Sibling Rivalry: The One About Going No Contact With Parents (and Whales)
Added 2023-08-13 19:00:05 +0000 UTC
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Now I’m dying to see a picture of monet’s dog
Mads
2023-08-25 12:03:57 +0000 UTCHey Guys! I was hesitant to listen to this episode about going no contact with your parents because I do it not on purpose but I do. Every encounter with my mom feels fake or forced or out of obligation. I’m her only child but when I was born she didn’t want to be a mom. In fact she had me and moved away to an apartment about 20 minutes away. I lived with my maternal grandmother and my Dad. She’d buy me everything I never lacked anything but it was like my big sister visiting. My Dad went to the ARMY so it was just my granny and I. My parents were teenagers when they had me. So I understand being devastated, but she told me once I never wanted kids…and that has stuck with me. I’m 42 now, my grandma and Dad have gone on to Heaven so it’s just us. Calling her is a task, I have to schedule it and sometimes I ignore it. My mom has chaotic energy always something going on always a story to tell and I laugh with her. I know she loves me. But sheesh! It’s like she wants to mother me now…but I don’t need that. She’s like a homegirl, you know a friend that you don’t talk to for a couple months then yall catch up over dinner and laugh and talk and make plans to get together again soon but the 4 more months pass by. It’s like that, but it’s my mom. God Bless us all.
Shequita Brooks
2023-08-22 12:48:11 +0000 UTCtotally relate to aspects of both bob and monet's no-contact situations. i've been mostly no contact with my dad for around 15 years (in my 30s now). he was verbally abusive and manipulative. sometime later i found out he was physically abusive to my mother while they were married, would cheat on her, and spent all his money on partying and drugs. he has reached out to me before bc he says he has changed but beyond a cordial "hello" back, i'm good lol. i lived with the results of his actions for a long time, i had more to unpack and unlearn in therapy than i realized when i could finally afford it. maybe one day i will choose to have a relationship with him, but knowing i have a choice either way is empowering to me. uuf sorry i wasn't planning to type all that out. thanks for reading bob and monet (if you are still reading these lol) and for creating a safe space where others can laugh and kiki but also reflect on some heavier stuff too. i hope everyone else who relates to this topic finds love and healing in their situations 🤍 also, "i'm glad my mom died" is a heartbreaking book but so powerful. despite the title, jeanette mccurdy writes with so much nuance and strength. highly recommend if you are in the right headspace for a heavy read!
el
2023-08-21 20:53:48 +0000 UTC
