I had to get this off my chest
Added 2023-09-07 20:28:25 +0000 UTCif you can relate, let me know down below.
I love you guys. don't forget that.
alex
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no , you do not love us. you do not love random strangers. you never met me. you would not do anything to help me.
Viera Galikova
2024-10-24 21:53:50 +0000 UTCyou just want to hurt random people?
Viera Galikova
2024-10-24 21:53:09 +0000 UTCI didn’t know I needed therapy Alex in my life but I’m glad he is here
Future
2023-12-22 17:24:56 +0000 UTCI was raised that little girls cant show anger. So to this day, every time Im like beyond pissed, i cry bc i hold it in so much and its frowned upon to physical harm people. Although now in my 30s, idgaf too much, but i still tend to cry at time while i spit fire. Just sucks I cant take a paintball gun to the back of someone's knee bc "that would be wrong". But i def appreciate this message! We all need to hear it more.
Rocky
2023-11-21 17:19:56 +0000 UTCSo, I've been pissed off for a long time too. Pissed off about everything and anything, so much that I was about to cancel my subscription, even though I really enjoy watching your channel. Doesn't matter. Just wanna say that what you said made me reflect on my own life. Gonna try and make a change. You're a pretty cool dude, Alex. Thanks
Tor Olsen
2023-10-18 20:20:05 +0000 UTCyeah bro, this is why I watch your content, because, things in life cause stress will consume me if i don't get that break from the barrage of hardship that i face, but i do definitely come here as a form of escapism and i do realize you are a person too.
ArabianPrince
2023-10-01 16:30:39 +0000 UTCThank you Alex.
Asheenah
2023-09-18 19:04:01 +0000 UTCWe love being a part of your unit 🖤 Wait, what? You get it 🤣
Dustee Lodholtz
2023-09-17 20:27:10 +0000 UTCThank you for shedding light on this 🫶🏼
Greg
2023-09-12 23:35:09 +0000 UTCI always need to hear things like this, because I often can't believe I am important and make a difference for someone, so, thank you. Thank you for your goofiness, your cleverness, your cool reactions but even more thank you SO much for your honesty, your kindness, your brave to be this real, vulnerable human being we all love so much. Please don't let the dark feelings win, though it is hard sometimes. But we are allways be here for you and we love you so much! Thank you for your trust.
Susu Laing
2023-09-11 14:38:22 +0000 UTCYeah, you do really need the darkness to balance out the happy stuff. You need something to compare the other to. Once you can't recognize the other then you're kind of lost. Right now I'm going through a different situations with a few women. And I feel each of their pain. One I'm trying to get romantic with and she's suffering through unemployment. One is going through a cheating husband. Another who is at an age where she's losing friends and family to death. And an ex who has lost her identity. I'm going through all that with them. While it takes a part of me everyday it also alleviates a lot of my own pain. In the end, I do feel useful to them and them to me. We all make it go around.
Philip Davetas
2023-09-08 19:06:38 +0000 UTCI can relate to this alot. Ive suffered with depression and anxiety and very dark thoughts for bout 18 yrs now. Honestly watching ur movie reactions do cheer me up cos u make me laugh with ur facial expressions and ur comments and especially wen u watch horror movies. I struggle everyday but i try hard to get thru it. Thank u so much for this video its very helpful. I dont really have anyone to talk to bout things apart from family but i dont like to bother my sons with it. Thank u for reaching out to us and sharing this. I hope ur book helps u. Love u Alex
Mandy Guest
2023-09-08 15:57:07 +0000 UTCI've lived a very difficult life....my whole life. I stopped going outside about 7 years ago. I haven't so much as stepped on my own porch. It's a difficult existence but I'm here. I can totally understand where you are coming from. I will tell you how I deal. You are entitled to feel however you feel about anything. The only thing you can control is how you react to how you feel. I have found that if I react instantly to any situation or emotion it's a negative response. I try, when I can, to sit with my feelings and think them through before I react. Sometimes I sit for 5 minutes and sometimes it takes 5 hours. I analyze my emotions and try to understand why I feel the way I do. It's intellect over emotion. Now, I have severe PTSD(obviously), OCD and anxiety, so I'm extremely irritable, nervous and hypervigilant. It's difficult to do but I'm getting better at it. I live by the motto "Play it out until the end of the story." To me this means that you look beyond the moment and think about the different ways the situation could play out. An example, lets say I'm upset about something someone says or does. How will my reaction change the offense? It won't because its already happened. I can speak up and avoid a repeat by setting boundaries. I just want you to know that even though we're not in the same situation exactly, I understand and it's OK. It's OK to be who you are and it's OK to feel however you feel....no matter what that means. Also, I spend hours watching your videos repeatedly and I appreciate everything you do. You give me bright moments on my dark days....which is everyday. Remember that. Thank you for being authentic.
Jessica Houser
2023-09-08 13:24:12 +0000 UTCMy 10 year old daughter is paralyzed from the chest down. One lung is smaller than the other, so she requires a ventilator to breathe properly. In and out of the hospital for weeks to sometimes months on end. I used to bottle up the stresses that come with that, and it almost destroyed me... it almost destroyed my marriage. I had to find outlets that would help me release that stress/anger. I got into kick-boxing and meditation, and it changed my life. And then I found your channel, and it was like icing on the cake. You are a ray of sunshine on the cloudiest of days, Alex. Keep being you, and never change. Peace and Love. PS: My daughter is currently happy and healthy, and will occasionally watch a reaction of yours with me. Every time you give yourself the bird, it cracks her up. So thank you for that.
LoganPool
2023-09-08 10:57:42 +0000 UTCJust think about this.. What has God given you? A nose to smell, eyes to see, Eyebrows to keep the sweat away from your eyes, eyelashes so that the water of the rain or dust won't come in your eyes, feet to walk, arms to hug your wife or reach for stuff, hands to grab stuff, stomach to digest, teeth to bite, tongue to taste, senses to feel the cold and the warmth etc etc. Now imagine waking up and going to sleep with it. Or receiving all of that money of patreon, youtube etc. Would you really trade it in? If not, why be mad when waking up? Why be mad when going to bed? We humans hold on to much on the negative. But focus on that what you have been given for free. all those benefits without even working for it to be able to pay for all those functions you need in your daily life.
SaniTheSerbianMuslim
2023-09-08 10:07:30 +0000 UTCThis is so cheesy but your videos keep me going man! Thank you for this ❤
Heida
2023-09-08 04:53:11 +0000 UTCI love this guy! He feeds my soul.
Collin Olson
2023-09-08 02:47:33 +0000 UTCspot on man! spot on
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:55:29 +0000 UTClove this. a lot.
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:54:12 +0000 UTChonestly that's a really cool perspective
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:53:41 +0000 UTC💜 💜
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:53:00 +0000 UTCmeditating is something i 100% need to implement!
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:52:40 +0000 UTClove this 💜
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:52:05 +0000 UTC💜 💜
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:51:43 +0000 UTCthat's what makes you guys so incredilbe! thankful for you! :)
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:51:35 +0000 UTCThank you for this. It’s so reassuring to hear these thoughts and feelings aren’t unique. And not just that, they’re COMMON. Feelings are the human experience, not just the experience of ‘weak’ humans. Coping with emotions isn’t about avoiding or suppressing the feelings, it’s about learning to express or act on those emotions in ways that are honest but don’t hurt you or others. And if they’re emotions that you want to feel less, try to figure out if there are triggers that you can avoid or change to help there. It’s fine to ask for help if you can’t or don’t want to figure it out on your own. If you don’t want to talk to a friend or family, asking a professional for help isn’t weak or ‘caving.’ I think of therapists as pro-level advice givers. They literally went to school to learn how to give good advice and now they get paid to give good advice. But the most important thing is that whoever you talk to is someone you click with, whether it’s a friend, family, or professional.
Amy Lewis
2023-09-07 23:50:58 +0000 UTCthanks, logan! you're the man!
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:50:07 +0000 UTCmuch love, chris!
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:49:38 +0000 UTC💜 💜
Alex Hefner
2023-09-07 23:49:27 +0000 UTCThe little I can constructively contribute here, as someone who has “anger issues” and leads an imperfect life (and falls well below what any sentient person would recognize as “brilliant”, or “bright”, or even “average”, or maybe even “used - acceptable”) I would just say that I’ve forgotten what this sentence was about. Checking. Right. So anger, especially when you feel it over a long period of time (waking up angry) is a secondary emotion. (If you’ve heard all this before, please ignore me. And I apologize if it sounds at all condescending, but I forget this ALL THE TIME and have to keep reiterating it to myself, so this helps me as much as anyone.) Particularly for men, it covers for some other emotions we’re all taught it’s “weak” to express - fear, insecurity, loneliness, rejection, inadequacy, etc. Most boys learn very early to convert most of our other emotions into anger (which makes the world such a pleasant place to be.) So it’s very important to figure out for ourselves what is behind our anger, and to seriously question any conclusion that finds an external cause (like “I’m angry because someone did something that makes me angry” - this is very common, but is 1. Circular thinking 2. Leads to legitimizing expressions of anger that can be inappropriate or even violent 3. Doesn’t address the problem.) Another thing I don’t think is well understood about anger, but is so well supported by tons of solid research that it convinced my stubborn ass, is that anger isn’t “released” when we “angrily” express it. Expressing anger through rage never reduces and often actually increases anger. This is so counterintuitive and in such opposition to what most people believe that it bears rephrasing…anger isn’t like some bubbling vat of hot cum ready to burst forth from a disgraced teapot, or cumpot, if you will. It’s not something that is made better by letting all that cum explode into your kitchen. It’s not like sexual tension. It’s actually fed by expression, not relieved by it. As for old Carl (his last name, so you sound as intelligent as you are, and because I am very much a pedantic asshole, is pronounced “young” rather than “jhung”) most of his theories don’t conflict with the research I’ve so awkwardly mentioned above, and often goes above and beyond it, so all this can be incorporated into how you understand yourself. Of course, I hope I’ve successfully communicated the fact that I am an idiot, so it won’t be a surprise to say much of Jung flies over my head. And I’m wrong at least half the time anyway. p.s. You really were a snotty mess in your last video, but I may be even worse when I’m sick. I remember forcing myself to go to class in high school one day where snot was pouring put of me like a broken cumpot. I had a quiz and I had to pass it to the kid in front of me for grading. That kid was our ridiculously beautiful and universally popular high school quarterback (hi Jeff!) who had been listening to the sopping deluge behind him all hour. When I handed him my quiz, he asked the teacher for a bath towel and some lysol. AP Michigan History: not the hill I would have chosen to die on, but you can’t always pick your own waterloo.
sfkeepay
2023-09-07 22:58:49 +0000 UTCThe notion of gaining mastery over one's darker thoughts and impulses is actually a key step in the Hero's Journey. If you think about Neo or Dumbledore or John McClaine or Professor X or any heroic figure like that - they absolutely will not back down from a fight when it is important and they will mess you up if needed. They have integrated that part of them so they know when to turn it on and when not to. And in many ways, you can't really be a hero unless you have mastered that. That's the difference between "I couldn't hurt a fly", and "I know I could cause mayhem but I choose not to" - it's only virtuous if you have the choice.
ColonelB
2023-09-07 22:41:14 +0000 UTCTo be honest, I'm happy as a muslim. I learned so much about Islam and the gratitude of being able to wake up again and again. Yes, life is tough but within islam it's seen as a test and we as muslims believe that Allah won't give you a test if you can't handle it at all. It's just your mindset on how to battle with it(Jihad within yourself). Find a way to feel thankfull. Yea, there might be many motivational speakers, guru's, spiritual people etc. But I honestly believe that when people practice Islam as it's being teached or even read about it without becoming a muslim. It will help so much and give you such a good vibe to be able to recharge and go hardcore mode.
SaniTheSerbianMuslim
2023-09-07 22:26:28 +0000 UTCYou released this at a very opportune time for me man. Lately I have felt stuck and somewhat on/off depressed and people like you reminding me that no matter what position you are we are all just humans and feeling all this is a part of this crazy reality. The reactions/videos you put out are very helpful in this man thank you.
hello
2023-09-07 21:56:33 +0000 UTCEveryone has both light and dark within themselves. The trick is learning how to accept both to achieve balance. Growing up I was a very angry and short tempered kid. I would be fine and happy until someone said or did the wrong thing. Then I would just snap. As I got older my grandmother helped me see that my inner peace was out of balance. I was trying to hard to be the "good kid" that I suppressed any bad feelings or anger I had until I lost control of my actions. Accepting both your light and dark self will take time, but trust me it will be worth it in the end. I would also recommend meditation 🧘♂️. In my opinion it's the best way for you to get inside your head in search for balance.
Michelle Booth
2023-09-07 21:56:24 +0000 UTCMy husband used to bottle everything up until he would explode. It got so bad at one point that we even separated for 8 months back in 2016. We talked through everything, and now we're stronger than ever...and I remind my hubby to address issues as they come up, because bottling can be a hard habit to break. There is nothing wrong with having negative feelings...we all have them. The trick is to try not to let them consume you. Hugs to you Alex! 💜
Jill Bristol
2023-09-07 21:10:50 +0000 UTCI can relate so much with what you're saying, grateful to you for making this video, this kind of things are hopeful
JoloPolo
2023-09-07 20:45:05 +0000 UTCWell damn… I’ve been going thru it, even was on the phone with 988 today trying to get thru it all. Even if we aren’t going thru the same thing, please know that you’re loved and understood by more people than you realize. We’re here for you just like you’re here for us 🩵
sexy_slytherdor
2023-09-07 20:43:12 +0000 UTCI big relate with what you said about bottling things up. I've done that for MANY years! Hell, I still do. It isn't something that's easy to drop. Over the years I've learned that it's alright to vent, to let things out - in good measure. That last bit's important! You have to keep that in check otherwise I'd be seen as a mega negative person (and I'm totally not!). This message would've helped me many years ago so I know that this message is potentially helping someone else, right now. Best of vibes, Alex! You're the best. Love you, Logan
Logan Kerlee
2023-09-07 20:39:21 +0000 UTCThanks for being down to earth! We all have shadows and you are right its not good to bottle them up
Chris Davis
2023-09-07 20:35:39 +0000 UTCI am always bottling my feelings up, it’s not healthy I know but I find it hard. Thanks Alex 💜
TeamRocketTom
2023-09-07 20:30:47 +0000 UTC
