Mental Health Check
Added 2023-11-21 23:56:49 +0000 UTCHey guys!
I wanted to touch base with all of you and offer an avenue for you guys to touch base with me, as well!
Here is the link to the Discord if you want to join the stage on Friday: https://discord.gg/mEczYGWT
I love you all so damn much, and I am here for each and every one of you! :)
Love,
Alex
Comments
I work on ships a lot so I’ve only just seen this and I cried within 20 seconds 😅 it’s lovely having someone care enough.
Ruarí Kelsey
2023-11-30 02:39:31 +0000 UTClove you Alex, genuinely just a great guy. honestly, right now my mind is all over the place. things feeling worthless, feeling trapped, things like that. trying to be optimistic, since i have an amazing girlfriend, a job i like, friends i love. it's just been hard recently. i will say though, watching your movie channel is definitely one of the things that helps me get through it. just wanna say thank you for everything man, we all love you
Bobo The Hobo
2023-11-25 00:03:08 +0000 UTCHello Alex and fellow travelers. I'm a self-published author on Amazon who is looking for an audience. i'm 55 years old and have been doing my best to battle early onset Parkinson's disease for the last 21 years. as my physical health began to decline, making it difficult for me to continue working, I put myself through college and earned a masters in creative writing. 8 years later i'm working on my 11th novel in an ongoing series about monsters living among us with at least 3 more planned to follow if my disease allows me to write them. I'm not trying to drum up sales, in fact i'm willing to email free copies of my books out to anyone who is willing to help me out. what i'm looking for is feedback and some help stirring up interest in the series. ultimately i think this would be a fun show to watch on Netflix or some such venue. if anyone is interested in reading my books, i'd love the company on my journey. my email is puppetmasterrx@yahoo.com if you'd like a free copy of book 1: Missing Persons. i hope it's cool for me to drop my email here. As my disease progresses, it gets harder and harder to motivate myself to keep writing. thanks in advance to any inspirationi can get.
Rex Crossley
2023-11-24 07:26:40 +0000 UTCI think it's very cool of you to ask. This time of year is like a mental mind field for me personally. The family get gatherings are toxic at best. With adult children I was really looking forward to not having to host any more, turns out, being able to control the chaos has it's benefits. Alex, I to have a "friend?" that seems one sided in a way. Every time Raven calls me it's to direct my attention to her new photo shoot which I wouldn't mind so much if she didn't use so many filters. I used to sleep with this woman I know she doesn't look like that. Or sometimes if I am real lucky she calls me out of the blue to say she just got too my place and she will be bringing all 3 of her yappy purse dogs up to visit. She'll plop down on my couch and dump her 12 bags of freshly bought crap on my floor then go on and on about all the crap that has fucked her calm that day. No mention to how am I doing, can she come by, thanks for letting me come by, nothing. I did last month get to the point that I had to tell her how one sided this felt for me. Thanks again for the check in. There's a guy JASON SILVA from brain games and he has a 5:37 long video called HOW DO YOU CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS. It was helpful to me. I do hope you have time to watch HAPPY for the month of December. It's timeline is the Christmas season. 10 episodes I think. See you soon, Friday if I don't miss it.
jennifer oxley
2023-11-23 08:16:07 +0000 UTCBeen really loving your content on YouTube and recently subbed here on Patreon! Life has been ups and downs since covid for me. I was layed off from my job of 7 years in 2019 then my dad passed away in 2021 which was the hardest time of my life since high school when my Grandpa passed away. But then I was able to find a much better job that pays a little more and has much better benefits, plus a lot less physical stress to my body. So currently I'm doing okay and excited for good ol turkey day with the family! I hope everyone else has some fun and/or relaxation tomorrow!
Chibi_Bro
2023-11-23 05:47:35 +0000 UTCThank you for your understanding and sharing your experience. It eases my anxiety about how it will affect my kids better. ❤️
DragonQueen
2023-11-22 23:08:50 +0000 UTCtotally understand that. just focus on what you can ACTUALLY control and for things you can't... don't be sad they are gone, be happy they happened. much easier said than done, but that's the best advice I have in that situation
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:55:27 +0000 UTClove this
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:54:23 +0000 UTCi totally understand how that goes. when my granmother passed from alzheimers, i lived with her and had to find a place to live. i'd recommend an apartment with a gym and a nice pool. on the second note, that is fucking awesome! i hope it goes well :)
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:54:17 +0000 UTCthat self-awareness is key! lol.
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:53:18 +0000 UTClove this
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:52:50 +0000 UTCi'm a child of divorce and it stings A LOT at first, but later in life you realize that is was the BEST thing in a toxic relationship. there is only so much trauma and heartache you an bottle up before your kids start to understand nuances and notice a change in both parents behavior.
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:52:41 +0000 UTCreally sorry to hear that you are going through all of that at once. sounds like a bitch. but trust me, you haven't been given a test you can't handle. i truly believe that. glad the videos can help that pain just a bit.
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:51:35 +0000 UTCright?! makes me want to be like "ok we'll just stay here" lol
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:50:34 +0000 UTCi'm always here if you need to chat
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:50:19 +0000 UTCi really care about everyone here
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:49:59 +0000 UTCwe're all here for eachother!
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:49:49 +0000 UTCthat feeling is mutual
Alex Hefner
2023-11-22 21:49:32 +0000 UTCLove you, man. :) You're very positive and that's something that I should absolutely appreciate more than I do. Thank you for being a positive person online that we can interact with. As for me though, I'm pretty good all around. Looking forward to Turkey Day here in a few days. It'll be nice being able to see some family and to enjoy a meal with them. :) Something that I'm struggling with is the FOLLOWING upcoming holiday. Christmas for me is stressful! I'm the type of guy that worries so much about gifts and for those that I cannot get gifts for. Such is life, though. Gotta take the bad with the good. :)
Logan Kerlee
2023-11-22 07:45:00 +0000 UTCSounds like you are learning a lesson that took me waaaaayyyy too long to learn, that being empathetic doesn't mean you have to be someone else's punching bag. Good 😊
Keen7981
2023-11-22 05:14:09 +0000 UTC"And by guys, I mean every beautiful person on Patreon" Hey! I feel left out! :-) "If you see somebody struggling, reach out..." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7s996BQHk7c [You can ignore the introductory French text.] Blessings to everybody in this community, especially those struggling.
Happy Hanukkah
2023-11-22 03:09:24 +0000 UTCLife is in kind of a strange spot for me right now. My 93 year old grandpa, who I’ve lived with for the last 5 years just passed away on Sunday. He was steadily declining for the last few months, so we knew it was coming, which kind of softened the blow I think. Now however, we have a house full of stuff that’s been collected for the last 50 years to sort through, and decide what to keep or sell/throw away. On top of that, I’ll have to find somewhere to live again, and the idea of trying to buy a house in the current market is kinda nauseating. 🫠 On a completely different note though, I’m thinking about asking this girl out soon, so we’ll see how that goes. 😳😅
Sean Dean
2023-11-22 02:51:27 +0000 UTCThank you for doing this Alex. From what I can tell from you're online persona, you're a pretty solid dude. I wish you and yours the very best. As for me, my best friend and I are at an uncomfortable crossroads of redefining our friendship. We're both very traumatized people and because we see each other as safe spaces, we sometimes take it for granted that along our healing journeys we can take things out on each other. We have a long and probably sometimes painful road ahead. But we love each other and we'll figure it out. She's just a pain in the ass right now (and so am I ;) ).
Keen7981
2023-11-22 02:19:18 +0000 UTCI’m an extremely empathetic person. That’s partially why I stayed so long is that I know it’s going to kill him when I tell him my decision. But as you said, for the sake of my mental health and being more present for my kids, I feel this is the best choice and I have to put myself first for once. I appreciate your advice and compassion.
DragonQueen
2023-11-22 02:17:07 +0000 UTCStay the course. Not only with the divorce, but more specifically and especially with your mental health journey. I am the adult child of two very emotionally immature and unavailable parents. They did the very best they were capable of and I love them and respect them, but their cardinal parenting sin (and what did the most damage) is that they never worked on their own trauma enough to be able to not perpetuate that cycle. Also, empathy is a super power. It sounds like divorce is the best option for you, but I have a sneaking suspicion that your children will benefit greatly from seeing you treat your (soon to be ex) partner with empathy and grace no matter how difficult he makes it to do that. It'll be hard to remember at times, but no one is born a narcissist. Something happened to make him that way.
Keen7981
2023-11-22 02:13:17 +0000 UTCHope it gets better :)
MindlessMonkey
2023-11-22 01:56:52 +0000 UTCThank you,Hope you all are doing amazing :)
MindlessMonkey
2023-11-22 01:56:19 +0000 UTCI’m currently trying to prepare myself to file for divorce from my husband and it’s going to be a mess, I already know it. I’m stressing out about it because we have 2 kids that are younger and I don’t know how it’s going to affect them. My parents are still together so I didn’t have to experience a split home situation. Our relationship is toxic though and it has made me depressed the past 7 years so I know it’s not healthy for us to stay together… but I’m still worried about the kids and how they take it and how my husband will react. My therapist said it sounds like I’m in a narcissistic spousal abuse relationship… which makes perfect sense because he is a huge narcissist lol. Any advice?!?
DragonQueen
2023-11-22 01:34:13 +0000 UTCJust keep your head up and stay positive! My grandma had survived cancer 3 times! And this last bit of cancer she got was recently and she’s in her 70s! You got this! Keep fighting the good fight and do what makes you happy!
DragonQueen
2023-11-22 01:29:11 +0000 UTCI hope things continue to get better for you! Just remember one step at a time!
DragonQueen
2023-11-22 01:26:44 +0000 UTCThanks for this. A lot of people say they care but very few actually try to make a difference and this is someone trying to make a difference. I've been going through one hell of a hard time recently. I've been dealing with a very messy breakup, I relapsed, and I've been dealing with numerous semi-related health issues. I'm handling things and it's getting better, but it's a slower process than I'd like. I used to watch movies and shows with my partner and we'd sit and talk about them for hours. I've missed that. Your reactions have helped scratch that itch somewhat and I thank you for it. Keep on being awesome.
CAM
2023-11-22 00:41:41 +0000 UTCAlex, I totally understand why you don't want to travel for the holidays. My husband and I both come from split households. So, every holiday is a nightmare for us. Over the years we have developed somewhat of a holiday schedule if you will, but you can't please everyone. It's also frustrating when it's gift giving holidays, because we have to cater to the families with children. We don't have children so we are expected to drive all over the place, just to meet with everyone. It makes me want to pull my hair out. I love to host and decorate for ALL the holidays, but because we don't have children no one ever comes to our house. It's kind of hurtful really. I love my family, but they are selfish. So, don't feel bad about not wanting to fly so far away from home for Christmas. I get it! Plus, the airport and TSA are going to suck! My husband travels for a living and I have heard some stories 😂!!!
Michelle Booth
2023-11-22 00:38:00 +0000 UTCThis is awesome Alex! I do have a huge depression problem. I have stage 4 COPD and idk how many more years I have left. My doctor told me that depression is a side effect of dying. It's a good feeling to be able to talk to someone about it
Marlaina Lindsey
2023-11-22 00:17:37 +0000 UTCLegendary, first time I've seen someone care enough to do something like this :)
BratPfanneTV
2023-11-22 00:05:29 +0000 UTCLove these. It's so rare that a creator actually checks in on their supporters like this 🙌 i said this earlier, but i got super pissed at work today & literally 2 mins later your previous video about this popped up. Def a sign! ✌
Rocky
2023-11-21 23:59:52 +0000 UTCUr Such a nice person Alex!
Scott Walker
2023-11-21 23:58:45 +0000 UTC
