Monét Talks Kinks

do you think someone’s kinks are a reflection of the way they view the world ( ie people w piss kinks liking having power over ppl, or rape kinks being a little rapey)

Nayelli

What are your thoughts on people who bring their kinks in public spaces? Like wearing dog masks or a leash at the super market.

AL Slack

omg did she really??? yesss

H

Adult baby diaper lovers Abdl

Jon Gaga

Let’s chat about preferences vs fetishes too

Darrin Brown

why do so many women have rape fantasies!?

Bunny

I like the way you phrased this, and completely agree! Would love to hear this spoken about. Really important in power dynamics which is often big reason why someone is interested in a certain kink anyways-- but can still be used to take advantage of someone for sure/

E Rose

yeah let’s discuss the golden showerers of the world

Grayson Beverly

This is literally why I want to go back to school

Jenna Damiano

This is interesting! I hope they pick it.

Jenna Damiano

Literally. I think trauma 😹

Jenna Damiano

Yes some should absolutely be shammed idccccccc😭😭

Michael Price

so a kink is something that adds a little extra to the sexual experience, it's not exactly necessary for the interaction to happen. a fetish is referring to an object (non sexual or sexual) that needs to be present for the individual to achieve sexual pleasure.

Parkeezy

🙌🏾 fuck em up !

Parkeezy

let's talk about Daddy issues

Parkeezy

PLEASE DONT MISS THIS OPPORTUNITY TO HAVE ZACH ON!!!! I LOVE the question he asks his guests: How do you define sex?

Jared Orman

Great question...I will "chime" with you on this and invite others to join with a add on of a ➕1️⃣🤞🏽 Be safe out there❣️ 🌈🐻

David Bond-Martin

controversial, but I am curious about the psyche of people into raceplay.. what turns them on about it? are there societal impacts that drive them to having this kink? or perhaps issues with self esteem/confidence?

Braidon Hobzek

How do approach asking someone about a scat fetish

Jacob V

I love piss play

Ivan Patino

Love to see a robust discussion around kinks. Some topics that I think would be interesting... Sounding is WILD to me, puppy play, general BDSM, and the line between fun kinky, might get caught in public sex and accidentally forcing someone to see you hooking up

beth h

Hook me up, always wanted to peg a guy!!

beth h

Pretty sure kinks are hard wired via some combo of nature and nurture.

beth h

I didn’t realize kinks were so normal until my 30s. I’ve realized I have a couple that I can pinpoint now that I’m in a safe relationship where we can have those discussions.

Marquita Marie

You can dislike a kink, or judge a kink, but not shame it

H

I feel as though taboo is a big part of a lot of kinks, and unsanitary or unsafe elements may fall under that umbrella

Angel

I think some kinks should be left to oneself.

Benjamin Kuntz

If things don’t hurt other people and everyone is in agreement then I don’t yuck their yum. But I think I get what you’re saying like we are supposed to be on board with everyone’s kink it feels like you’re almost not allowed to have an adverse opinion. There are a lot of kinks that I don’t t understand but to each their own 😂😂

Benjamin Kuntz

I don’t think not kink shaming means you yourself have to enjoy the kink

Angel

I'd like to hear about discussing boundaries and how to approach conversations about sexual interests and kinks with a hookup or romantic partner

Kaden Brown

Can you discuss furry fetishes and why they’re often seen at pride events (I’ve seen furries at pride events fully dressed and saying they’re straight)

Sam

invite coco jones she just announced her new album pleaseee

pyxis

So, kink is defined as something outside of the “norm” but what IS normal sex? Some folx think that simple doggy style is a kink. (I ain’t one of them people.)

Buckarooley

I'm not into kinks much, and one time i went out wirh a guy who was into suckinf my feet, which is into something I didnt necessarily enjoy, not that I was against it, it honestly was kind of a turn off, I guess I let him to please him. Anyway, that was just that one time and never dated him again. BUT my question is, if I date and I'm interested in someone who is into something that doesn't bring me joy, how to deal with it? Fake it and I might like it eventually? Tell him I don't like it and then he doesn't get to do something he likes?

Toro Luna

I actually think kink shaming is needed sorry about it just my opinion. I feel like people are being forced to accept all kinks these days just because they enjoy it doesn’t mean others have to

Breezy

One thoughts I’d like to share is that, there are kinks and there atypical sexual interests. And the later can sometimes be dangerous and or uncomfortable. For example age play – kink? Or an atypical sexual interest

Merna I

I hear people say, constantly; "no kink shaming, but ___ is absolutely disgusting I would never!!!" You might as well say "I fully kink shame" because to not kink shame you need to show that having a kink you're into isn't shameful. But to use that as a cover and then go off about how disgusting a kink is IS kink shaming. If something disgusts you, it disgusts you. If you don't support it just own that. If you have nothing nice to say, why say anything at all? Why is it acceptable to claim you don't kink shame and then do nothing but disparage said kink? Not everything has to be said publicly on the Internet, just keep it to yourself. ESPECIALLY now with our political climate, just let bygones be bygones, we need love not hate.

bigboarwolf

Be a pick me somewhere else that was for monet tbh

Quen

I also think fisting has its levels, its not the same thing just a fist, than the fist and some fore arm. than the entire arm up to the elbow. if its just the fist it can be done with no harm! it also needs training, its like seeing a dancer do the splits and you would think it hurts a ton, but they practice to get there.

H

I think it depends on everyone, but for me ive found it to be extremely submissive and If I like a guy too much (which its not often I may say) I kinda want his fluids.

H

hey, so just speaking personally, Ive found that when I go cruising im usually not in the best of states (mentally) and dont really care a lot about stuff, its kind of a whatever moment I sometimes end up regretting

H

Im really curious about why we are into the things we are into? Specially when sometimes it just feels out of my control, is it our subcouncious? can we actively change what we are into??? I know this wont get picked but I would love if other patreons chimed in as well.

H

TBH I think kink shaming is ok to a certain extent depending on the kink and its implications (race play, age play, etc). I am not a safe space for everyone! This is coming from someone with a couple kinks themselves.

Allie Olives

Is it possible to break out of a kink that you accidentally stumbled upon that somehow has taken a large part of your sex life away from you? Meaning that you are now unable to engage in full intercourse without it?

Aya

What do you think about outting other people's kinks? For example, I'm in a "are we dating the same guy?" group on FB (yes, it's messy and I live for it) and some ladies were spilling the tea about a local guy. One woman commented warning others that the gentleman in question enjoyed pegging. I thought it was kind of icky to out someone's kink without their knowledge but the commenter justified it by saying that other women should be warned about it because some have an extreme aversion to it? Idk. What is your opinion?

Sierra Williams

I be rubbing prolapses on my beard 🤤🤤🤤

Angel

why do you think people are normalizing doing sex acts in public? can you talk about the man who committed goonicide after exposing himself publicly and being caught on camera thanks

Bec Lewers

I had never heard of this until now 👀😅

Guy

Are kinks just things that we were exposed at young age that shaped our brain into liking those things once we got older? Because there is so many niche kinks, so it makes me think that might be the reason

Arcadia

this one!

Caleb Flenoury

😮 I respect this challenge.

Ansy Kebreau

The ethics of disclosing kinks you engage in with your partner to friends and others in your community.

Ansy Kebreau

My partner has a kink I don't engage with (thanks trauma). I don't hate it or them obviously -- mostly I see them operate in their kink community space and envy their love and freedom. But it’s hard to not be able to joyfully participate in their kink because the things that make them hot are things that make me miserable. I love them, we are not breaking up or stressing over this. How do I let go of feeling left out?

OBLIVUS1 .

not sure if the guest will have knowledge on this specifically but would love to learn more about the history/culture of kink within the lesbian community

dani simone

When you go cruising are you ever afraid? I feel like there would be really sketch people out there and when you do cruise how do you prevent STI’s and practice safe sex?

Jam

Definitely need to discuss how to set healthy boundaries and be comfortable with saying “no”.

Tyler Wolff

Why is race play not considered racist? And if it is considered racist, why is that acceptable? Why do we excuse what seems like harmful behavior just because it sexually arouses someone?

Lexi

I get u on the health concerns! I think it's definitely a MUCH riskier "playground" (i don't know a better word but I'm sure there are many) than other hygiene-related kinks, I'd always hope/assume that whoever is partaking is also self-aware enough to understand proper precautions/aftercare, but I'm also confident in my own interests that I am not a part of the preferred scat platinum rewards club n don't see myself even spectating so atp it's a concern that I have no emotions tied to for things I am not in lmfao 😭 that's their business n we got ours ;P I do think since *some* risk is always present when doing anal that it isn't much more risky than condomless painting as long as you clean up after & get tested accordingly, but I couldn't speak on people's regimens that actively seek out that kink for their usual sex interests ngl

sen

Lovee that

Angel

Girll 😭😭

Angel

That makes a ton of sense! I more-so meant it in a concern for health reasons, but again, definitely know nothing about it and see how it must’ve been received poorly. I have my own kinks and definitely am not judging.

AbbI

I don't think concern has to equate to judgment as much as it can be seen as innocent ignorance towards a concept someone isn't approachingly comfortable with; shouldn't it provide us some space to enlighten n approach these ideas with authority n care? curiosity can be in good faith even if the unknown illicit something uncomfortable from the person; if anything it's a part of sexual play that exists so commonly as a causal risk of anal regardless of sexuality, it's just natural that for some people they'd rather celebrate it than avoid or even tolerate the existence of that type of sexual intent. i'd see it almost like a meter between disgust/neutrality/celebration, people do the same song and dance with squirt/urine, musk/sweat, etc. I just think the knowledge of hygiene & smell politics makes scat even more unapproachable for most

sen

Maybe y’all can touch on how raceplay is biased on internalized hatred for yourself or is that to touchy for y’all ?

DISKOSHOW.

Why do a majority of kinks involve an unsanitary or unsafe element?

Dot

In a similar way that traditionally cishet people might relegate their ideas of "gender-affirming surgery" strictly towards their idea of queer modifications such as FFS, bottom surgery, etc. despite women worldwide getting breast augmentation and rhinoplasties and men getting jaw filler and height extensions- all of which serve the synchronous purpose of validating one's expression in regards to their gender presentation; what are your thoughts on cishet people's idea of the sexually deviant or taboo and how perceptively "degenerate" kinks/fetishes are associated towards queer people (think pup play, fisting, etc.), despite the unspoken commonality of cishet standardized-kinks? I find it really common in many homophobic spaces for the discussion to include the deviancy and unsightly idea of sex as some sacrilegious act when it's gay men or lesbians in question (for example), yet no spotlight on how equally taboo common hetero kink and fetish dynamics exist throughout our world. Breastfeeding/Mommy kinks, professional roleplay, the intersectionalities of race/ethnicity in fetishizing "BBC" or uncut European men as some exotic bucket list item, yet we never shift the angle back towards how equally "deviant" and "taboo" many of these hegemonies are. This is a broad idea, but I always like to see where we can identify hypocrisies that aim to demean us of our communities and our identities, despite the other side being equally as sexually explorative. (my opinion is of sex positivity and liberation, just an open thought bubble to ask about ;P )) thank you!

sen

The psyche behind being down for golden showers?

Quen

I think for some people the fatality aspect is part of the sexual dynamics, like total submission in that you're subverting human anatomy to push the limits and risk the danger for the pleasure of it all between the active/passive players. I've seen reddit comments mention how sexy and empowering it is to know one quick move and someone's insides could be fucked and it scared thee hell out of me but I can empathize it 😭😭😭

sen

What 😶

Elias

I think covering boundaries would be really helpful in this conversation! I’m all for people exploring what makes them happy while in a mutually consensual situation, but I think *explicitly* aligning (and re-aligning) on boundaries is kind and empathetic (after having a partner assume my boundaries based on my desired “role”, which caused us both harm in different ways).

Jem

Girl im saying its eek to me i think everyone should be able to explore in whatever way they choose.

AbbI

"is Findom Ethical?" : i have finsubs (financial subs) sending me their paychecks every week with videos of them eating ramen with their own piss (for the flavor i'm assuming) because it's all they can afford , does that make me a bad person? my bags are designer thugh.

Lika

Are kinks really hereditary? 🤔

Joshua Hill

You realize that's exactly what you're doing with this comment. You don't have to entertain or explore anything you're not into. Just leaving it he is an option

Kenyetta

I'd love to promote people embracing their kinks. Nobody has to know about it so why are people so ashamed of it? We can all find our kink tribes ☺️

Kenyetta

Maybe more of a general question (also asking for a friend😅). How do you avoid things that work for you getting too repetitive for your partner? For example: if partner A gets off really easily with face sitting and face fking, how do you keep partner B from getting bored doing that?

ARCHER

Yes please 😁

Kenyetta

concerned about public kink. example, is walking your dog manslave in the whole foods appropriate? when does the public's right to consent come into play? (this is not about kink at pride or specific lgbt and/or kink events, just general public)

mariah beth

Men in lingerie (panties, stockings, singlets, bodysuits, etc)

Jarrell B

How is fisting not fatal? Like are yall not scared 😭

Marquise B

Is kink culture more prevalent in some cultures more than others? Hispanics are usually listed as sexual beings but I find. Religion and culture places a burden on people wanting to be expressive of kinks. How is social media and communication changing this

Carlos Martinez

So excited for this!

Anthony Minerva

Imma need the clarification between “kink” and “fetish” also would love to hear if you think kinks are racial specific (not kinks about race but more kinks that are more common with certain races)

Joshua_Neil113

I have a huge fetish for man stink. Natural stink, undies, socks, bodies. Some bottoms let me hit it natural but most bottoms have a fear of being dirty which makes me sad because it sounds like theyve encountered terrible tops that are obsessed with like being bleach clean. first, douching is bad for your body lets start there, but then to not want to do something natural like butt sex...going to douche takes me out of the fantasy. Our butts naturally do the work, and I hardly get painted on. which for me feels better but we wont go there. lmao

Pigpen 🇸🇻🇲🇽

Daddy Son Kinks how does that powerdynamic effect relationships

Julian

Also I’m somewhat involved in the Chicago kink scene if anyone has any questions

Ezra Gershman

As long as u don’t pee on Monéts face !

Diaperbutt69

Thoughts on kink vs. fetish?

Ezra Gershman

What to do when you feel boxed in by your kink, as in the community for that kink where I live is too small (basically non-existent) and I feel too awkward to propose my kind of fun to guys on regular apps

BB

Honestly I think most people's idea of kink is not at all an accurate portrayal, very cis heteronormative. Very woman sub, man dom. No understanding that it's actually an EQUAL dynamic based in trust,communication, and consent.

zion

I’m concerned about people with scat fetishes. I’m not yucking anyone’s Yum but…..eeek

AbbI

Thoughts on DDLG?? Littles, littlespace

Melissa Izuagbe

Quen

Thoughts on knee fetish being known as one of, if not the most common fetish… no judging but i don’t understand.

Yanuel

Grape and slavery fantasies: I just want to ask the sub in those situations - what about that level of self-depreciation does it for you? For the Dom: do you feel comfortable in those roles?

OroroWannabe

No judgement just wondering. Whats with the fascination with public play? I don’t understand the thrill of getting caught and running the risk of going to jail, sex offender list, etc.

Jus10s

Prolapse/rosebud, like how are they ok after that

Blake