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Nico needs to meet someone special! There is always someone there for everyone of us. You just need to believe! 😍

Pete

I really really really hope Nico pulls through. I feel for him and hope everything works out for him in the end. I went through something similar but forced myself to snap out of it. He seems like a really good guy deep down.

Joe Padilla

There's been so many times that my anxiety kept me from doing things. It's a horrible annoying inner struggle. Never take it personally because that person is already beating themselves inside for cancelling again and probably feels bad for letting his friends down. Ask if he would like you two to come over instead some time? Something chill like movies and take out or bring him food. I went through a shitty year of not leaving my room or house and just in bed. It's stupid and annoying and never feel like he doesn't like you. In fact he needs people more than ever. Don't let him forget that you two are always there for him and love him and stuff. When you're depressed you're already fighting internally, don't need to feel crappy from outside forces.

Thanks for the beautiful are and stories.

Charlie Johnson

He had a disease. Please don't take personally. I know it's difficult. Encourage him to get professional, medical help. I've lived with clinical depression/anxiety my whole life and just started treatment a year and a half ago. It's a journey. It's takes time, patience and the love of friends. Doesn't mean you have to be a doormat. Take good care of yourself. I understand the social fear/anxiety. And, ironically, it's often worse with friends.

Charlie Johnson

poor thang there's always a friend like this don't we all......sigh

J. SONG

So nice booth of you. I believe if both of you keep reaching him, sure one day you will able to make him good again. I appreciate of your efforts and kindness to Nico. Wish he will be fine soon

Johan Huang

Please, allow me to recommend this to your friend: <a href="https://makeitok.org/" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://makeitok.org/</a> and a podcast <a href="https://www.apmpodcasts.org/thwod/" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.apmpodcasts.org/thwod/</a>

Cristyan Gonzalez

I can definitely relate. Ive had depression for as long as I can remember. Its a shitty state of mind. If there is something I can suggest, maybe try inviting him to an event that he would enjoy and not feel insecure with himself. Thank you for trying to be there for him. In my own experience, turning down invitations is not meant to insult the person inviting. Its just the anxiety, and the fear holding us back from coming to places where were invited. I know it So please dont stop trying. He cares about his friends. He's just too wrapped up in his own head.

Depression is so hard to understand when your not in it, and I say that as a therapist. I normally recommend this comic <a href="https://www.depressioncomix.com/?" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.depressioncomix.com/?</a> to family and friends he does a great job at explaining it in a visual way, and how you can help and how you can't help.

Thank you Kathryn. I hope sincerely so too.

SONG Inkollo

Thank you, Daisen. I understand that feeling but it's very hard for us as well. We don't want him to be miserable, and everytime he came, we always tried our best to make him comfortable and happy (like a nice meal or a nice walk in the park) but it seems he stopped trying before we gave up on trying. I know it's hard, but he's not alone, I wish he could feel that and make more effort.

SONG Inkollo

Thank you, Danny. Probably unsurprisingly, I thought the same. I don't believe in his Grinder dates. He complained in the past how horrible the guys on Grindr were but yet he still uses it daily. I mean, I can understand. He lives alone in the country side, and the loneliness sometimes pushes us to do stupid things, but if we can't talk to him or see him in person, there's nothing we can help, unfortunately.

SONG Inkollo

Poor Nico! I hope things get better for him soon!

Kathryn Gynn

Thank you, Christopher. The sad part is that he's kind of a doctor himself. I mean, he's veterinarian. He told us that he took less medicine these days, yet I haven't seen any improvement on his depression. Unfortunately.

SONG Inkollo

I’m sure he does still consider you guys as friends! Coming from someone who has struggled with Depression and Anxiety for years, it’s tough to manage. Especially the social aspect. Some days, you feel better than others, you get invited and you say yes, but the day hits and you spend so much time convincing yourself that you should go. If you do go, you end up being miserable the whole time. Putting on a fake smile, trying so hard not to ruin other people’s good time. If i can say one thing, please don’t stop inviting him. It’s not you or your fault, it’s an internal struggle that not much can be done to help. But what people like us really need is that support from friends. We need to feel wanted, just please don’t take offense if he isn’t strong enough to make it most of the time. There is no worse feeling than feeling left out so just keep inviting him. It helps, even if he doesn’t go.

D. Daisen

So sorry to hear this. I know you guys try. Invite stop coming when you don’t show up. Amazing you were kind enough to keep inviting him. I have a nephew like this. He is so far into his depression is suspicious of any help now. Yes he knows what he has to do to get out of depression. Grinder is not the way to go. I know because I have tried. He has to let go of Grindr. Will be his death.

Danny Provencio

It can be really difficult to not take it personally, but I’m sure he still considers you and Joe friends. But when someone is that deep in depression they tell themselves they have no one and nothing. He should take that job though; it would probably do him wonders. As would some medication, perhaps.

Chris O.

He has been taking profession therapy for years. I can't judge the quality of his treatment cause I've never met his therapist. But it certainly didn't help him much in this specific case, I don't see any sign his depression is getting better. Unfortunately.

SONG Inkollo

Don't be mad at him. I think he needs professional help but a very good one. It always helps be there for a friend, don't quit on him. I know is frustrating but he has a real health problem. P.S. I'd totally send grindr messages to Nico 😅

Mariachi

That's very kind of you, Adam. I just hope time will help in a long term. At this point, we don't know what to help either.

SONG Inkollo

He won't even reply to most of my messages these days. I'm afraid he won't answer anyone he doesn't know. But thanks for the good intention though.

SONG Inkollo

Can I just like message him and tell him I think he is adorable and shouldn't be so down on himself

RichardAlatorre

Man... I wish I knew what magic I could work to help him out.

Adam Lunter