Sibling Rivalry S3 EP13: The One About The State of America

Took me awhile to watch this. The trauma 2020 caused racially, is tiring. But I’m glad I finally watched. Love you both❤️

Jeanette Carter

I just joined y’all’s patreon and I’m very late to this video, but I just want to squeeze you both <3 I can’t imagine the pain black people in this country feel or felt especially last year around this time. Thank you for being so vulnerable to have this conversation in a public format. I know we still have a long way to go, but I hope you feel more hopeful for the future now. <3 Solidarity.

Sara Barrett

just re watched this today. It’s so easy to forget how hard 2020 was, but it’s important not to forget those lives we lost and what we’re fighting for. Thank you. I love you.

Your both beautiful souls, this video was hard to watch. The truth is a pill to swallow. It makes me soo upset that my nieces and nephews have come into this world with such racism. I thought we had moved on from it and grown. I was blinded by my own privilege and my naivety. My heart is breaking. People whom i work with and members of my own family have chosen to remain ignorant to the inhuman treatment of black people but instead have focused on the violence of looters (which, for the most part are white people). They have lost sight of the change that is needed. I hope you are both feeling better today xxx

Thank you for this video, love you both immensely

Daniel Cruz

When this podcast came out last week, I had to wait before listening to it. I knew that it would affect me and it did. To hear the quivering in Bob’s voice as he said “They don’t give a fuck about us” resonated through me. Last week, I was listening to Clara Amfo (BBC Radio1) and she described the state of the world. She said, “You want black culture, but you don’t want what comes with it. In other words, you want my talent, but you don’t want me.” I challenged all of my white friends to be that change that we are desperately begging for. Don’t sit there any give us sympathy, lock arms with us and join our voices. Thank you both for your strength.

just wanted to let you guys know that I shared this with a couple friends who didn't know you and even they were touched. this was so emotional, raw and beautiful. I love you ❤️

I was subtly crying while working today. I felt y’all so much I had to subscribe!

I hear you. ❤️

Love you so much, your lives matter. Black lives matter.

Thank you for being a light in the darkness

YOUR LIVES MATTER! WE GIVA A FUCK ABOUT YOU

Jenny Horowitz

I love you guys. I would be your human shield if it came to it. I cried with you today and I’ll cry with you again. Thank you for talking about this.

This was so powerful, so grateful for these conversations between Bob and Monét. So educational on so many levels. Stay strong, you’re fighting a good fight. ❤️

I hear you Bob about wondering where would you go to flee the Republican mentality. I feel like this is showing people's true colors. I live in the south and knowing my neighbors, leaders, and even business owners don't see or care to see the underlying issue that blacks are not treated as equals in this country makes me want to run for the hills. But where would we go? It makes me tired and sad.

we love you so much. im crying watching this right now. WE GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOU, WE WILL STAND UP FOR YOU!!!!!!

We love you. Stay strong. Take all the time you need - we'll be here.

Jacob H

Y'all probably won't even know how much this world needs you, Bob and Monet. I am crying as I type this thank you. Thanks doesn't do justice here, but please know that I am grateful to you both for taking time to post your podcasts and YouTube videos on the most important movement of my lifetime. Our hearts are broken with yours, we are crying with you. I hope that all of this pain and trauma will not be in vain. I must believe that a true revolution is on the horizon, and these travesties of justice must be seen so that the people who previously hadn't been affected by racism can see what privilege we truly have experienced because we are less melanated. I hope that we can heal these wounds, together. With every news story I see, I fear this won't happen in my lifetime. But, I remain hopeful. Please take a moment to replenish your strength and do some self-care. Put that oxygen mask on yourself and breathe before you give air to someone else. I am grateful to you both, and again thank you for being yourselves, Real American Treasures!💗💗💗💗

The "I love you"s near the end and at the end got me fucking crying. This shit is so real and I know it HAS to get fucking better than this! I really hope you both stay safe, strong, and beautiful. We won't give up!

Micah

Thank you so much for this!! This is super important to hear and will continue to share this daily in hopes that more people hear it. This needs to be played everywhere <3

Kenz Silverwolf

I wanted to thank you both Monet and Bob for doing this . This was an incredibly powerful podcast. It was very necessary and theraputic as a listener, I thank you for talking so honestly and openly about how this situation has made you feel. Please know I see you both and I love you both very much. From another perspective I think this episode deserves many many grounbreaking awards, I am sharing this episode with people asking for better resources to help build better emotional intelligence. And if you dont mind, I'm going to bother BBC Radio doggedly so they play it. It needs to be heard.

RefriedBeansUK

Wishing you both well 💗🙏🏾💗

I love you girls x

I found this episode extremely emotional, and very difficult to listen to. it’s so hard to understand how you must be feeling, but I will always stand with you 🖤🖤🖤

Always watch these and feel like I've just gone to a therapy session. I always appreciate all that you give us, I know this one especially must have been exhausting xx

I love you. shared this episode on my Instagram and Facebook ❤️

Can you please post this version on youtube? I think it will help the episode be more visible and make more of an impact with people than just the audio. I'm okay with this one not being a patreon exclusive.

Gayle King Kong

Bob & Monet, you are loved and you are not alone.

We love you. Your community raised me and you are my family. -a Mexican gay from Oakland California

Jorge Betancourt

here it is!! https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/sibling-rivalry/id1359664915?i=1000476622578

Aly

Does anyone know why this episode is no longer on the Apple podcasts? I’m trying to share this powerful insightful episode with people

i really love you guys so much.

Aly

Thanks for sharing, you two.

<3 Kia kaha from Aotearoa

Sam Fleury

Love you both. Please stay safe

Thank y’all for this

Thank you for this. Love you both

Bonnie Po

Thank you for this video. I wanted to listen to liberal queer black people talk about this issue. Sadly, you don't get this perspective on the mainstream news.

Rothman Reyes

I see you. I hear you. Stay strong and know that we are with you. Take care of yourselves. I know it's exhausting and draining and makes you want throw your hands up in disgust and give up. We need each other more than ever. Love you both!

Mary R.

"They will deport themselves"-Trump . This quote is all I could think of when Bob said he wanted to leave and didn't feel like this was his county. That is the point of this presidency and this open hostility. The ones who built on occupied land with stolen labor want everyone they have abused to leave. Mama MLK was tired, Malcolm was tired and we needed them as much as we need you both. I love you so much. If we don't belong here then where? Where are we going to build our utopia if not here. Anything you have spoken out for I have supported anyone you have told me to donate to I have donated anything you have told me to buy anywhere you tell me to be. You are both powerful leaders please do not give up hope, you are both the future, lead the way

I know it must be beyond exhausting to be strong black voices -- having to lead us, correct us, educate us, make plans and organize them for us --- so much weight is falling onto the shoulders of my black friends and black idols right now. It isn't fair. Amongst this exhaustion -- for you two to take the time to make this extremely touching video ... to spend the energy on this when you are already presumably d r a I n e d .. it gives me fuel to keep hitting the streets and protesting. Another reminder -- this is why we are fighting.

M JM

thank you, my sweet brothers...thank you for giving voice to struggle and advancing liberation. thank you. Black queer folx say, "ASHE." 🌺👊🏿🌺

blkcowrie

Thank you so much for posting, it is so meaningful. Sending you both love and support from Ireland ❤️

Sally Clarke

Bob & Monet this podcast is what everyone needs to hear right now. We will do anything but be silent during this time, you two are amazing examples of the people we need for us & others to listen & to learn from. I’m 34 was born in Chile & have lived in the USA all my life, my husband is black & we have a 5 year old. The two of us have been crying every day & it’s hard to describe what is happening to our son or why Mommy & Daddy are crying but we are doing it. My best friend, my sister of almost 20 years is black & together we have experienced horrible things but are still here because of each other’s love & protection. I hope you two continue to stay safe from this virus & from others around us that you should be able to trust. I wish everyone in this group could **hug** each other but for now sending you all bubbles of protection & love💖 Thank you for continuing with the podcast & we are all behind you no matter what - if you need to take a break of any sort or just vent how you are feeling. We are all behind & here for you👊🏾🖤🙏🏾

Rosie Goldstein

One of the most important podcast episodes I’ve heard all year. I found myself crying several times in the car this morning as I was listening on my way to work. This is really our reality 🤧. #BlackLivesMatter

i really appreciate how you decided to fill the last minutes of your time. the entire ep was completely inline with what i’m feeling and what’s been happening locally here in Chicago as well. but thank you for reminding me EXACTLY WHO i am fighting for today. thank you for saying their names.

There is so much racism within the queer community, which is on full display in the drag race fandom. World of Wonder has gone way too long without calling this out explicitly and they've allowed queens of colour to fall victim to villain edits and fan vitriol. I am from Ireland, but I can recognise that I would not be able to openly love who I live today without the queer women of colour who started the Stonewall riots. Educate your basic white friends. Thank you both for bringing so much joy to my life x

As a white gay guy I can't imagine ever thinking that my struggle dealing with heteronormativity is anything close to the experience of black people in America who have gone through decades and centuries of struggle to live in a country where they are continually systematically disadvantaged and actively oppressed. The thought that you two beautiful amazing people who bring so much joy into my life and others are experiencing this is breaking my heart. But it's not about my fucking feelings. If you're a white person whose life has been enriched by Bob and Monet, or by any black person, now is the time to amplify their voices. I really don't use social media that much but anyone can use whatever platform they have to amplify black voices, show black people that you stand with them, and racists in your circle identify themselves.

I am heartbroken and I just want to send you guys love. As a canadian, I just want to let you knowthat you reach and touch people way beyond America and that we stand with you and we support you, even though we are far from perfect outside of the USA and that it will never be enough to erase all of the evil that ocurred and that is still being done. It is unfair, it is awful and I wish it wouldn't be such a struggle for some people to recognize injustice and racism. I can't even imagine how you must feel and it pains me so freaking much to witness all this hate. Thank you so much for what you are doing and creating, you two are amazing, you're my all time favorites drag queens and I love you

I'm a black gay in NYC that mostly hangs out in HK and this conversation is so real. Just this Sunday when the byrant park protest happened I asked if people wanted to go and they were like "it has nothing to do with us." I'm honestly kind of lost rn

jguy

Thank you for summoning the energy and strength to even give us a show at a time like this. I see you both. I love you both. Thank you for using your platforms to constantly speak out and inform people (who could just honestly use fucking Google) about issues Black people have been facing for centuries. I really hope every single Ru Girl follows your lead and commits to being actively anti-racist, anti-misogyny, and anti-ableist. Did I mention I love y’all?

Nandi Wagner

Thank you Bob and Monet. For everything. I just had to pause the episode because I was getting choked up listening to you two talk about the generational trauma that white supremacists are inflicting and causing now. And have caused to black and brown and indigenous folx for hundreds of years. Thank you for being you, sending both of you virtual hugs 💗

You two are truly great human beings and I'm honored that you share your emotions, views and frustrations with us. Know that all of the world is watching and supporting you, the protesters and everyone in the black community in the USA. We all see the true colors of your president and I believe that he will get what he deserves, and all of the white supremacists worldwide with that. I will be marching in The Netherlands this Friday to show support and will fight racism in my country so my black fellow citizens can rest and live without fear. Sending lots of love and strength from overseas, I know you give me that everyday <3

Gracia Visscher

Wow. Thank You.

Bella Daleadho

🖤🖤🖤

Dawson LaRance

I had no doubts that y’all would talk about this and it’s amazing the public figures you can rely on to do it. Because honestly there are a lot of people I didn’t think would or will. If y’all have some sources and accounts that y’all follow that you think are good credible sources that have good info to stay up to date I would really love that. That’s always my problem with trying to find sm sources or even news. I don’t know who to trust. But I trust you two! 🖤🖤

Edie

Bob, Monet, I know yall are tired. Please know we support you. You said, we have been fighting for 5 centuries in this country. You dont deserve to be exhausted based on your existence. You are beautiful, smart, talented black women. A blessing to this Earth. All nonblack allies have your back for this and our brothers and sisters are resilient. I love you guys.

this was so heartbreaking and it is crazy, the world we are living in at this moment. i love you too so much. i know how hard it can be to keep strong, but at least keep going <3

Thank you so much for posting this and it's so sad that we've come to this in this country. I was living in STL when Mike Brown was shot. I remember driving back to STL from Memphis and being pulled over thinking I can't die out in nowhere Missouri when my mom is waiting for me to say I made it home. Even living in AZ now, a mall was looted by me this past weekend terrifies me. As a black woman, I'm just exhausted. When will this end? And like you Bob, I thought about leaving this country too, but I can't leave a place my ancestors built. Stay strong! #blacklivesmatter

Ps thank you for being vulnerable and sharing it’s fucking hard

I’m listening hard, sending you all my love, sharing recourses, educating myself, donating and will continue to do what I can to be an active ally. Love and appreciate you both so much, stay safe xx

Kelly

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Listening to this makes me feel connected and heard. As a black person, I am proud to call you my sisters. We shall overcome. PS Bob, when you mentioned thinking of leaving the country - I did exactly this last year because I just didn’t feel safe in NYC and had to find something better, even if marginally. ❤️

Shyla

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Bob, Monet, thank you so much for sharing your incredibly true and inspiring insights. The comparison of growing pains and needing new clothes is spot on. I live in Amsterdam and approximately 5.000 people gathered on our town square to show their support for Black Lives Matter. But all the media talks about now is how irresponsible it was for these people (including the mayor) to join a gathering in Covid-times. The true issue is being ignored, which is frustratingly typical for the way we have handled discussions about racism in our country before. I am so thankful to know you two and be able to listen to your powerful words. Lots of love! Xxx

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As a black person, thank you. Thank you for using your platform for this even though we know you have BEEN a force of change. You didn’t have to speak on this but I’m grateful that y’all did. I know it’s tiring and frustrating but necessary change has never come easy. Keep fighting the good fight. #BLM

Bob and Monét we see your pain, anger, sadness everything! We stand with you against the systemic racism and those who support and enact it against your people. Take strength Bob and Monét we are here to fight with you - they will not win! 🖤🖤🖤

Jonathan Rojas

love you guys so much.

Love you guys, thank you ❤️❤️

This like everything lately has been tough to watch. I myself have been profiled by the police on numerous occasions. Never once was I booked. Never once did I feel safe like I would even see the inside of a precinct. Here I am a grown gay black male and the presence of police takes me back to that dark place.

Tre Willz

#SayTheirNames #LetItBurn

Bob and Monet please, please, take care of your mental health as well. We love you and we thank you for your fight and sharing so much to us and getting us through these past months. I’m so worried about you both especially Bob after watching this :( Please take even an hour of self-care. We want to be ready to keep fighting and not succumb to hopelessness. Thank you for everything.

aina

I wanted to let you know how much you are my queens always and forever. With everything that’s happening with the African American community you had time to apologise, learn and move on on the last podcast. Love you Monet. Blak in terms of the first Australians is political term rather than racial.. they still get every derogatory term for black person thrown at them from people.. still. Are 3% of the overall population and 27% of the incarcerated population. I love you both so much. It breaks my heart that you and the community have to go through this. I hope both yourselves and family are as well you can be. standing in solidarity with you. Protests have happened and will be happening in Australia this weekend to honor George Floyd, the cause and to stand in solidarity, these are run by indigenous Australians. Remain blessed.

I love you two so much 🖤. Thank you for making your art and sharing your words. #BlackLivesMatter.

I've been watching these videos of peaceful protesters being beat, gassed, and shot non stop this week. I cant stop crying. How, many people who I've considered close friends my whole life defending these behaviors. How do You justify this? How do you justify the killing of unarmed black men in women in this county? I was dumb to think this could never happen to this country. I went to a protest in Stl Friday and it was beautiful. Community peacefully coming together to say this isn't right. The black people in this community and throughout the world are being murdered!!! I left that night feeling hopeful but then I go home and see these videos and my heart broke. I'm losing hope for the future and I'm so terrified of whats to come.

Love you, Bob! Love you, Monet! Thanks for all your words! Thanks for all you are!

My two queens!! In that order. ✨

This whole situation is exactly the reason why we have the second amendment and what NRA supporters claim they need their AK-47’s for. But they are silent. Why? Because it’s happening to black and brown people and people who are fighting on our behalf. So it seems they never intended on those rights to be for everyone, just an excuse to have their guns. That is unless they are continued to be expected to wear masks, then they will be up in arms again (pun intended).

Jonathan Hairston

Did you and monet end up having a convo with the hater under Bianca post wayy back when

Aceomy

Bob and Monét are just so amazing. They deserve so much better than what they are given in this broken ass world. I love you guys so fucking much!

Thank you both for being the amazing people you are. Sorry the world isn't built to let you shine. Black lives matter.

Aisling

I love you, both. So much. Thank you for sharing your words. ❤️❤️❤️

Black lives fucking matter. I hope you’re both staying safe! much love, look after yourselves ❤️

🖤🖤🖤

#Blacklivesmatter

oh here we go hell yes

Julien Vinluan