Seriously though....I need to stop
Added 2024-01-29 21:29:51 +0000 UTCSorting through my actions yesterday, I now realize that all of this nonsense has to stop. I’ve always wanted this Patreon to be a stress free, fun place for everyone. This past year it has slowly devolved into my own personal venting space. Honestly, I have spent the last year + in complete anger. I was told by everyone to keep quiet, don’t pay attention to it, don’t give them what they’re looking for. That was probably good advice. For the past year, I've had two people on a constant campaign to ruin my reputation and try and break my soul. After a year of this, I finally exploded. My self control was soaked in wine and after reading Rick’s response to breaking our agreement, I exploded in a fit of pure rage. I’ve not only embarrassed myself but I let a lot of you down. I was just watching yesterday’s “revenge” livestream and talk about a moment of darkness. I’m mortified. I ask everyone to please leave Rick and Steph alone. I never meant things to get this out of hand. I wanted to hurt them and I did. There’s another side of revenge and that’s remorse. I feel terrible. When you sink to their level you learn what negativity and sickness feels like. I’ve learned my lesson.
I promise that this Patreon won’t be my personal therapy space anymore. I have a therapist. I need to talk to her. I also promise not to bring up nonsense and get back to the basics. Livestreams, videos, posts, etc. I don’t want anymore ripples. I’ve learned my lesson. I know that Ive been all over the place today. One minute I’m happy next minute I’m regretful. I’m starting to feel more regretful than anything at the moment. I truly owe all of you an apology.
Here’s to better things ahead. Time to open the shades and make this space fun again. Thank you all very much.
-Dan
Comments
We all lose it when stuff gets unbearable. You are a great, caring guy who gives this series 110%. None of us hold this as a negative deal. U r human, people can get under ur skin, never give them that power. U r loved by many,,carry onward sweet friend!
debbi furches
2024-02-21 11:33:14 +0000 UTCIn my experience there seems to be two types of people. There are those who have a tough exterior, who are more upfront and may rub people the wrong way with their bluntness, but they are honest and they have hearts of gold. Then there are those who seem like nice people on the exterior, but they are passive aggressive and deep down have hidden agendas.
EarlWax
2024-02-04 01:40:46 +0000 UTCIt is behind us now. Come back to us soon, we're waiting for your truck to pick us up. 😆
Renee
2024-01-31 21:35:06 +0000 UTCI totally understand you having to vent out your frustrations, after all that's transpired. We support you in whatever you have to do, to get this dealt with, and put behind you. We live and we learn, every day of our lives. Hoping you have a terrific 2024 Dan! 💓
Julie Ward
2024-01-31 18:53:26 +0000 UTCStereotypes I guess 😂
Deanna
2024-01-30 22:30:54 +0000 UTCWe are all heart. It’s unbearable. Hahaha
Allen Taylor
2024-01-30 22:22:29 +0000 UTCYes your food does seem to be high in everything by nutrition. Only kidding I've seen plenty of good US culinary stuff. We're pretty emotionally repressed here, I wonder what country has a happy medium. Iceland is a good contender ⭐
Deanna
2024-01-30 21:01:11 +0000 UTCWe have that too, but’s that’s because of the food.
Allen Taylor
2024-01-30 20:02:21 +0000 UTCI must say this is quite a culture shock 😲 Is it unique to the USA dealing with fraught issues and maniacs in such an emotionally charged social media way? Over here we just get raised blood pressure and Irritable bowel syndrome 😂🗽
Deanna
2024-01-30 11:26:30 +0000 UTCDan, love you. And the fact that you keep it real endears you even more. ❤️
Tee Vee
2024-01-30 10:30:26 +0000 UTCThe King in Yellow, high in the attic of a mouldering, abandoned mansion. A glint in the eye and a voice … “welcome to a new episode of creeps and monsters”
Matthew Wade
2024-01-30 09:34:17 +0000 UTCHonestly Dan, they don’t deserve any of your head space.
Rhiannon
2024-01-30 07:03:01 +0000 UTCYes, your wine-soaked video was upsetting to me. I hated to see you sinking to the level of your foes. (Not that I don’t understand your righteous anger. Esp considering threats made to your totally innocent family, and the shit thrown at good friends.) But here’s the big difference between you and those 2 nightmares — you are feeling regret & embarrassment. Your hatred is NOT all-consuming. You are very much human. You are capable of introspection and moving on in a positive direction in peace and with grace.
XineMarieMcD
2024-01-30 04:28:52 +0000 UTCDon’t be so hard on yourself Dan. No one’s perfect and we all have our moments. We live and learn. I really hope they both leave you alone now. Take care Dan and don’t feel bad ❤️
Lily Losh
2024-01-30 03:20:57 +0000 UTCOr Jacob the carpet bagger … there was one crazy fan who kept stalking him….
Mark Pompeo
2024-01-30 03:05:40 +0000 UTCDan, we’re here for you and we love you. I think it’s more than fine to open up to a community who DEEPLY cares about you. utilize your therapist, but you don’t have to hold back for our sake on here. with that said, I won’t lie and say I wasn’t troubled by the call for hate/antagonism towards those two lowlifes. the world is ugly enough right now. I don’t blame you for your outburst after all that they’ve put you through, but I really am glad to see that you have gained this perspective. we’re here for you, Dan! keep doing you. love you 💜
Kristen
2024-01-30 02:50:57 +0000 UTCWhen’s the next podcast?
Daniel Visintin
2024-01-30 01:35:35 +0000 UTCYep, time to move on. Just forget this shit, this is going to be a good year.
Justin Stoermer (djeurosham)
2024-01-30 01:21:10 +0000 UTCDan, you‘ve been doing this again and again for years now. It’s Dan’s "Rage & Delete" routine, and I think it‘s perfectly OK. Whatever you need to go through to be happy! IMO your reaction yesterday was more than justified, and you don‘t have to apologise for anything. I also don’t think you have to delete live streams, videos, messages, etc (but that’s 100% your decision). If things piss you off, then just vent and let people feel your frustration. Those two arseheads ruined the better part of 2023 for you, and they are responsible for you losing money and supporters. Fuck them, esp SB! That said, I wish you a calm, productive, and happy 2024 without any need to vent in the first place. 👍
RieSLING (Roland)
2024-01-30 01:09:51 +0000 UTCI think most of us would've felt and acted in a similar way if any of this bullcrap happened to us. But it's true what many say: revenge only makes matters worse. Anger is a quick an easy route to take. Rising above that state and just letting it all run off you is a lot harder, but definitely the more noble approach. Now, of course I don't know anything about what fields of psychology your therapist practices, but when it comes to the way you act, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy would probably be very beneficial, especially in this case. CBT might be just what you need. It sure has helped me a lot.
SwedishChef1977
2024-01-30 01:05:45 +0000 UTCIs there a discord or anywhere patrons chat about this sort of thing? I missed the drama this weekend and now I have no idea what's going on. The live streams keep being privated so I can't catch up
Dreaming of Babylon
2024-01-30 00:36:52 +0000 UTCI’m glad you opened up about your family being threatened. It gave me a lot of perspective about additional reasons why you’d be so upset. Use your lawyer. Go to the police. Etc. Don’t ask anyone for advice and just do it. You never know - maybe some people should be kept off the street bc they do this to others too.
JdoubleU
2024-01-30 00:33:19 +0000 UTCAs a fan for nearly 8 years (since roughly around the time the Century III video was uploaded), it's been one hell of a ride watching you go through what you have gone through. I hope that this experience has allowed you to move past this and continue to grow as this has seem to have occupied a lot of your head space for the better part of a year and for understandable reasons. I'm planning on sticking around because of the combination of your interesting storytelling and talented film making really shine in your projects. We all see you have the potential to make great things, and I hope as time goes on we will get to see more of those projects again real soon. Love you Dan.
Cameron F
2024-01-30 00:18:14 +0000 UTCNo need for apologies, I completely understand. I'm able to handle a little nonsense every now and then- sometimes it can be fun. Vent when you need to vent- we ALL need to do that from time to time!
Robin Clizbe
2024-01-30 00:16:55 +0000 UTCMe too, I can't catch them live and usually I listen to them later.
John Smith
2024-01-30 00:03:15 +0000 UTCI missed the latest livestream. I wish it could be put back up
Jennifer Heggesta
2024-01-29 23:23:20 +0000 UTCDan, i cannot speak for other's, but you don't need to apologize to me. You have been through it the last year with Rick, Steph, losing 2 furbabies, missing out on the holidays with family. I cannot imagine what it would be like to be in the public eye and have trust issues with people and then when you do trust someone they try to hurt you and hurt your business. I truly hope 2024 will be a good year for you. 🙏
Jennifer Heggesta
2024-01-29 23:21:08 +0000 UTCYou have taken your first step into a larger world.
Thomas Coulton
2024-01-29 22:59:11 +0000 UTCFun sounds ruddy marvellous. C'est Magnifique 🎉🥳☺️
Deanna
2024-01-29 22:39:08 +0000 UTCLove you Dan, Looking forward to seeing you shine 2024
Bobby Fletcher
2024-01-29 22:37:40 +0000 UTCJust do that Dan thing you do. Make the next installment of “Love, Liquor, and Lies” but featuring your two new subjects. Those who know will know. Everyone else will just consider it part of your cannon.
Allen Taylor
2024-01-29 22:35:19 +0000 UTCDan, no regrets !
Luc
2024-01-29 22:29:23 +0000 UTCDan I love when you do live streams, even if its just for private patreon members showing us around the city and showing us the history and stories you have. Dont stop the live streams, its where we can interact with you most! And its always fun and positive!
Matty Ice
2024-01-29 22:24:44 +0000 UTCEveryone needs to vent sometimes! I hope you are doing better! Love you Dan!
Tina Stanbaugh
2024-01-29 22:18:12 +0000 UTCPatreon is being a b. (Sorry for the cut off message) R and S are like little mosquitoes that you cannot swat. They don’t mean anything. Link to Adam’s video on dealing with bullies: https://youtu.be/Y-bL9DK1HOM?si=1M4u6t5rvBHsaFrc
DJ Metzler
2024-01-29 22:16:53 +0000 UTCI don’t mean to come off as a know it all, but I really think Adam the Woo has dealt with his bullies the best. I really encourage you to call him and talk it over. No, you shouldn’t trauma dump on him everyday. But I think he would understand and give you good advice. And if anyone knows about trolls, it is him. He literally has a hate channel dissing his videos everyday. These people(R&S) are like mosquitos that you can’t swat. Not worth your time. Adam’s video: https://youtu.be/Y-bL9DK1HOM?si=1M4u6t5rvBHsaFrc
DJ Metzler
2024-01-29 22:13:39 +0000 UTCYou're only human, us loyal followers will stand by you no matter what.
Kathleen C.
2024-01-29 22:12:21 +0000 UTCStop deleting!!!! I listen when a I can!
Patti Olson
2024-01-29 22:10:40 +0000 UTCPlease don’t delete your lives. I listen to all of them on my long drive home. I appreciate your stories and venting.
Patti Olson
2024-01-29 22:09:48 +0000 UTCSometimes just ignoring the problem doesn't help, and not every problem can be solved by doing just one thing. While I understand you thought you might've taken things too far, the way I see it, it was probably going to end up like this no matter what. Hell, when you mentioned in one your livestreams (paraphrasing of course) that Rick pretty much encouraged his fans to harass Brennen as well as you, I would've threatened legal action as well. You had a right to be angry about it and to do something to stop it.
Kathryn Coffey
2024-01-29 21:59:19 +0000 UTCI think we all can relate to times when the BS in our lives consumes us and we reach our breaking point. Yesterday was like a cleansing vomit for you. You got it out and now you can move on. I hope these 2 cancers are out of your life and you can move on and hopefully they move on. Lots of love to you Dan. Looking forward to your future work.
Jenny Randall
2024-01-29 21:59:00 +0000 UTCRight on!
XineMarieMcD
2024-01-29 21:58:25 +0000 UTCHonestly Dan yeah yesterday had its extreme moments, but when you pointed out that between July and Christmas you were keeping quite and not bringing it up (basically doing what everyone is saying to do) and it still wasn’t stopping. They were both still getting people riled up, orchestrating attacks behind the scenes, which also lead to someone sending you a picture of your parents house saying they are going to kill your family, I totally understand where you were coming from yesterday! So you really don’t need to apologize. At least not from my point of view.
Joe powell
2024-01-29 21:52:52 +0000 UTCtbh, I didn't realize you and Steph had a falling out too, I did enjoy the couple of videos you did together. That's really too bad and I'm sorry to hear it.
r00tdenied
2024-01-29 21:45:36 +0000 UTCI just worry about how the stress takes your time and energy. Of course you got pissed! I'm glad you apologized - - not for our sakes but for yours. If you feel anger, you shared it. If you feel remorse, you shared it. Get those emotions out because otherwise they eat you from the inside.
Julia Priest
2024-01-29 21:45:33 +0000 UTCIt's totally ok Dan, takes a good person to admit when they made a mistake! Your last live drive around Baltimore was so positive and interesting, you did it then and you can do it again ❤️ you in a car telling stories about your life and Baltimore history is enough, we don't need the drama and neither do you 😎 I'm relieved you came to this conclusion, you had some of us worried!
Tina
2024-01-29 21:44:31 +0000 UTCNo worries. I am glad we were here for you!
Daphne King
2024-01-29 21:41:17 +0000 UTCDan when you are going through traumatic experiences anger is a huge and useful part. As I was going through mine I hardly recognised myself and just how angry 😡 I was. But it is just a part of healing, don't want to sound all Zen but there is. I have got to a place where even when shite and memories, reminders come up it affects me little. You are a most gorgeous, generous fellow give yourself a break. People will get pissed off I do but it's all human and we are soon understanding again. Fun 😊 sounds very good I'll have some of that ❤️
Deanna
2024-01-29 21:41:15 +0000 UTCWe all have these experiences and regret after. I am not disappointed. I think some of us just feel confused as to why you'd let a pair of lowlifes get under your skin so badly. Focus on being creative and a friend to all of us.
sgmd
2024-01-29 21:41:04 +0000 UTCI'm here for you Dan. Whatever you want, you got it. You don't have to apologize. Obviously it's been a long time coming. That's what these parasites led you too. You're only Human Dan. We're only Human, and we understand. Love you Dan! ETX/Erik
ET XENO
2024-01-29 21:40:56 +0000 UTCAs someone who doesn't follow the drama, I just want you to be your best. I still enjoy your content and that's why I'm still part of this patreon. After reading up on what's happened, it sucks that there was no easy/peaceful solution to all the drama.
Jeff Widener
2024-01-29 21:39:07 +0000 UTCDon’t feel bad. You don’t have to apologize. They caused you to react the way you did and they deserve it. When you are ready you will move on from this mess they created. Your fans will continue to be by your side enjoying some of the best content out there.
Dorian M
2024-01-29 21:36:26 +0000 UTCYou’re entitled to get pissed off, those 2 ran your ass ragged with lies, lies and more lies. You reacted like most people would, you have nothing to apologize for and all of us that truly love you will have your back, no matter what! Xoxo
Zelda
2024-01-29 21:35:47 +0000 UTCDang I missed it! I’d have loved to see you put them in their place.
Chris Raabe
2024-01-29 21:35:43 +0000 UTCIt's ok Dan, no need to apologize to me 😀 I understand how you felt/feel and sometimes you just have to vent. Nothing you said offended or shocked me, I just listened as if listening to a friend who was hurt. I take no actions but I'm here listening. Hope you're feeling better!
Carrie Cantwell
2024-01-29 21:34:15 +0000 UTC
