what if you wrote the questions this week?

Hey friends,

Breaking headline format this week because it's the theme of the newsletter and also i'm tired.

Someone fucked up and over-scheduled me this week (spoiler: it was me) — I recorded an interview on Wednesday and another on Thursday, and I need to prep for ANOTHER interview on Monday (more on that later), plus I gotta make an episode and also write a newsletter and blah blah blahhhhhhh here we are. 

(I also just spent an hour learning about EQ and other audio plug-ins from podcast genius Callie Wright, so here's a plug for Queersplaining not only being top-notch in content, but also top-notch in sound quality.)

ANYWAY, this week on the show, Zee returns for another round of spicy gender advice. 

Cute Tuck + Zee photos in this newsletter were taken in Austin a couple years ago back when places existed. 

Y'all stumped us with some of these! Topics include: 

• My partner won't use my pronouns around our friends
• I'm getting misgendered at work and I can't make it stop
• I want to be a boy but I don't want to be a man
• Should I trust people to correctly gender their friends and family?
• How do I talk about they/them pronoun users in German?
• How do I stop caring so much about what people think?!?!
• Plus: Tuck making fun of Tulsi Gabbard and some guy named Mike!

If you have a gender question for the show, please submit them using this form.

And speaking of submitting questions to the show!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm interviewing Jeffrey Marsh on Monday morning and I have not yet written the questions. So: do you have questions for Jeffrey? Comment here or DM me, and maybe you'll hear your question on the show! (This is me pretending it's like an exclusive Patreon perk and not me being tired. I mean, it's both.)

OK, this is the part where I usually say, like, "Our merch is amazing and you can buy it through 12/31 at bit.ly/gendermerch." Which is true! But I also want to flag that apparently some of the shirts shown above printed weird, and maybe your shirt says "Ender is an Oundless Expanse"!?! Oops! i guess gender boundaries are fake but print boundaries are real??

Anyway, I fixed the print boundaries for the future, but if you already ordered and receive something weird, please know that Teespring has a 100% satisfaction guarantee for 30 days! So if you flag it, maybe they'll give you a new one?? Seems like they should because the product image says "Gender" and not "Ender." 

SORRY ABOUT THAT. As an apology, here's a literal sneak peek of next week's guest.

🤩🤩🤩 

OK, before I go, can anyone tell me what the hell is going on in my neighborhood? I spotted this earlier today...

On second thought, don't answer that. But hang in there, and I'll see you on Monday. Or, uh, you'll hear me on Monday? Whatever. I love you.

xo,
yr resident gender detective

PS: This is the last newsletter in Sagittarius season. Maybe the Capicorn szn newsletters will be less chaotic? Anyway, here's your weekly Rhubarb.