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2023 resolutions
Added 2023-01-02 23:42:37 +0000 UTChave you made any resolutions this year? I thought it would be fun to revisit the resolutions I made last year and see how many of them I actually followed through with, aswell as talk about the ones for this year which build on last year's promises to myself. I also meant to include more vlog footage in this video but it turned out to be very long for a bonus video to start with so I kept it as is. more vlogs coming soon though. what do you want to change this year? 🎇
share it in the comments, I promise I will read them even if I don't respond. it takes me an embarrassingly long time to think of something appropriate to say 🎇
may all your dreams come true this year
Comments
Thank you so much! I think the hardest thing about learning that was realising that, everything that I had gone through...none of that needed to happen. That was hard to learn. But I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that that's all in the past, and it hurts, but I can't change that. All I can do is try and make the future (and present) better. With autism and ADHD, it's mostly boys that are lucky enough to get diagnosed at a young age, and girls are usually either misdiagnosed as something else, or they just get ignored. Society is slowly developing when it comes to neurodiversity and disabilities, but you still get some people who see autism as that one annoying guy out of The Big Bang Theory, and nothing else. But I'm the complete opposite of that; I find it so difficult to speak to people, and was mostly non-verbal at school (teachers just described me as a 'bit shy' 🙄), I can't do science or maths for shit, and I can actually identify when people have had enough of me...most of the time 😂 Because I'm not like the stereotype, no one thought I could be on the spectrum until now. But that's exactly what it is: a spectrum. I'm so glad that someone was able to pick up on your ADHD. Having to go undiagnosed, especially for a long time, is just a horrible thing to experience. Yeah, so far the unmasking has been interesting. I lost a couple of friends after I opened up to them about it, but their loss, I guess. I'm currently in the stage of "is this thing I do a thing that everyone does, or is this a thing I do because autism?" And it's weird to question every aspect of your life and behaviour, but at least I'm learning more. Thank you for listening, it means a lot ❤ And thanks for the dye recommendations! I'll look out for those. Happy 2023!
Megan Green
2023-01-05 18:42:49 +0000 UTCI love that for you! I'm glad you were able to learn more about yourself. It's so hard growing up misunderstood because there is just not enough awareness on neurodiversity and mental health in our society. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 20's when I lucked out and someone actually listened to my problems instead of writing me off as a lazy piece of shit. Learning to un-mask will be a long road and I know that first hand - you'll have to be prepared to explain and defend yourself when people ask why you're suddenly "acting weird". Nowadays, however, most people can be reasoned with. If you can articulate your internal experience logically, they will likely understand and accept what's going on. Some may be resistant to change and you must not allow yourself to be swayed by those who will call you attention-seeking and accuse you of faking. A lot of people still cannot comprehend that others may have a different experience than their own. And those who hated on you for not being good at everything need a good close look in the mirror. No one can be good at everything. Our species has made it this long because every human is born with different talents that are valuable to the group. Also, if you want to touch up your dye, I recommend la riche directions - they have the longest lasting colors from my experience and are good value for money as they are applied to damp hair. You can also mix them with conditioner to stretch them even further and reapply after every few washes when you are no longer happy with your color. I know the struggle of fading colors lol. Hope yo have a great 2023!
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2023-01-05 18:06:49 +0000 UTCHappy new year, Ally! I hope it's an amazing one. Loved the video, and it's so nice to see you looking so happy. Love the hair! I wish mine looked as vibrant; I dyed my hair pink just before Christmas, but now it's already faded to a weird mixture of peach and white. Love that for me. For me, I only have one resolution (mostly because I'm crap at sticking to them): just be me. But the real me. Basically, last year I discovered that I'm autistic...at 25 years old. Turns out I've been masking this whole time without even knowing, yay! I'm slowly learning to unmask (but it's extremely difficult), and learning to be kinder to myself. I've received so much hate from the moment I started school for not being good at certain things, which, in turn, has made me hate myself. But now that I know I'm just neurodivergent and that I'm not stupid or weak or any of the words I've always called myself, I'm trying to change the way I see myself. Hopefully by the end of this year, I'll be happier than ever.❤
Megan Green
2023-01-05 14:47:45 +0000 UTC
