Things We Say to Rape Survivors/Things We Rarely Say to Rapists (TW victim-blaming)
Added 2024-05-14 06:59:12 +0000 UTCThings We Say to Rape Survivors
You went on a date with a stranger. What did you expect?
If you don’t want to be assaulted, don’t meet people from Tinder.
You committed the sin of wearing lacy knickers while drinking cognac. Do you really think that was sensible?
Since we’re on the topic of cognac, you didn’t watch your drink closely enough. What did you expect?
He was in a bad space at the time. It’s hard not to rape people when you have a sadz.
Did you help him to develop a healthy acceptance of your boundaries? Or did you simply expect him to understand your “no” from the outset? Are you sure you said it with the right timbre? Did you make sure he knew you were being serious?
It’s hard not to rape people when women keep refusing you sex.
Things Victim Blamers Never Say to Rapists
You raped someone. Now they’ve accused you of rape. What did you expect?
You chose to carry out a criminal act. Do you really think that was sensible?
You drugged her drink and she was too unconscious to say “no.” What did you expect?
It’s hard not to get reported for crimes when you keep committing them.
She was in a bad space at the time. It’s hard not to be traumatised when people assault you.
This faux apology is an example of why you assault people. When you’re this entitled and toxic, what do you expect?
When you decided to assault her, did you make sure she knew you were being serious?
Did you help her to develop a healthy refusal of your intentions before you raped her?
If you don’t want to be prosecuted for a crime, you shouldn’t commit a crime.
