Why Compromise in Relationships is NECESSARY! (MHC)
Added 2025-03-20 21:33:18 +0000 UTC<3 you guys so much!
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Thank you 🙏, this is really nice
Gabriel Arambulo
2025-05-10 02:50:46 +0000 UTCReally nice to see u 2 in a video again it’s been really long💙 Iast time I saw a video with your wife in it was the se7en reaction :)) and it’s nice to see u guys agreeing with each other! :) I remember that not being the case in the reaction video 😂😂 much love!
Joel
2025-03-26 00:30:10 +0000 UTChaha
Piipiipoopoo520
2025-03-25 16:22:48 +0000 UTCSo fun that your wife joined us today!🙌 You got a beautiful wife. I'm happy for ya! If she wants it would be fun if you had her with you in more videos. Maybe some reactions😄
Piipiipoopoo520
2025-03-25 16:21:10 +0000 UTCThis was cool. Loved hearing from wifey! Much love to you both. 🫶
Amber A.
2025-03-24 22:50:50 +0000 UTCI guess hot chicks really do go after geeky, emotional nerd boys. Props to you, Alex.
Daisy Azuras
2025-03-23 18:56:27 +0000 UTCHey guys! I'm a new subscriber here, but I've got a strong background in psychology. It was one of my majors, have many friends in the field, and have been immersed in it for over a decade. You guys are killing it.. If you guys haven't done therapy I'd be gobsmacked. You touched on solid topic after solid topic. Keep up the great work and continue to spread great content. You guys are affecting people in a great way.
Jason Grier
2025-03-23 01:29:47 +0000 UTCThanks for the monthly checks guys. Much love from AZ
James (Tony) Costabile
2025-03-23 00:42:07 +0000 UTCJust wanted to say much love Alex and Sarah and to all the patrons, lucky to be a part of such a wonderful community. Love you guys❤️❤️❤️
Micah Carlson
2025-03-22 07:31:30 +0000 UTCI needed to see this so much, thank you
Michael
2025-03-22 04:38:49 +0000 UTCtried on 3 devices, was out of sync by a few seconds on all
Thomas Heap
2025-03-22 02:12:55 +0000 UTCMight be just the device your using perhaps?, this MHC seems perfectly fine audio wise
Kobain Hine(Kyber)
2025-03-22 02:12:22 +0000 UTCIts awesome to see the wifey getting involved with this months MHC!! You both are absolutely right about compromise and self reflection, It took me a long time to self reflect properly but lately I've been getting better and better at it, Understanding myself more and more, I feel is really helping with my day to day life! Thank you both for this video as always Legends!
Kobain Hine(Kyber)
2025-03-22 02:08:03 +0000 UTCIdea for the next one: Wifey only. Topic: what is your opinion on who Alex is and how is he different from the Alex we see. Then the video is uploaded without Alex watching. THEN we get a reaction video from Alex to it! ;)
Daniel Brisson
2025-03-21 23:45:43 +0000 UTCi love how much different alex's demeanor is when he isn't by himself in his office
canonscott
2025-03-21 18:23:10 +0000 UTCThank you for sharing that! I love this community and I’m glad you’re finding comfort in it as well!
Alex Hefner
2025-03-21 17:27:23 +0000 UTCAwesome advice! Communication, compromises, and respecting each other's boundaries are three things I apply to every relationship. I am enormously self aware, because I've had years and years of therapy. That doesn't help when your partner doesn't respect those three things. And gaslights you into thinking it's all your fault. I just got out of an abusive relationship. I was hundred miles away from home, and my boyfriend was getting out of hand. It's one thing to joke and have fun, it's another when you go way too far with a joke. I never knew what was coming. So I left, got a hotel for 2 nights before I could get a plane outta there. The reason I bring this up, is because without communication, compromise, and respecting each other's boundaries the relationship is doomed to fail. I just lost my best friend because she didn't respect my boundaries. Over and over I let it slide, but I finally was fed up. I can't keep being a doormat. I don't know why I just said all that. Maybe it's because I know y'all don't know me or who I'm talking about so I can be more free with my troubles. Whatever the reason, it felt good to say and get off my chest. Thank you, Alex and wifey for giving me a place I can feel safe to share. ❤️ These check ins are really fantastic. Thanks for doing what you do ❤️
Heather Tayse
2025-03-21 14:51:03 +0000 UTCAgreed !! 😉
💫 ZenNova ✨
2025-03-21 05:13:01 +0000 UTCJust remember things can only get better if your here to see it! ❤
Melody Netherton
2025-03-21 03:12:43 +0000 UTCCoffee coffee. He loves that coffee. By the way I’ve always wondered what his brand if he has one he caters to as for me I’m flexible due to price and flavor of the month I’m in the mood for.
chris fumo
2025-03-21 02:11:41 +0000 UTCI have my friends that are sadly on the other side of the USA that kept me from giving up on life after I had multiple suicidal thoughts when my ex abandoned me and her children for a drug dealer. I’ve been there for them for many years and now they are my foundation for my restoration of self and rediscovery of what I nearly lost.
chris fumo
2025-03-21 02:08:22 +0000 UTCSo true and sad there were many times in my recent passing of a 15+ yrs relationship I sacrificed more but at times I felt I got the 30-40% i was willing to get in it but soon started seeing that number dwindle to nearly 1% I truly married a narcissist and someone that clearly was mentally damaged to many things that happened to her as a child. It is sad but I felt over time even as an adult you should recognize those harmful things one developed and see the harm it does to love ones. I say as one becomes an adult one has no right to justify their pain as a means to hurt others that only want the best for them, basically being self saboteurs to be seen as victim when they truly aren’t and many can tell from true victims and a wolf in sheep clothing. I was and still am not perfect but that is what makes us human were imperfect creatures but never should give any one right to be negative to others.
chris fumo
2025-03-21 02:05:14 +0000 UTCI definitely resonate so much on what you said dude and sadly I knew ahead of the train collision but I felt those kids didn’t deserve to suffer as no one in their family was willing to lift a finger and they knew exactly how mentally damaged this person was to others.
chris fumo
2025-03-21 01:58:10 +0000 UTCI’m not perfect and I saw the writing on the wall Alex 5-8 years ago but I didn’t want to be another statistic of a father potential because my ex was being difficult and that is putting it mildly. Many friends and family commended me for sticking it out for 15+ years of verbal abuse, gaslighting, blaming me as the reason that we had hardships and so on. I stick it out because if I left they were left alone with someone that is mentally broken and her own family knows this and yet refuses to step in to get their daughter or their sister the medical help she needs saying she’s an adult. A lot of the time it took extreme or me begging for their help and that hardly ever helped. I developed short term anger issues which I’m hard to anger, I know it shortens one’s life but so does extreme stress. I’ve done therapy but I was either treated as the problem because she victimized herself or I saw myself to them as an hour patient and not a human needing when I literally reached out with a extremely sharp blade at my wrist. I’m a mild depression person but I’ve gotten better over the eyes but when I got with her I went into the deepest darkest depths of a person hell and ultimately blamed myself for not only my problems but the family I took on. I’m still great with the children, more so than their mother plus rebuilding my relationship w my biological child that ex nearly destroyed behind my back. I stayed true to not leave as she left me for a drug dealer that was also cheating on his soon to be ex and I caught them in the act even though they don’t know it plus she did some illegal things to me and her youngest while still living under same roof. The youngest is with their dad and the other thankfully became an adult before things got cra-cra. I’m doing better mentally but I’m moving back east after sacrificing my relationship w my biological child. Plus getting into my career as a multimedia web designer, graphic artist, professional chef and now soon to be professional writer like Stephen King. So even though I’m 45 I love your Patreon and all the Hefnerds I grown to appreciate. We are a family. Sorry for the long spiel I hope you Alex gets to read this and know you are a huge help in my mental health and I’m greatly thankful I came across you on YouTube and took a chance back when you were Hiphop head listening to metal. Love Slipknot, I’m a 90s Maggot. Take care ✌️❤️🐈⬛ bro
chris fumo
2025-03-21 01:54:14 +0000 UTCWhen’s the next q & a btw?? I have a few lol and I understand there is too many people to answer everything in the chat
Logan Staffer
2025-03-21 01:17:48 +0000 UTCyeah, like a mom watching their kid doing stupid shit but they're used to it by now so they just wait till they're finished😂😂
Oscar A
2025-03-21 01:01:46 +0000 UTCLove this talk from you and your wife Alex! These topics are much needed. I appreciate the energy you seed through your content. One aspect I wanted to add is Making sure you’re not Over-Compromising. You can pour too much of your cup into someone who is not refilling it. You can allow yourself to be taken advantage of by narcissists who will groom you into complete self sacrifice. Part of learning about communication is realizing what you teach people about how they can treat you by what you allow without saying anything. One of the biggest lessons I learned was Self Love and choosing myself first, because you have to put your oxygen mask on first before helping anyone else. You won’t be who you want to be for your partner if you’re not loving yourself first. What makes you the best version of yourself is what’s best for the relationship and what your partner deserves.
Josh Bruner
2025-03-20 23:58:12 +0000 UTCAmazing advise and yes Compromise is very important in all sorts of relationships idk if you covered this but another important thing is not to be too passive to the point your continuously being the one making the compromises it has to be a near even split on making compromises for each other 🫶🏻
Wolffe5989
2025-03-20 23:56:45 +0000 UTCShe’s definitely super used to it by now 😂
Chad Higgins
2025-03-20 23:49:21 +0000 UTCMaybe this isn’t the space 😬 but Silver Linings Playbook is a great movie. Bradley Cooper and Robert De Niro’s characters both suffer with mental illness. It’s really good.
Theresa
2025-03-20 23:29:14 +0000 UTCI complety agree with telling people when stuff bugs you. I try to do that with my friends in a nice way. It has helped my social anxiety so much. The real friends will care when they upset you and respect your boundarys
Melody Netherton
2025-03-20 23:20:48 +0000 UTCALEXXXXX the audio is pretty out of sync haha ❤️
Thomas Heap
2025-03-20 22:32:42 +0000 UTCYou both have such beautiful smiles. Appreciate this video very much!
Tyleror
2025-03-20 22:30:24 +0000 UTCThanks for the goochslaps last night🥰
Joeyrke
2025-03-20 22:28:01 +0000 UTCI would love to have family videos!! That could be amazing
Eric & Erika
2025-03-20 22:27:47 +0000 UTCDidn't expect to see Ms. Hefner on camera. Awesome <3
IGOR PODEMSKI
2025-03-20 22:26:52 +0000 UTCI loved this talk. I think while on the surface they may seem like simple concepts the more you think about them the more you realize how they apply to your own life and how you can endlessly improve at them.
Will
2025-03-20 22:26:47 +0000 UTCWifey is gorgeous and wise! So are you 😂
Heida
2025-03-20 22:12:29 +0000 UTCShe reminds me of Helly from Severance lol!
Mo
2025-03-20 22:10:09 +0000 UTCI always look forward to these
Xmrtehe
2025-03-20 22:07:55 +0000 UTCthis is great stuff Alex
Caleb Lloyd
2025-03-20 22:05:08 +0000 UTCAwesome advice from both of yous, and very honest advice, appreciate you guys 👍
James Skates
2025-03-20 22:04:52 +0000 UTC❤️ So much love, Alex!!!!
Alexas aka sellexi13
2025-03-20 22:03:17 +0000 UTCGreat video! 🙌 best of luck with the communication and keep at it!
D D
2025-03-20 22:01:59 +0000 UTCThank you so much for this. Needed it bad
Ki M
2025-03-20 21:57:56 +0000 UTCi love how she just sits there in silence looking at you while you do you stupid usual shit lmao. Amazing video tho, wifey seems like an amazing person and also very emotionally intelligent i guess is the right word to describe it. Much love to you both, hope u got her that coffee<3
Oscar A
2025-03-20 21:55:15 +0000 UTCWe get the wifey on camera W
Steve
2025-03-20 21:38:13 +0000 UTCFirst time seeing one of these and absolutely love it. This is such a good idea and helps more people than you’ll know
Zack Vincent
2025-03-20 21:37:45 +0000 UTCThanks Alex. I Needed to hear that. P.S Glad to see she joined you on this.
Joseph Stelzer
2025-03-20 21:35:53 +0000 UTCYay!!!
Rocky🧡
2025-03-20 21:34:51 +0000 UTCLove ya too.
bilbyman does stuff
2025-03-20 21:34:16 +0000 UTC
