AITA: for Despising my Mentally Handicapped Sister? (ft. Dante Basco)

Dante is simping HARD xD

To finish, I’ve never resented my brother or my parents but my boyfriends said it’s unfair that my parents push responsibility onto me. But I also never felt all the attention went to my brother. Being with him definitely taught me patience and that others are different but deep down they are like everyone else and I’m grateful for that. I’m the older sister to my baby brother, who is a little different but I love him with my whole heart.

I’m in the same situation. My brother is docile but still non verbal and needs attention here and there. I’ve taken care of my brother since I was 5 and could understand my brother is different but I still love him and treat him will. Sibling love, you know. I’m 25 now and I’m still in charge of all my brothers governments and school paperwork because my parents state that they “don’t understand” and say “you’re the big sister and can speak/ read English, you do it” it’s mentality draining I broke down this year. My brother had online classes and I had to drive 20 mins to my parents house every school day back and forth to help him from 8am-2pm. Again because he is my brother and my parents to understand how online works. He’s my brother not my child. I cried for days and my mom overreacted and push the blame onto me. “Why can’t you do this little thing for your brother” IVE BEEN DOING EVERYTHING FOR HIM FOR 20 YEARS OF HIS LIFE!! Things are better now he’s graduated and I can take a break finally 😫

did she learn her english in turkey?

I get her and she is not the asshole imo. Her parents are the assholes looking at the recent subreddit updates.

In case anyone wants more info, the OP did an update and apparently, the younger sibling was supposed to have a care taker as she was deemed “a danger to herself and others” and her father was borrowing money from family to pay for the caretaker they never hired and did other shady things. Apparently the rest of the family didn’t know what was going on and the OP is now living with their grandpa and has the support of the rest of the extended family. If you go to the subreddit and sort by top posts of all time, the update is one of the first ones

Jiminie

I can't really fault the parents either. People who have children don't know what toll it can have if the child is born with a disability. I'm sure the parents are having a tough time as well. However, if their child is telling them how hard all of this is on them, they need to see that and change how they are going about things. Disregarding their child's feelings is fucked up. Parents need to know that their children have valid thoughts and feelings because if they don't, it could lead to a lot of bitterness.

Whitney Williams

Hans Aspergers worked with the nazis, which is why we don't really use that term anymore. Anthony Padilla did an interesting video with people with autism. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zatA90699qs

2oV

Having autistic family members is tough. It definitely takes its toll on the immediate and extended family. You just have to have compassion and patience for everyone involved.