Live show pre-sale!! Dean Spade!! Do you have a dog name?

Hey friends,

Let’s get the big news out of the way: I’m thrilled to announce that we’ll be doing a live show at the Bell House in February! If you’re looking for a last-minute holiday gift for the New York-adjacent Gender Reveal listeners in your life, this is a great option! We’ll be catching up with AC Dumlao, answering listener questions with Daniel M. Lavery and Mattie Lubchansky, and debuting a brand new ~gender detective game~ with the help of Sabrina Imbler.

Our last live show sold out in 36 hours, so I wanted to make sure that you, the patrons, aka my best friends and bosses, got first dibs at tickets. The show is on Wednesday, February 1, and tickets are on sale now. (Masks are encouraged at the show, and I’m happy to answer any other accessibility questions.) Hope to see you there!

• Photo: A poster that says "Gender Reveal, a live podcast featuring AC Dumlao, Sabrina Imbler, Daniel M Lavery, Mattie Lubchansky & Tuck Woodstock. Wednesday, Feb 1, 7:30 pm, The Bell House, Brooklyn, NY." There is a picture of Tuck and the background image is the Gender Reveal logo. 

Anyway! In this week’s show, I’m honored to share our chat with Dean Spade. Dean gave me so much to think about, particularly in regards to mutual aid. As I’ve said before, this conversation really made me question the way our mutual aid program operations (in a good way!), and with Trans Day of Snack coming up in a few months, I’m really eager to hear your thoughts. Please feel free to leave them here in the comments, or in the mutual aid channel of our slack. (Here’s a link to join the slack — the link expires in a week but I can always send a new one if you need it.)

I also particularly loved Dean’s answer to our classic first question. I feel like more people need to hear it, frankly!

Photo: Dean Spade giving a talk while wearing a classic trans-masculine button-up (short-sleeved and blue.)

Next week on the show, I speak with artist and kapa-maker Lehuauakea about Native Hawaiian gender traditions and artistic practices, and whether people should be traveling to Hawaii. (Completely coincidentally, I’ve been editing this episode while watching the first season of White Lotus, and it sure is a trip.)

Although it’s not strictly necessary, I really encourage you to take a look at some of Lehuauakea’s work before the episode.

Photo: Lehuauakea's work "mele o nā kaukani wai" 

Finally, I just wanted to let you know that we’ve finally got the first six transcripts for this season up on our website! We also have most of the bonus episodes transcribed, — let me know if you need the password to that page. (It’s also fairly easy to guess tbh.)

OK, time for Links & Stuff. Which reminds me — last week, John Boyega autocorrected to John Bodega! Sorry to this man.

• WaPo made a widget that says whether you have a human name or a dog name, to the horror of transmascs everywhere. (Turns out I’ve still got that dog in me.)
• Genders.WTF tracks funny examples of drop-down gender option lists.
• I suspect that Maddy’s recent advice column on bisexuality is particularly relevant to you or someone you know. (It’s paywalled but you can see the first half, and imo you should subscribe to Maddy’s newsletter!)
• I appreciated Gabrielle Union talking about homophobia and parenting a trans kid over on Las Culturistas.
• This week in cat jump scares.
• Buy a ticket to our live show!!!! Great gift, you don’t even have to worry about last-minute shipping!! :) :) :)

OK, that’s it for this week. Thanks for reading all the way through. Here’s your weekly Rhubarb.

Photo: Ruby cuddling on a heating pad with a small owl toy.

Xoxo,
Yr resident gender detective