similarly. I’ve been close to having close friends like that but time made us drift apart. I think that’s one of the reasons making reactions and sharing that with everyone kind of fulfills that void for me. 🥹
ReactionsByJavi
2022-09-20 05:16:21 +0000 UTCI get that. My family is also from the Caribbean and quite religious, so there’s always been that pressure and fear. I’m glad your sister was at least accepted by your mother and she had that support. ☺️
ReactionsByJavi
2022-09-20 05:14:17 +0000 UTChum I wondered for several hours if I was going to tell my story! I made my coming out in several parts! I first did it for the first time at the age of 15 with my 5 friends at the time, it went well, then with my mother and sisters at the age of 18 once again it went pretty well! Finally at 20 years old on my birthday I decided to tell my father because I was tired of lying when he asked me about a girlfriend! you have to put things in their context, I am the first boy in the family to bear the name at the time I was the only one, I lived in a village of 152 inhabitants where everyone knew each other, the reaction of my father was violent between insult and a memorable slap just before going to get his shotgun to kick me out! you also have to say to yourself that this happened 26 years ago, the result of all this is that today I no longer see my family by choice I always wish them their birthdays, Christmas and the New Year because I am like that!
simplement stéphane
2022-09-20 02:16:17 +0000 UTCDating aside, it was really heartwarming to see them all just hang out as a group and just kinda hang as friends, be vulnerable with each other, joke around. That's something I feel I still lack in my life, friends that I can really relate to or them relate to me because those are just topics that we don't share so we could never fully understand each other. It's something I hope to have someday.
Manuel Cabrera
2022-09-19 22:54:59 +0000 UTCi need ep 8 immediately lmaoo, but in all seriousness, I am a straight girl so i never had to come out but my older sister is lesbian and came out to my mom way before she came out to me bc we have a big age gap so I was like a toddler when she came out but long story short I am from a Caribbean household (mom is Trinidadian and dad is Jamaican) and in the Caribbean being gay is VERY shunned and my father especially i feel like would have been homophobic so my sister only came out to my mom when she was in college but she knew since high school and my mom was verrry accepting she has always let us do what we want as long as we did well in school tbh but my sister never actually came out to our father bc he passed away when she was in hs i was like 3. another side note, Jonghyun is actually my favorite since ep 1 and im rooting for his blossoming love with Changmin but he got a lot of competition
curly.chey
2022-09-19 19:05:28 +0000 UTC
