Turn off Survival Mode
Added 2021-10-09 22:45:41 +0000 UTC
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Yep, momento mori & premeditatio malorum.
2021-11-28 20:03:05 +0000 UTCThank you for talking about survival mode. I couldn’t have said it better. It’s important to mourn the “lost childhood,” “the family that is still alive but yet there is no relationship.” The most difficult aspect is forgiving someone a million times because you love them as a parent, yet they continue the toxic behavior. In that case, the only choice left for the child to have some level of normalcy and maintaining sanity is to walk away and never look back. The door will always be open when toxicity no longer exist. Sadly, the realization that the toxicity will always be there and that parent will never get to experience other aspects of your life (marriage & grandchildren) is the most devastating aspect of the loss. Thank you for your thoughtful conversation about such a taboo topic.
2021-10-10 23:45:44 +0000 UTC“Let me get the door for you”. That comes from abandonment (I figured you already got that point). I’ve been left with the same issues by “relatives” walking out on me (or not providing when they should have!) Some people may not ever experience that to that degree however, when that is your life experience, you already prepared for it. That is a survival instinct to keep the hurt away. Doesn’t always work but at least you learn to be more particular on who let into your life as an adult. You sus them out.
MsDarlingNikki
2021-10-10 15:09:46 +0000 UTC
