Sibling Advicery: Drag Hoarders/ Faking It

Monet, there may have been moments when YOUVE been broke, but if you were hungry and had NO MONEY, you COULD call your parents and go home. You may not like it, but you COULD ask for help. My mother is on food stamps, and my father is on disability - if I can't pay rent I get evicted and I'm heading to the Salvation Army homeless shelter. I feel like you would probably go home to your parents before going to a homeless shelter or before sleeping outside. When you are broke AND you don't have anyone to call for help-THATS BROKE. You were personally broke, but your weren't destitute. There is a huge difference between what YOU called broke in your 20's and what I called broke in my 20's. You cannot ignore that difference and equate your financial status to that of literally having nowhere to go and literally nothing in the cupboard. And no, I don't know your full experience, but from what I've gathered - from listening to this podcast and this patreon content for what, 3 or 4 years? - that you have great parents that love you, support what you do, put you in a performing arts high-school, and made sure you were taken care of. If you think there's no difference, then imagine what your life would have been if June had raised you. THATS the difference. I love you very much, Monet. 💚

Aimee

Bob you can get kybella injections for fat under chin. Not that I think you need it, but you should do what makes you feel good about yourself, if you want to.

Mehgan Corker

Monets skin and makeup look SO beautiful

Oh my god this episode is so stressful lmao

Obviously very late to commenting and even watching but it is very possible to have family with tons of money and still be struggling. However, I do understand my privilege cause I know if I ever get to a very desperate point, I do in fact have a safety net to fall to.

I don't think Bob was trying to invalidate Monet's experience or their struggle. Bob asked a question and Monet answered it incorrectly. Bob then simply tried to help Monet understand that they (Monet) has never actually been "broke."

Sandro

Monet sounds exactly like a rich kid lmaoooo and y'all in the comments don't make any sense. If you have a safety net you are not broke.

Judy

I can't stand the way Bob is acting. Just because you feel like your struggle is worse than someone else's, that doesn't mean you should invalidate someone else's experience.

Baby these comments about being broke with a safety net and its embarrassing to ask your family for money...i think some of y'all really missed Bob's point

Jaenell

Late comment but best wishes through COVID Bob and hope you don't suffer from long covid. Some of these comments are WILD. Love you guys as always, even when you're in a bad mood Bob - and lordy I hope you don't take some of these comments to heart... kisses Monet x

Monifa

Bob was right about the broke thing but he was acting WILD about it for no reason lol so Monet wins based on attitude

Cristina

When Monet literally picked at her healing tattoo I winced!!! Gurlllllll let it heal!!! lmao.

Jacobo

Monet always in a hurry 😭

Daniel Alvarez

As an unfortunately bitter poor person I'm with Bob. I'm not discrediting a broke person's feelings with supportive parents, there is also anxiety there but being broke with no support comes with deeper emotional baggage. Someone who might be humiliated to move back home would most likely bounce back easier than someone who ends up on the streets. Bob has said so many times something along the lines of hear people out because everyone has their own justified feelings based on their own experiences. So in conclusion- yeah that.

M

Bob was too much much this episode… the gatekeeping and gaslighting was a whole different level… both of their feelings are valid bc they come from different people with different experiences

Bob is wrong about the whole broke thing, monet is 1000%

_gzuku

Not Bob gatekeeping brokeness

Monet, not having a net to fall on causes your family to miss out on opportunities. I know this firsthand, and like Bob I am now on both sides. My family couldn't pay for my college and didn't want me to go because they couldn't support me. They were scared of me failing because they couldn't be there to support me. It is a crazy thing to be broke. Like truly broke, not I don't have money in my bank account.

Jorge Martin

so like I usually understand monet more than bob because bob is wild and out usually, but monet, it seems more and more evident with time that you relate very little to the common US resident. like damn really cant grasp what bob is saying about being broke. to be honest ive alway sorta got the vibe that monet has for the most part been vibing through life but as bob sorta get monet to show more im really sitting here like damn, you really havent been poor before. like ever.

Jay

so glad yall gave Jacob his own little bubble. it made it so much easier to understand him. thank you kings

Honestly I see Bobs pov on this one, as someone who has a safety net even though I’m in a different state than my parents and I’m working to the bone for my dreams I don’t have the same financial anxiety as someone without a safety net. I might worry about paying my bills, but I don’t worry about being on the street because I know if it was bad enough I’m still gonna be ok. There is a difference between struggling because you need to pay your bills and struggling because you need to stay off the streets. But it’s also not the struggle Olympics just because someone else in the world has it worse doesn’t mean that I don’t have problems.

You can have a safety net and still be struggling. And it’s just hella embarrassing to have to go to your family for anything. We all have different experiences so you can’t discredit someone just because you had it worse

Artistar

Nice to see you Jacob 😍

M

bob was a lot

bob is wild

right???

scammeron

It seems like this episode especially Bob was looking for any chance to pounce on Monet

Will

Did they ever give that last writer any advice...? 😅

MadMaxineShaw

I disagree with Bob about the broke comments. Being broke and being impoverished is different.

scammeron

Yes! We got to see Jacob on camera! Thank you!

A Sexton

Monet is looking so fine!!!!! Get into it!!!

Not the capitalist propaganda!

Taylor D

can we get an ad-free audio version of these, or…?

Dylan

Thank you! It made me feel icky when Bob tried to discredit Monet's experience.

EscApie

bob was extra mean in this one. sure there’s different level of being broke, but monet was still struggling for her dream. come on now

Let me speak up, as someone who has never had a net to fall back on, who has never had anyone in my support system who could financially support me if I fell on hard times; I absolutely side with Monet on this. What your family and friends have in their pockets has NOTHING to do with you. If you are a financially independent adult who lives paycheck to paycheck, then you are broke. Even if your rich Mama lives next door and is willing and able to help you out. If you are not being financially supported regularly by someone else, and your income is below a living wage, you're broke. End of story. If your best friend tells you about their experience, and you scoff and tell them that they haven't ever REALLY experienced that, you're being toxic. I'm not saying Bob is a toxic person, but I am saying that Bob is taking a toxic stance on this particular issue.

EscApie

Omg Jacob is so CUTE 😍

I know its just a little fight between best friends and I usually side with Bob, but its really clear that childhood trauma is still eating her up. no need to project it at monet tho

ethereal

I love Monet's Republican journey

Bob this is advicery... not rivalry lmaoooo

💯 Bob re: the Roth IRA. Compound interest is a thing, even if it’s not a large amount. Until that better world comes, save and invest.

Joel Villasenor

Being broke doesn't have anything to do with having safety nets. You can be broke and have safety nets or you coule be broke and not have safety nets. Obviously it's scarier and more stressful to be the latter but Bob trying to argue semantics is so tiring.

Dillon C

Bob was being a bit annoying today, correcting and calling out everything. Chill girl🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣......sending love

Ashvir Mohan

Surprisingly I understand both perspectives about being broke. I understand Bob speaking about not having a Net, that's a different level of Broke and a different feeling altogether. I also understand Monets point that that having a Net doesn't mean you can always fall back on it.

Ashvir Mohan

Agree with Monet, money equals freedom, even if you live of the land or are a hippy dippy person you still ask strangers for help, need seeds to grow, money for the land, etc. Everything costs money. Unless you live on that island where natives killed the christian man.

Ashvir Mohan

So we're not gonna talk about how Bob wants to be right soo f***ing bad, that at 59:05 they actually check their phone for a chance to prove Monét wrong ABOUT MONÉT'S OWN AGE?!

Erica A.

not "the hitler thing".

Sasha Fisher

So happy I can clearly hear your voice Jacob!

so flawless!! she literally looks airbrushed.

Amber Soto

Women don’t usually have good secs in their twenties. This woman finally knows what she wants and should drop this dude to go get it.

Emmanuella Osei

Can we talk about Monets foundation, SMOOTH!!! New tutorial needed!

Sedrik

I had to come here to contribute to the conversation about being broke. I think Bob’s take is actually absurd! Having people who care about you enough to open their home for you if you were without a home doesn’t mean that you are not broke. You still do not have the resources to get your own home, you don’t have money to eat, you have nothing in your bank account, you’re broke. Period.

Needed to add this : most of the time Having a safety net when, for example, losing your home/apartment is the difference between moving back home and going to a homeless shelter .

I understand where Monet is coming from. I think everyone understands that your parents money isn’t your money. However The safety net thing is very very real. If your down on hard times or if you lost your job or are about to get evicted, you do have that option to reach out to your safety net - strings attached or not , even if it’s a loan that they give you, it’s still an option. Some People like myself legit don’t have that option which brings a Whole level of stress that ppl with a safety net can’t really understand - and I think that’s where Bob is coming from.

Only people who have that safety net will argue that that’s being broke. It’s not as much about the definition here as it is about hearing someone who has options claim they don’t

Adrian

The whole end of the podcast was NOTHING but rivalry 😂 I loved it

Prince Vince

Booooobb can you get me a ticket to your comedy show in slc?? I’m kicking myself for not buying tickets earlier :(

Kinda surprised most people are coming for Bob in regards to the "being broke" conversation. Not to extrapolate my experiences on everyone, but I grew up (and have quite a few friends who grew up) with well off parents and having a "safety net" does change the decisions you feel comfortable making. Knowing that you have a place to go allows you to take more risks. There is a huge difference between someone who doesn't have a safety net risking their livelihood and someone who does.

Ray Smith

How interesting the part of finances. I get in the beginning what Monet was trying to say about “finical freedom” but also very much get what Bob was saying about a safety net. As someone who works in the government safety net programs there are many people out there who don’t have family that are able to take them in even for a bed to sleep on in a time of need. I understand I think that Monet was saying that her family’s money is not her money but I don’t think she was understanding what Bob was saying when it’s a whole different kind of broke when you literally have no other place to go. Of course it got extreme but still was a very interesting part to listen to

Not Mo calling bob delusional when he’s the one who believes in ghosts, souls, spirits and god. Lmfao haha smh!

Maestre

Telling your friend that they've never been broke is wild lol.

Yeah I’m with monet on this finance situation.

Cobi Kremer

Its crazy to me that bob thinks the “safety net” is for us to use. As someone to has been blessed with having the support of my family, that is NOT my money. That would be too humiliating. I feel like bob projects a lil too hard on Monet and it’s obvious bc at this point we know they had 2 very different experiences growing up. Which is fair to a certain extent but damn bob starts off with good points but it eventually gets to a very ignorant level that it gets cringier than Rupauls chocolates to watch.

Eddie Avila

Not „begging“ 🙃 sit down

Husam

Bob you are being so unfair on this finances situation. Monet was not raised by her birth mom and even though it seems she had such love and support from her family, you have NO idea what those dynamics could have been. As someone who has seen how those situations sometimes play out with family taking you in, you don't know what Monet's experience was. You need to stop projecting your experiences around money when it comes to Monet, neither of you chose to be in those situations and you can have a little more grace

tim wanjohi

I love how they are talking about the super secret project look, that wont come out for a while now, like we dont know what it is HAHAHAHA

JACOB! I love your smile! 😁

Donnie Chanel

Mo, this face is everything!! We need an updated makeup video!!! 💄💋

Donnie Chanel

This comment here!! Agreed. A lot of ppl are projecting.

Corey Green

Bob projected during that entire conversation in regard to Monet’s finances and his ideals of “being broke”. His entire pov was toxic and he based his ideals and thoughts from his own stigma, prejudice and trauma.

Corey Green

Like Monet said, Bob and some of you in these comments are conflating two ideas.

Ernesto Soriano

the queens were hot today

Spencer Bennett

these comments oh my god

Spencer Bennett

Bob so quick to attack Mo’s finances yet she’s the one who keeps begging her to go halfsies on a house. 🙄🙄

Darian Flores

I agree with Monet cause when I was getting paid from unemployment last year, oh mama I was free

GioB.

bob really let the trauma jump out and attack motets experience. reel her back in, sis

ethereal

Not Bob policing what broke means damn.

Adriana

loving all the content thankyou

Right! Lol so quick

Ruthie

jacob looks so good ! nice to see he finally got his own cam/mic on the pod ^^

ethereal

Did everyone like the chicken? I thought the chicken was lovely

@monet - is your eye okay boo bc that glitter looks like she’s giving you a hard time. Looks perfect though!!

Lexi Shelton

Cut to my silly ass actually waiting when they said "run those tapes" lmfao, I stand for a sibling rivalry shirt that says "run the tapes" Knowing they'll never actually be any tapes ran 😅😅😅😅

DEMIFrosTT

I think having a safety net is a privilege. I have a family that would support me if I needed it but I’d rather go broke than to ask as I know they have struggles too and i don’t want to be a burden. I don’t think bob should diminish those struggles just bc monet may or may not have had the privilege of a safety net

The “mooooooood” took me out 🐮🐮😂

Kelly B.

And on top of all this, there’s also the multitudes of harm done in the mass collection and selling of our data, manipulation of that data, social engineering, etc… and the impacts those actions can have on us individually and as a society.

Kelly B.

Calling out Monet will be Bob's downfall.

Some people don't have a safety net and having one is a privilege. It's ok to admit that you've had a more privileged upbringing than some. That's not something a lot of people have. Some people would he homeless if their apartment burned down. That being said It also doesn't mean Monet hasn't had to struggle on her own.

I will say, I agree with Bob on the fact that there's a difference between being broke w/ a safety net vs. no safety net. There's a different kind of pressure you put on yourself when its work or be homeless b/c you dont have family/friends help or finances to fall back on. BUT Bob was being a lil extra and invalidating Monet's struggles.

Mina

I mean… the definition of broke is having little to no money. So a person can be broke and have a net, but it doesn’t change the fact that they ARE broke. Just because you have people with money around you doesn’t mean YOU have money. But as for being broke and not having a place to go to and have to live on the streets and go hungry…that’s more like being destitute. Because you don’t have the basic necessities of life. So you can be just broke, or be broke and be destitute on top of that🤷‍♀️ I’m with Monet. I understand Bob’s point but what he is saying doesn’t constitute what brokenness is

Alice Roque

Bob don't get undereye filler! Go look up the side effects and the way fillers migrate in that area.

AmyJoy

16:13 Jacob does NOT know her 💅🏾

Whit Germano

I just want Bob to know neck rolls or not, hair or not, gut or abs, bitch you look so good! You’re so attractive

Palloae

Monet ending the podcast early is the reason these episodes are only 1 hour and not 5 😭😭😭

Sylvie

Monet is serving in that wig 😫😍🥰 Beautiful

Jacob popping up in the middle of the screen is exactly what I needed today

GioB.

one thing about the comments …

Jada Pambid

Monet has the best laugh...Bob lets work on it

GioB.

Imma be looking and waiting for this said green look 👀

Alice Roque

*gasp* My word.

Derek Williams

IM WITH BOB! That is not broke that is living check to check. Coming from a person who has been broke/struggled without an option to be saved.

Tasheena Smith

JACOB!!!!!!❤❤

Tasheena Smith

"One of us can't be in a good mood until the other person is in a bad mood." Bob surely carried out that mission today lmao

vvsmalcolm

Not Bob COMPLETELY invalidating Monet’s experience. Chileeeee 😅🥴

vvsmalcolm

Agreed

While I do understand Bob's perspective, it really came off as an invalidation to Monet's experience. We all have very very different lives, with so many variables that can define our experience with anything, so trying to gatekeeper what broke is and isn't really doesn't help anybody. Does everyone have the same experience? No. But that doesn't mean the struggle is not there. And it sorta feels like a competition on who was the most "broke", how do you even start comparing two different life scenarios from different people? It was a pretty awkward convo not gonna lie

captivaus

Literally how I feel about the podcast these days… today’s my last day as a patreon because of it 🤷🏽‍♂️

Probably because many of them are in the same boat as Monet but don't want to acknowledge their privilege. For some reason people on the Internet don't like to acknowledge their privilege, which is odd because most of us cannot help that we are privileged. It's all a game of "who's more oppressed" and if you acknowledge your privilege then you automatically lose that game.

Anthony Ashcraft

Brokeness is relative, but it's clear what Bob is talking about. Being broke and having no recourse is different from being broke and having the ability to walk to your mom's house to eat or sleep in a warm bed. That is what Bob is talking about; it's about privilege and recognizing that. Monet was trying to make it out like she was broke and struggling and that's insulting to the millions who don't have a mom they can run to.

Anthony Ashcraft

This is irrelevant to the discussion they had. From what we know, Monet was not a victim of financial abuse. Your situation is very different from someone like Monet who did have the ability to fall back on their parent's money if needed.

Anthony Ashcraft

“If it’s not green I’m not interested.” Love the wig Monet!!

not flippy dippy lippy 😂😂

scammeron

Monet is giving Womana

Daniel Pichardo

privileged people LOVEEE to say “nobody paid for my college” like they’re doing summ

Karen Carlos

bob is soooo right privileged people like monet who have always had a security net are a whole different softer version of “broke” “struggling” etc

Karen Carlos

Omg Yay Jacob has audio and video. Welcome cutey

Ashvir Mohan

I can’t believe they outdid themselves with an argument so epic that I forgot to say JACOB ON CAMERA YAS DIVA and it wasn’t even on Rivalry

Adrian

Bob is right idc

Adrian

I grew up wealthy. But my parents did not serve as a safety net for me. When I was 16, I was afforded the privilege of receiving a new car, it was a jeep liberty. My parents forced me to work part time in high school but that was not enough money to pay for my gas guzzling jeep’s gas on the way to and from school, which was a long drive round-trip and was taxing on my gas-insufficient jeep. As a result, my car was constantly on E and I was in constant fear of my car stopping because literally all my money went to gas so I could drive to school. And when I asked them for some extra money needed in order to sufficiently sustain my gas tank, they did not help me. It was incredibly stressful and made going driving stressful. Also, while I again recognize the privilege of being afforded a new car at 16, it was heavily used against me. I grew up in an abusive and toxic household and I frequently left my house out of fear and need for safety. I would find a parking lot somewhere and sleep in my car. When I wouldn’t come home, my dad would threaten to call the cops and report my car stolen because it was in his name. In college, I also worked. But again, it was part-time and not enough money to sustain gas and groceries. $7.25/hour and like 11-15 hours/week. I had the safety-net of my parents sending me money but not really… it was such a small amount that did not serve me well or provide much security. If I can remember correctly I think it was $20 a week? There was a time I didn’t eat for two days because I didn’t have groceries. I finally asked my roommate if I could have a piece of bread to make toast. When I called my parents and told them, my dad lost his mind at me because he felt that the school should have been providing me enough food. He said he was going to take me out of the student campus apartments and put me back in the dorms to get more food options or something? The issue there was my parents did not put a sufficient amount of money on my student food account to sustain me throughout the year. Luckily, he didn’t follow through with this threat. Working full-time was not an option for me. It was definitely financial abuse, which is real and common, especially executed by those with narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, which my dad has. Even asking for money was terrifying and the fear of asking what’s traumatic itself. But in the limited times I did ask, he would scream at me and it was terrifying and traumatic. I never felt financially safe and secure as his child. I felt financially controlled and caged and felt that my love was being bought — because it was. I’m now in my 30s but as a young adult in my 20s and struggling with credit card debt, ny rich ass parents did serve as a source of support and help. My mom would sometimes help me a little when she could but it had to be kept a secret because if my dad found out she was ever helping me in anyway, even if it was small, it was dangerous for her. And for me. So just because someone comes from a family of means, it does not mean that their family serves as a source of financial security.

This episode was a SPICY meatball. Also team Monet on this one. Honorable mention to Jacob: he gave what needed to be given with the mic and the video ❤️

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THANK YOU!!!!

Matthew Ramchand

I love Bob but I do wish he would check in with himself more vs lashing out. He's enigmatic, funny and a great debater. Those are great qualities but unchecked can become really controlling and toxic. I do think sometimes he crosses a line where it's not needed, just to be "right". I know he's sick so that's definitely a factor but that's my point too. As Monet said that's not her problem and she shouldn't be a punching bag because Bob doesn't feel well. You've got a ride or die with Monet. Don't tarnish it for a moment of feeling superior Bob. Love you both

Garret

The Grumpery is real! Brokeness is so relative. It would be interesting if Bob relistens and reacts to this when he's feeling better.

And just because you have the net, doesn’t mean you don’t struggle or aren’t poor. It doesn’t make you any better or whatever. It just means there is a difference. There’s nothing offensive about that. It’s offensive to refuse to acknowledge it.

Shawn Colapietro

Bob is right about the net. There is a difference between being in that situation with a net and being in that situation without a net. I aged out of foster care and I’ve worked so hard, earned a full ride to my dream school and flew myself from Arizona to Georgia. No family. No physical home. I relied on campus dorms. Then Covid hit. Suddenly I was a 19 year old who was forced to fly "home" but literally did not have one. I literally had no where to go. I was homeless in arizona during a pandemic. It was awful and I was so lucky and thankful to find help. Now I’m in my own apartment and am building stability and that would have never happened if I didn’t have someone help me with my most basic needs. That net I was granted literally saved my life and there are a lot of people in similar situations. This is something I argue with my boyfriend about. He doesn’t understand how lucky he is to have a home to always go too when things go wrong. He grew up very fortunate and even though that’s not his money and he doesn’t have direct access to any of it, he will always be okay. I don’t have that luxury in the slightest.

Shawn Colapietro

Bob is very sensitive about the pack of hot dogs growing on his neck 😔

Whit Germano

yeoooo bob honestly i relate so hard. to tell you i just came out of hospital for my stupid appendix deciding to nearly explode and yes, A COLDSORE

bob, youre on your cancerian shit. admiddiit. Im going through it too. frfr. #solidarity

The queen of “my truth” and “my experience” sure is singing a different tune this episode.

Genosai

Bob, you can’t gate keep being poor.

Sarah Gray

Bob, I encourage you to watch the documentary on Netflix, The Social Dilemma. It interviews top engineers and executives of tech companies like Instagram and Facebook and explores the social and physiological science of how social media use, which is largely used with our phones, is massively detrimental to our mental health and well-being and ultimately our quality of life. It also heavily discusses how using our phones, even without using social media, is detrimental to our health. They talk about how constantly receiving push notifications on your phone, whether it’s from a news outlet, social media, or some other application, is providing humans with an incessant and crippling need to receive dopamine through notifications on our phones to validate our worth, value, and significance. The docu is deeply enlightening and it both affirmed and validated my experience with excessive phone usage. I don’t even use social media anymore. I’ve deleted all of my apps except for Patreon! Oh, and the Restless Network, which is a social media app made for women by women. It’s a small community sans the toxicity of IG, FB, Twitter, Reddit, and the like.

My toxic trait is I want an exit letter from an ex. I’m a weirdo I like to know what I’m doing wrong to do better in the next relationship. I don’t want to be delusional in these streets.

chafnx

I just felt bad for Monet this episode. 🥺❤️❤️

I've never heard "almost literally" before 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Gotta love Monét

what you guys are saying about that financial literacy... im nineteen and see absolutely no reason to go on living in this world :)

gv

Here's to a speedy recovery Bob!

jessica bw

Sometimes it doesn’t even seem like this podcast contains arguments or an exchange of opinions and views. It seems like Bob is just logging on to use Monet as a punching bag.

It's extremely unnerving to see someome be told what their experience was by someone else who didn't live it.

Dan Farrell

Agreed. Having a relation's couch to sleep on doesn't negate from the fact a person may not have any money in their own account. I think Bob's idea of broke is going to hurt a lot of people listening.

Dan Farrell

I can't help but find Bob extremely out of touch in this episode. It was extremely uncomfortable to see him tell Monét about her own experiences. I understand that there are different extremes of broke-ness but just because 'worst case scenario' you could stay in your parent's home doesn't change that your bank account could still very well be empty. Bob seems uncomfortable with the idea that maybe he isn't the only one who has struggled. I take everything with a pinch of salt and obviously love them. This was just not it.

Dan Farrell

something about bob feeling like he has the jurisdiction to make remarks and statements carried by accusatory absolutes on monets personal experience is a bit short sided. it truly is his way or the highway and he never seems to possess the mental capacity to put aside his ego for 2.5 seconds to see that maybe JUST maybe, his way of thinking and his perspective isn’t the most valid one.

How Bob gonna say you have to wake up and accept the fact that we're living in a capitalist society and that's the reality and then tell Monet a fairytale about how it's absolutely possible to be free ONLY if you let go of the money and live backpacking like... Monet clearly was talking about feeling free within the capitalist society Bob just said we had to accept, and she was completely right. Stability will make you feel better and free to live your life within "the rules" created by money. No tea but sometimes Bob just seems like she wants to feel above Monet's beliefs for no reason other than "Monet comes from money"

Golden

I always think Bob is like seriously on point. There are different levels of broke, but homeless and hungry is broke. No family(net) is broke broke. I’ve never had to do it but see it so much.

Robert Harrold

I love Bob but he always wants to be right so bad even if that means being ridiculous and pedantic or even outright mean

mattdeb21

Kay . The haunted question….there was a place in NYC called “ Billy’s” (I think?) It was basically an antique oddity-esque shop. That place felt fn haunted.

Gray

omg are they talking about at the Superstars sea son at 9:00 + ? Can't wait to see Monét crush it

mattdeb21

There are absolutely different degrees of "broke" that people are contending with but I'm ultimately team bob. quite surprised to see so many disagreeing

Same here & I definitely agree

wow bob was overboard on this one i felt sorry for mo by the end bob disagreed with anything and every word mo had to say it was too much!

chris s

I’m just here for Jacob finally getting his moment to shine.

Sebastian Franco

If you're having a bad sexual experience, you can and really should address it in the moment. You can try to give cues that you're not enjoying something by the sounds you make or ways you physically react. Faking it serves no one but the other person. If you have to, verbally ask them to slow down and let them know what you like. If they can't take constructive criticism in order to make the experience enjoyable for both of you, then they are selfish. Their ego is not worth more than your orgasm. Also, don't be afraid to show a partner how you like to be touched. And voice these opinions sooner than later, so your sex partner doesn't feel blindsided.

Gayle King Kong

I love y’all but I disagree with Bob. When I was younger my mom was working paycheck to paycheck trying to support me and my siblings and we were evicted 2 times but like Monet, we were fortunate to have family that we were able to move in with. My mom was BROKE but we had the option of moving into my aunts apartment. My aunts money was not my moms money, they had money but she was broke.

Aryan Peralta

I feel like I get what Bob and Monet are both saying. I'm sure if you've lived your life in survival mode with no guarantee you won't be homeless in a week, being "broke" and having a safety net seem contradictory. BUT I think in the society we live in, there's pressure coming from so many directions (family, peers, internalized shit) to make money and if you're not meeting the ideal of being able to spend freely and not worry about money, you feel broke. I think about SZA, whose parents are both successful media executives, who has several songs about times in her life when she was broke, working as a bartender, etc. Her struggle is still valid, it's just a different struggle than being in the absolute depths of poverty. It's more to do with self-worth, expectations, not to mention paying the bills while doing what makes her happy. Capitalism fucks us all up.

Doug C

Absolutely see where Bob is coming from, It's similar to how people saw a person is rich vs wealthy, Growing up having the resources to have a place to go. It's life or death for some people, being broke to me means having absolutely no where to go because that has been a reality for me and many people our entire lives.

I guess Roberta wasn't lying about the mood thing, she came for Monet neck! But I agree with Monet.

I have come to learn that peoples definitions of being broke vary widely, so I think that is coming into play here. But I think it is willfully ignorant to act like having parents or any support system to fall back on, especially if they live close by, doesn’t factor into your level of “brokeness”. This is coming from someone who can relate to Monet’s more comfortable-yet-broke situation than someone without a safety net of some kind.

Brandon Crawford

Bob really said fuck Monet tonight, huh

Sarah Gray

bob being a capitalist realist 😭

Jacob

Ooooh the comments are spicy tonight!! Bob, please take care of your health first and foremost. I don't think anyone on the Patreon would be upset if you rested and focused on feeling better ❤️❤️❤️

Sarah St. Michael

Bob warned us about being in a MOOD! Blame it on the Rona. I love the Jacob pop-ins.

Ali J

I legit dont even want to like this video because Bob was being so harsh about Monet never being broke. It made me super uncomfortable, and then just sad to see how taken aback and speechless Monet was.

Agreed

Yeah. Just because you have the option, doesn't mean it is good for you or something you arent desperately doing everything you can to avoid.

Bob is wild for telling Monét her life story and she’s never been broke. Just because someone has somewhere to go if there place burns down doesn’t mean they wouldn’t know the struggle.

Ceka

I definitely sympathize more with Bob on the "being broke" conversation, but I guess just like there are different types of rich people (new money, old money, etc), there can also be different levels/types of broke-ness. Have to commend Monet on handling that conversation with grace despite Bob kind of coming for her lol, she moved right along to the next question.

That's what you have to pay to rent an apartment in the city. Being "rich" has nothing to do with it, which she is not.

Mel8235

I love you both but Bob is wild. How can he just tell Monet she’s never been broke. Maybe she hasn’t struggled like you but I’m sure she’s been broke before. Just because you have a family member that has a home you could move into if you couldn’t pay rent does not mean you’re no longer broke. The definition of Broke: having completely run out of money. Am I missing something. If after parting your bills and not having any money afterwards that means you are Broke. Now maybe Bob meant she maybe never been broke broke lol. Love you both 🤎🤎

Diamond Nicole

i’m finding it hard to believe that people don’t know of others who had a house and a car and were still broke. not everyone struggle looks the same

Jared Williams

Where’s PFI

lol monet ol rich ass sat there and tried to convince us the struggle of being able to pay 3 months rent. deposit. security all at once. you poor thing 🤣🤣🤣 gotta love her lol

toy_soldier32

The poem question was *so weird* to me. Like I truly was struggling to figure out what that person wanted from Bob and Monet besides being told it was OK to send the poem insulting the guy.

Alex

The Jacob Cam. Good idea 🙌🏻

don't want to belabor this, but as someone who has truly never been flat broke, with literally no one to fall back on, it is absolutely different to personally not have any money but have a family/stability/resources to fall back on then to be completely, flat broke. For me personally, I've always had a parent who is financially stable, and who I know would take care of me if I needed it, but I've never felt comfortable with that option, because that relationship has been really abusive and threatening for me my whole life. And honestly, even with that, I think it's absolutely true that I feel safer and feel more comfortable taking risks and going for things that I want because of the reality that I have that option. There are times when I would have been houseless had it not been for my family, and I know friends who are houseless because they didn't have that resource or option. Sorry for the novel, just think there's an important difference (as someone who's never been truly broke), love you Bob & Monet <3

dylanfaye

I feel like bob was talking about the privilege to be able to fall back on your parents or family members for financial support in dire situations like being evicted, or being homeless and Monet was just taking about not having money in general and struggling to find it in order to pay bills etc. I see both sides of the argument but I thought they were talking about different subjects really

PappyJan

Just because monets family house was in close proximity does not make her not broke (at the time) !!

Monet deffo right on this one

being broke is relative, however speaking as someone that was homeless at one point in his life, cuz my entire family passed away before 23. it definitely hits differently when you have no one to help in times of need. it adds a whole extra level of stress. ill never forget one of my friends told me they were broke and they fully had 20k sitting in their savings account.. bitch where. lol

Burt

Not saying anti-capitalism is keeping some people broke 💀

this. one. was. SPIIIIICYYYYY

Clare C.

I think if ghosts were real or the way people say they are we would definitely know by now. Like there’d definitely be a dating app for them by now lol.

Bob pleaaaase take care of your voice!!! Maybe you should do some warm ups or have speech therapy so you don’t lose it again ❤️❤️

Dominic Lawson

Just wanted to say that you can be anti-capitalist and be financially literate and benefit from investment programs. Capitalism is not “when money.” The answer is just about financial literacy and that can be applied to any system of government. Capitalism is designed to keep marginalized people oppressed and broke, it relies on it. So personally never boarding that train. 😳

Bob, I love you, but stop acting like because Monet's family owned a home they were rich or wealthy or she never experienced being broke. This is a house in East Flatbush. It's the hood and the houses were cheap. That's how most of the West Indian families got some of these homes. They bought houses in areas white people didn't want to live in and built the community that way (some of them were also illegal landlords, but that's another topic for another day) . Also, we don't know what financial situation Monet's family was in. Also, I find it hard to believe Bob doesn't know any Black people who had a house, had a car, and were still broke.

Mel8235

Lmao at some of these questions, I guess some folks really are out there in the world trying to find justifications to just straight out be mean to people. Yikes.

Nicolas Leiva Herrera

Bob was getting messy in this one !!! He did say he was in a mood 🤣🤣😂

You can be broke and have a place to go to if you're in need... whaaaaat??? Bob, you're in a mood and trippin... still love you though

So bob’s logic would mean that no one in his family is now broke because they have him. Mone’t can have experienced financial instability and be broke without having the same extreme poverty that bob experienced and grew up in. Conflating social capital and familial wealth with individual stability gets tricky when you are talking about minoritized people. I think there needs to be recognition that monets situation was way safer than bobs and people who have serious Intergenerational poverty and also comparing Monet to the truly wealthy . Monet still had student loans, still had to eat ramen noodles (which is actually the definition of food insecurity )

Elle Lett (madblqscientist)

I as a listener and a viewer would like to have a word with Bob. You come to work with just as much of a attitude as Miss Monèt. My word has been spoken. Good bye. (TBH tho most of the time ya’ll in a good mood tho lol)

Anthony

Aww, Jacob so cute

aron rod

Jacobs face popping back in to say thanks to Bob really tickled me

Gosh my heart warms every time I hear Jacob's mic 😭😭😭thank you thank you thank you

Dylan

Damn Omarion got Bob. And Monet, tell Patty put the enrollment date on both your calendars so you don’t forget.

Mel8235

yes Jacob cam!

Jennifer M

nvm

Kaiser is everything! You get everything done in one place. Forever staying with kaiser, lol.

Ashley Brown

Notification popped up just when I finished watching the Janet Jackson documentary.

Mel8235

can we get a jacob reveal

woohoooo

pasghett

Yay!!

Sage