Danny Lavery! Mutual aid! Garfield Kart?!

Friends! It's good to talk to you again.

This week on the show, we chat with Danny Lavery, co-founder of The Toast, advice-giver @ Dear Prudence, and author of the new Something That May Shock and Discredit You. With the help of Danny's book, we dive into an array of transition-related topics including but not limited to:

• forced-masc narratives in Mulan and She's the Man
• overcoming fears of HRT by talking to detransitioners
• transitioning in a different direction than your trans partner
• wanting and fearing the "overnight boy switch"
• discovering a hidden cave beneath your lungs
• what we'll do about hormones if society collapses 
• and more!

Really excited to hear what you think about this episode, as always, so please let me know — or better yet, tag us in something on social media. You know, if you're feeling it. No pressure. It's whatever.

It's a wild time, as you extremely know. I've been deeply relating to this chart by my friend (and patron!) Sarah Mirk, who is definitely worth a follow.

In response to everything being hopeless bullshit, I've tossed out the biannual grant in favor of a massive mutual aid fund for trans people around the world. We've already given away $50K(!!!!!!!!) to folks across six continents, and I want to keep going as long as possible. 

If you are housed and fed and medicated and Internet-ed and have a little bit extra to donate, please message me, and I'll connect you to a trans person in need. If you need funds, please apply to the fund at bit.ly/GRsurvivalfund. 

Either way, thank you so so so so much for your generous support of the show. As you may have heard in Danny's episode, I just lost my monthly freelance gig that was 1/2 my income, so now I'm really just getting money from the Patreon. So. Hey. Thank you, endlessly. 

In other news, Jery from Stick to Resist sent my house a very very cute care package that included DONUTS and CANDY and the game GARFIELD KART?!?!?! They also made me this bespoke pin!!!!!! What a time to be trans and alive!!!!!!!!!!!!

(This game is bad, stick to Animal Crossing. But it brought my house endless joy by existing and we are forever grateful.) 

I don't have any podcast updates for you. I don't actually have any more interviews backlogged. I'm working on figuring out ways to record more interviews with more guests during these wild-ass times. So, uh, not sure when the next episode is coming out! TBD! Sorry about that! 

But in the meantime, did you see the full moon the other night? She was extra big and bright and beautiful. I went to see her with my roommates but don't worry because we stayed at least 6 ft away from the moon at all time.

So, uh, hang in there. Support each other. Be gay, do crime, wear shorts, drink water, eat something, moisturize, be gentle with yourself and your depression (just me?). 

xo,

Yr resident gender detective

PS: Here's your weekly Rhubarb.