Family Update January 6th 2022
Added 2022-01-06 13:47:32 +0000 UTCWell Family, it's a New Year! We hope you all had a nice holiday season!
Unfortunately for us, we don't have great news to share. We previously let you all know the family crisis we're dealing with but unfortunately it's not gotten any better. JJ, our son, has run away again. He's been gone since Sunday. We spent the last month taking turns sleeping in shifts at night so he could be watched. It didn't matter. Even with cameras in the house, he just disables them and slips out the moment someone isn't looking. JJ says he doesn't want our help and is apparently spending time at houses of friends we've never met by telling their parents we "beat him until he couldn't get off the floor". Unfortunately his lying has reached an all new level of absurdity and our options for helping him all require him to voluntarily participate, which he either lies and says he will until he gets there then runs away from that facility or flat out refuses. His behavior has escalated so rapidly and severely we now have concerns for our own health and safety.
I share all of this with you because you're owed an explanation for why we're having such trouble getting the comic out. It's been a rough few months and it's been draining both emotionally and physically. To have someone you've loved for so long and want to see succeed from a family of toxicity and dysfunction, it's heartbreaking watching them follow in those footsteps. All we wanted was to give him a life away from the toxicity and yet even with all those choices, he's CHOOSING to be toxic. It's incredibly frustrating and deeply saddening. I want so badly for him to "wake up" and come around to get things on track but every time it seemed like that's what was happening, it turned out he was just manipulating us to think that so he could get what he wanted again. It's been draining.
That all being said, our comic has always been inspired by real people but as an ideal, a fun fantasy version of some of our experiences but with happier results than real life. More than ever that's what we need it to be. If this life experience is going to be this negative, I need to create the equal opposite and put it out there to create a balance. I never want our comic to be ignorant or "toxic positive" I just want it to be positive even with tough life lessons.
As always, thank you for your patience with us. We'll have new comics coming soon. It's just challenging to do with so many intense and often conflicting emotions flowing so strongly but we'll get there.
Thank you for your ongoing support with what has become our biggest life challenge yet. We will continue to do all we can for JJ. It's very important to me to know we tried our hardest no matter how it all turns out.
Big Hug!
-Bryan & Simon
Comments
Big hug <3 Thank you
Bryan & Simon
2022-01-11 14:55:19 +0000 UTCLife is never easy and trying to raise a child even more so. You both take time to focus on your family. Lots of hugs
Tonya Cinnamon-Tackett
2022-01-07 13:00:57 +0000 UTC❤️
Zac
2022-01-07 08:04:09 +0000 UTCI'm sorry for the pain you guys are going through. I raised my donation, that's all I can really do. I'm your Patron and I support you when times are bad. I hope your son gets the help he needs. Hugs🥰
Stephen Bergdahl
2022-01-07 04:23:39 +0000 UTCSending love and compassion. I hope that he will find his way and that you all will find some balance and rest.
Amanda Hobson
2022-01-07 03:20:29 +0000 UTCThat's so terribly awful, so heartbreaking and distressing, I'm Sorry. So Sorry you have to go through this without fully knowing why he's doing these acts after how hard you've tried to do better by and for him. I don't know how things will turn out, but I hope they provide closure and answers and eventually peace for you all.
Sam A Milazzo
2022-01-07 00:30:30 +0000 UTCOMG the "go along to get along." Finding the people who can relate and truly communicate must be the hardest thing of all. Because when younger I also would "agree" with authority figures just to stop the conversation. That approach cost me a college diploma and has had life long implications. Never landed in jail yet, but living in the US at my age with a high school diploma means later life is going to be far too interesting.
Allan Meyer
2022-01-06 20:01:17 +0000 UTCThank you very much for sharing that. I tried my best to relate to him with my own experiences with toxic family and my own behavior but it seems he just doesn't want to relate. Even the times I thought we were getting through to him he just says he wanted to stop talking so he just agreed. It's rough seeing how cold he really is :(
Bryan & Simon
2022-01-06 16:22:08 +0000 UTCIt's so difficult to help somebody when they aren't interested in helping themselves... I was that kid at one point in my life, and in my adult life I have had students in similar situations with their parents. I've had to help my mom through something similar as well about 5 years ago, and she's 30 years older than me. It's just like with learning new topics - if they keep telling themself they're not good at it, then they've already decided they can't learn it. It sounds like you're already doing everything you can to be supportive and loving. Hopefully he'll come around and realise he's turning the present into a difficult situation with his own actions, and maybe then he'll be able to process the past in a better light, and trust that he has you two to fall back on. I'm so sorry this is happening. I send you all of the virtual hugs. <3
Josie Fitting
2022-01-06 16:08:23 +0000 UTCUnfortunately we've been losing support for months now and I understand why, it just adds to the stress. We understand we need to perform to be supported, we'll keep trying our best and hope we don't keep losing support during this trying time. Big hug for sticking around <3
Bryan & Simon
2022-01-06 16:01:15 +0000 UTCThank you very much for sharing that. We've had to learn ourselves just how broken the system is and it's beyond frustrating to experience. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Big hug <3
Bryan & Simon
2022-01-06 16:00:08 +0000 UTCHugs. I wish there was more I could do.
Brent Moroz
2022-01-06 15:52:43 +0000 UTCI appreciate you keeping us in the loop, but you don't have a single thing to apologize for. This is some serious, serious stuff that you're trying to manage and navigate right now, and that absolutely deserves and needs to take precedence over your work on the comic. I hope that your family is able to come through all of this. As a person who came from an abusive, broken home, and then was thrust into an abusive, broken system, and had no one who would advocate fer me, I hope that you'll hear me when I say that it warms & breaks my heart ta hear that you're trying so valiantly to do what's best for your family, even though you're not yet getting the results your family needs. I hope someday JJ will look back on this time, and see how much he is loved, and that it brings him strength when he needs it. I got out. He can too. Thank you so much for your effort.
Alex Strife
2022-01-06 15:46:29 +0000 UTCDon't worry about the comic, just take care of yourselves and your family. We understand, and it's what comes first. I don't think anyone is going to hold it against you and leave.
Patricia Jaderborg
2022-01-06 15:43:56 +0000 UTC