Sad Boyz Nightz #117 - "Um, So Like... Yeah"
Added 2025-06-13 21:15:49 +0000 UTCCW: Discussion of corporal punishment, and current events including immigration, ICE raids, deportations, protests, riots, mental health struggles, and mention of suicide
We talk about speech patterns, training to reduce filler words, and other stuff also.
Comments
Every time Jarvis mentions cleaning his room I cry 🥺 I remember
Randomized Designs
2025-08-05 12:17:59 +0000 UTCI absolutely abhor the double standard of immigration. No person that operates or owns land here is a native. EXCEPT FOR THE NATIVES WE GENOCIDED AND PUT ON RESERVATIONS. It's ridiculous how stupid this nation has become and how selfish people are
SnowCrab
2025-07-13 15:13:45 +0000 UTCI do find it interesting how they started the conversation with spanking while then talking about the "kicking the dog" effect which to me comes back to how often the obsession parents have with spanking comes from either needing "control" that they do not have in their life or from, frankly, a repressed fetish that should NOT be taken out on children. With a society that starts with children often being heavily denied any self autonomy and respect of being a person, which then leads them into a capitalistic world that also robs them of control, there is this never ending cycle of trying to take that control back that manifests behaviors that are hurting themselves and/or others.
Varsilio
2025-06-20 16:02:26 +0000 UTCThank you for this episode. The current world climate is scary and it’s hard to talk about it out loud without going into existential dread mode.
Jessica Olafson
2025-06-20 15:23:36 +0000 UTCRe the active listening mmhms and uh huhs on podcast - I never noticed them bc this is like chatter with friends - not like a formal recording
vellie
2025-06-18 18:12:40 +0000 UTCappreciate y'all for this episode, it's helping me feel normal in a world where a lot of things feel insane
mon
2025-06-17 05:03:52 +0000 UTCAs a white guy from the south who grew up in the 90s I remember the switch very well except it was “go pick a switch” and we had to pick our own and if it wasn’t good enough they would go pick a massive one
Dylon Merrell
2025-06-16 16:50:08 +0000 UTCI used to love Terrace House but after hearing how the producers treated Hana and just how fake the show actually was made me hate it.
ProjektRF
2025-06-16 15:56:17 +0000 UTCHey guys! I genuinely appreciate the conversation about feeling self conscious when being too verbose. I always feel like I need to say things efficiently and quickly the first time it comes out, mainly because I think like the listener is more likely to become uninterested or distracted the longer I speak. So either in my head or even out loud during conversation, I'll go, "How do I say this...?" because I'm so worried about sounding articulate. It's annoying to deal with imo, but reassuring to see that others struggle with similar things. I also get the mentality of needing to get things out right when you have the thought. My memory isn't too great, so I'm definitely gonna forget something if I don't say it immediately after thinking it. Jarvis described it as a feeling of urgency, but for me it’s that and a hint of panic. 😅
Calea J
2025-06-16 13:39:31 +0000 UTCyou guys always cover the difficult things in such a gentle yet still genuine way. thank you for this one especially, i was in tears.
Cupid Sylvie
2025-06-16 03:46:59 +0000 UTCis there a reason they stopped posting audio versions?
jay gaboriault
2025-06-16 03:27:25 +0000 UTCActive listening was something we had to practice in therapy training. Most effective ways tend to be nodding and body language, eye contact and the occasional ‘mmm’. Very hard for my adhd brain cause like you said Jarvis I need to get it out 😂
Ellen Ringrose
2025-06-16 02:29:42 +0000 UTCAnother abused child here lol my stepdad made “The Paddle” out of the end of a boat oar and we had multiple because one of the parents hit the first one against the counter and it split in half. And they wonder why so many of us are super emotionally sensitive lol
Cameron Clark
2025-06-15 22:47:39 +0000 UTC26:31 as someone who often really does enjoy criticism, I know it comes from being autistic. I’m really fascinated by how I am perceived, plus I really struggle to be offended by stuff. Like I don’t connect certain things to be personal that a lot of ppl do. I honestly see it similar to how yall talked about micromanaging speech. Like helpful/well meaning criticism is just helping me micromanage my behavior in the same way
Tobias Resnick
2025-06-15 15:06:56 +0000 UTCPatreon captions switching to Japanese for that bit was diabolical
marsbie
2025-06-14 20:00:07 +0000 UTCFor real for a usually topical show that was a big surprise to me too
Jennifer Edmonson
2025-06-14 18:25:51 +0000 UTCI co-parent with my ex, he spanks on occasion and I haaaate it. It doesn’t have any positive effects on “good behaviour”.
Indi B
2025-06-14 04:31:22 +0000 UTCwhy have yall not discussed the la protest??
Eddie Gamble
2025-06-14 04:23:31 +0000 UTCTW// Corporeal Punishment - I remember when I was in like 4th grade I realized that if i didn't cry when I was hit by my parents they would hit me less. It felt like they didn't get satisfied by the punishment so they would just stop. And yk... that's pretty fucked ain't it? lmao
Mo Wizdumb
2025-06-14 02:57:12 +0000 UTCOn the topic of child "discipline", my dad made me choose from one of his three leather belts, which he named, for punishment. When I told friends they made me aware of how fucked up that was. Very strange what you can consider to be normal when you dont know about other people's lives.
Max Sinclair
2025-06-14 00:23:00 +0000 UTCwill NEVER forget when i was giving a finals presentation in college and was receiving critique from my professors at the end of the presentation and i was just doing the like Active Listening thing and trying to affirm that i was hearing and understanding what they were saying and taking it on board and one of my professors absolutely flipped out at me for doing that?? he was the one that was the most neurodivergent out of the bunch of them but like...........its been almost 10 years and it still gets me mad thinking about it lol
elle nowlin
2025-06-13 23:21:45 +0000 UTCI love jordans expression on the thumbnail, it touched my heart
Hannaᯓ★
2025-06-13 21:22:45 +0000 UTCTitle is such mood
Emma Tweitmann
2025-06-13 21:16:59 +0000 UTC
