Another Chapter Closed

Hey Family,

This last year has really been a series of unexpected challenges and heavily family oriented for us; unfortunately all negative. With JJ now vacant from our lives, it's been sad adjusting from "building our family for the future" to "well, there's no one but us now, there's no next generation for our family." I don't mean to make that sound as hopeless as a it does, it's just the way the feelings come across. I wanted to let you all know we've sent the check to my mother and once the lawyer verifies she's received it, our home will be safe from any future attacks she may have planned. As much as my mother has made me feel awful over the years, this was her absolute lowest. She blackmailed her son with selling his home from under his family just because she felt she was entitled to money that she absolutely wasn't but had legal claim to. I find this is the true test of character; when you COULD take advantage of someone, do you? She chose yes and solidified once and for all what I suspected all my life; she never truly cared for me, she just checked off the "good mother" checklist by making sure I was fed and clothed while everyone praised her for "being such a good mother." That's it. There was no comforting when I was feeling alone in the world, there was no warmth when I felt sad. I thought she was incapable of it. But somehow she's got more than enough love for my racist, transphobic, Republican sister. This made it all clear to me; I knew she was a misandrist, but I didn't realize to what extent. Once my mother accepts this check, I'm blocking her and the rest of the family from my life forever. I tried SO hard to show them we can do better but they truly do love the dysfunctional/hateful/screaming method of interacting with people they're supposed to love.

That being said, I will reiterate how grateful we are for your support here. If you hadn't helped out this message would instead be an update about us being forced out of our home. We're truly thankful for you.

All this time I was waiting for my mother to have an "ah-ha" moment and realize she has to take accountability for how she's treated me over the years. That time has passed now and I've accepted the truth; she thinks she did good enough and I don't matter enough to her to try and make up for the past. It's sad but it's the way it is.

With her getting the thing that truly matters in her life; money, maybe now she can feel I was worth something to her. Dog knows it wasn't years of me standing up for her and trying to help her build a better self esteem to feel better about herself on a daily basis. That was just me "trying to control her" apparently since this is how she tells it to other family members. Sometimes in life we just don't get a fair sense of closure and we have to live with that. I have a lot of love to give and I refuse to let someone as twisted as my mother and the awful brood she's created in her own broken image stop me from sharing it. I just won't be sharing it with them anymore.

Thank you again to all of you helping us get through this awful year. I didn't think it could get worse than watching JJ meltdown and sabotage our family so viciously but hey, it's my family and the one thing they're good at is misery and stealing from each other. That's done now. Time for the next stage in life. It's time to move on and just focus on loving those who love us. No time for the people who enjoy causing us misery. To anyone out there going through any similar situation; stay strong and don't let them get to you. They may be unhappy and miserable but once they refuse our attempts to help them or twist things to make it seem like you're attacking/judging them, take that as they have no desire to self improve and make the decision that's healthiest for you. There's no one in your life worth your own mental or physical health, remember that. When we truly care we build each other up and support the efforts to do better, we don't tear people down. 

These past few weeks have been very rough mentally but things are improving and I look forward to what's next. Big hug <3

-Bryan & Simon