Unemployment
Added 2017-11-27 16:01:22 +0000 UTCNico still doesn't have a job and I'm not sure that he's even that motivated to find a new one even he says so. Anyway, I do wish he could come to have diner with us this Friday so we could have a better talk about this. XD
Comments
Did Nico come in the end?
Yehonatan Etzion
2017-12-01 19:49:21 +0000 UTCNu is he coming?
Yehonatan Etzion
2017-11-29 15:48:06 +0000 UTCSometimes I wish I could speak to Nico myself and have him understand that he's not alone in all of this nor should he feel so isolated. Sometimes all we can do is be there for the ones we love and pick them back up when they fall.
David Proby
2017-11-27 21:31:33 +0000 UTCThank you very much for the advice and sharing your story with me, David. I wish Nico can bounce back like you did with his career. Right now I know he's in a very bad place and he isolates himself from everyone. To be honest, I don't know what to do but thanks a lot for the good wishes. I'll be there for him if he needs me one day.
SONG Inkollo
2017-11-27 19:22:13 +0000 UTCI understand where Nico is coming from because I used to be in that place a few years ago. For years I've wanted to get my vet doctorate and open my own practice. But after trial and error I had lost interest in it and went into depression after one of my ex's had played me like a fool and seeing all my friends having more success in their lives than me. Three years later, I graduated with a vet degree, already finding a job that's at least a foot in the door on where I want to be in life while I still work retail, and already planning my whole life out with my beautiful man Jack. I found my Joe and when life gets me down, I hop right back up like in one of my wrestling matches. For each person is different, be patient with Nico but also encourage him to get back out there so he can find the passion of what he loves to do again and may be it'll happen when he finds a man who can truly value him as a person and willing to go through the storm with him, no matter what.
David Proby
2017-11-27 18:34:08 +0000 UTCEffectivement. Je dis ça souvent malheureusement, besoin d'être seul. Au final c'est pas une super idée.
Nygel Zabala
2017-11-27 18:02:31 +0000 UTCI’ve been depressed and know it takes a huge effort to pull me out of it. Do what you can handle. I’ve had to personally go over to a guts apartment to clean it and fill his refrigerator with food to help him know that he doesn’t have to this alone. But you can only lead a horse to water. Can’t make him drink it.
Danny Provencio
2017-11-27 16:41:15 +0000 UTCThank you, Danny. I'm trying to do that, getting him out of his solitude, but it's not as easy as it seems. He seems to be very content of being alone and (honestly, I think he probably forgets eat healthy all by himself). I want to help but I'm afraid of being too pushy at the same time.
SONG Inkollo
2017-11-27 16:37:45 +0000 UTCTake it easy. One step at a time. Have to get him out of his isolation first. People have no idea how commercial artists work.
Danny Provencio
2017-11-27 16:34:58 +0000 UTCThank you for the different perspective. This time around, I'm definitely more careful about what I say to Nico, cause I know words can cause a lot of damage especially to a sensitive man with depression. However, my instinct tells me that he's still not really motivated to find a new job or start his own practice, maybe it's the depression. I'm just gonna hold my judgement to myself and try my best to understand and support him.
SONG Inkollo
2017-11-27 16:34:52 +0000 UTCLa dépression n'est vraiment pas drôle, mais tu as raison, il faut qu'il rencontre du monde, sinon ça deviendra de pire en pire.
SONG Inkollo
2017-11-27 16:31:45 +0000 UTCI can totally understand that.
SONG Inkollo
2017-11-27 16:30:56 +0000 UTCFlip it: he didn't think being a comic book artist the same as unemployment, he saw you doing what you wanted (comic book full time) and making it gradually more and more successful. He was probably hoping he could get a settlement and start his own Vet practice (or some other dream) and was using all of his spare unemployed time working towards it but making no progress. Hence envy, resentment, frustration, and fights. You may have already this realization with Nico, I just wanted to give a different perspective that was you succeeding and not struggling in case you hadn't had that conversation/realization.
epilonious
2017-11-27 16:24:49 +0000 UTCMême s'il ne veut pas être sociable il faut persister... La dépression c'est pas bon :(
Nygel Zabala
2017-11-27 16:04:30 +0000 UTCI really identify with him
Yehonatan Etzion
2017-11-27 16:03:28 +0000 UTC
