Messy

It’s not 100% the case but I find that if my SO sees me clean up, rather than me cleaning while he’s gone, it does something to his mind where he’ll still be messy, but he’ll at least take the initiative to at least surface clean, making sure dirty dishes get to the sink, or that he at least takes care of his laundry. I think the effort I put in is abstract until he actually sees it. I have to say it’s the same with him - I tend to think he never helps until I slow down and remember - oh I did see him walk the dog, or cut the grass, or do his laundry. Relationships (sigh)

Alexis Mobley

We all bring good things to each other’s lives. One is a breadwinner, one is the domestic engineer, one is the counselor, one is the doctor. I don’t like labels but we have “roles” to are set into.

Steve Taurus

Omg....can relate to this too lol

Nick Thorson

Apologize for being harsh, ask Joe to be neater, tell him you love him regardless , then kiss and make up.

Wiliam Kibler

take it down a notch and listen to yourself...you let this build up and over-reacted [as did Joe in response], figure out a compromise that will let you both work things out.

Mike C

Taking from someone such as myself who’s looking at his clothes that’s been sitting on my foot locker for a few days and clothes on the floor, I know I don’t have an excuse right now to play devil’s advocate since I don’t know Joe’s side of it, but I know I’m currently messy but not a slob and do clean after myself. Just a lot of things on the mind do push it out of top of the priorities at the moment. Though I do wish things could have been said a little different so it wouldn’t come off harsh yet needed to be said. But relationships are hard work

David Proby

I feel your pain! I am the same way with my husband, and there never seems to be a nice way to say I’m tired of cleaning up after him 🤨 But we live in the woods and he does the butch stuff like changing oil, chopping wood, and building stuff, so...it kinda balances out 😜

Matthew Krajewski

WOW! My husband and I had this issue. Don’t laugh, we hired a maid. Everything is fine now except that I can’t ever find stuff because I don’t know where she put it. Plus the occasional we forget to put toys up. She has never said anything but I am curious about what she thinks.

Oliver Emmitt Smith

Omfg i totally understand you on this! I’m the neat one in my marriage but i try to be understanding to the fact that my super ocd neatness sometimes may be a tad much. I just try and find balance in how much i pick up after him and when to simply not. I figure i have habits that are just as annoying lol

Bastian Forsythe

The struggle is real baby. I'm slightly OCD and like things to be tidy. Clutter stresses me out!

Jude Tibay

Man, Iove how you share your relationship and process things like this through your art. And yes - I'm a control freak and a neat freak. I feel your pain. Whenever I try to say something, it comes out mean. every time I try.

Barbïe

That’s how a relationship goes... you said that sometimes he understands your fantasies or your raincheck... sometimes it’s your turn to understand him as well... patience is the key, being open and really exposing your ideas without being offensive. Cheers ;)

Miguel Gómez Valente

Maybe these things seem so important because you're so busy.

JoeJoe

Ahh.... It happens, considering no one here is OCD, is already much easier to handle. Hope u both kiss and make up awhile later.

Amanda Lee

Well... Someone gotta play the maid... The compromise is that my man cooks (hes better at it) and i just keep the place clean and cozy (im better at this). Im home more so the cleaning naturally falls to me.

Aww shucks. Am a slob myself. I try real hard to keep myself together for dates but things get out of hand. Take it easy with Joe. Not sure you want to break up over this.

Danny Provencio