Relationships…Easy or hard?
Added 2023-08-16 12:15:17 +0000 UTCWould you rather your relationship be easy at the beginning and then get very hard later and have to work through it. Does knowing you have an idea of what “ease” looks like in your relationship make it easier to go through hard times later?
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Would you rather the relationship start with some serious challenges that look like red flags but inevitably work past them and find peace and understanding? Does this remind you that you can work through anything?
We live in a society where we say “if it doesn’t serve you leave” or “if you see red flags early abandon ship”. Has anyone experienced red flags early and came out on top in the end? Have those red flags possibly been mirrors to your own bullshit?
Let me know your opinions and experiences ❤️
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I’m not currently in a relationship but I will say I have a very low tolerance for red flags. Unfortunately this probably has a lot to do with my last relationship with a narcissist who was an alcoholic & also very abusive. I’ve honestly probably missed out on some good guys over the years since we broke up because if one thing triggers me, I’m out! I’m not sure which I’d prefer as far as things being easy/difficult in the beginning. I feel like being in a relationship for a long time that’s easy at first could make it easier or more important to work through hard stuff later on as opposed to it being really hard in the beginning. I feel like it’s easier to walk away if things are hard in the beginning because you haven’t invested as much in the relationship.
Jess Marie
2023-08-16 19:45:06 +0000 UTCMy happily ever after did not come easily. Most of our BS came out early in the relationship. We worked through it with professional help. I've never worked so hard for love like I did with my now husband. I never tolerated the things I did. I never forgave the way I did. There were times I felt weak for staying. Especially since it was so easy for me to walk away from my first marriage and any relationship after that. There was just something about him that I could not let go. I feel deeply connected to him, in a way I cant explain. We are now 10 years in, 2 kids in, and I feel the happiest and healthiest in this love than I ever had. No one is perfect, I'm far from it. But I know I want to grow old with this person and experience life with him. & see him evolve.
Neerellyn Bridges
2023-08-16 15:41:17 +0000 UTC
