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Independence, First Amendment Rights, Trust, and Drama

I know I keep it pretty light on this "channel", because you are paying for entertainment. But, today I feel like sharing some thoughts under my first amendment rights for Independence Day. Thoughts related to trust. Trust in photo shoots, specifically, between models and photographers. It takes trust on both ends to make a good working relationship exist and continue to exist:
Photographers need to trust a model to show up on time and prepared with what is needed - wardrobe/makeup, to trust a model to be groomed as expected, and to trust a model to verbally speak up if something is not kosher with them.
Models need to trust a photographer to help keep them safe in sketchy situations (dangerous buildings/locations and heat/cold), to trust a photographer to not misrepresent them in imagery, to trust a photographer to not assault them, and to not shoot what has not been agreed upon - protect the model's boundaries.
I would love to hear other things you think are important trust building needs for models or photographers and good/bad experiences and learning experiences you've had related to trust.
These images were taken without my knowledge or consent and posted on his page without my consent. When I commented on one, he "untagged" me, as a courtesy, and said that no one would recognize me anyway so it didn't matter [enough to him to remove them, even though it mattered to me]. But, then later also posted these other three shown here. He had a remote trigger in his hand at the shoot and I did not know he was clicking the shutter taking photos. These are when I was in a vulnerable nude state setting up a shot or getting in position for one, not posing for a shot. Luckily, these shots are tame in nature; however, there were a couple we shot that LOOKED like something else was happening, even though it wasn't. So, I worried he was triggering the shutter during those, too, and has images of me that look inappropriate in nature and misrepresent me. If you are not in this industry you may not know that a model signs a contract giving up rights to photos taken at a shoot. The photographer then owns all rights to the photos. (Unless it's a trade-for-photo or collaboration shoot where it is joint copyright.) So, I signed a contract at this shoot, and therefore it's a situation where not much can be done other than live and learn. But, I don't feel like being quiet about it anymore. And, I feel like taking back control of these photos by using them here for my own purposes in education and freedom of speech. I'm sure you might think, what's the big deal, you're already nude and nothing "bad" is showing. Well, the big deal is trust. Trust was broken at this first shoot and understanding/apology not reached, so I won't shoot with this person again. I will post other photos from the shoot tomorrow. I am not posting the photographer's name, but if any other models want it because that doesn't seem like a kosher situation you want to be in either, then you're welcome to message me.

Always do your research when working with new photographers and models. Don't be so jaded you don't give new people a try. Mistakes and misunderstandings do happen. All we can do is live and learn and try to keep building trust and connection. Have a great week.

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Thanks for sharing and terrible you had to go through this. Hopefully, this will help others be more aware/change behavior. Trust and professionalism are foundational to all these work relationships. And reputation in this kind of work is critically important. Appreciate your courage to share something that was once/is vulnerable and acknowledge the self-empowerment with reframing the situation in this way. The fact that no apology was issued is beyond disappointing. Just because it was a paid shoot and/or contract signed doesn't mean photos taken unbeknownst to the person are permissible, just sayin'.

Atmospherik Photo

I am also mildly autistic, so I recognize what you are referencing here and I usually get along well with other people who are autistically awkward (or a few I work with have had strokes and that makes them repeat things or have other quirks, too). Thanks for commenting.

Tits And Giggles

I'm so sorry this happened to you and thank you for sharing. As someone who's mildly autistic and occasionally suffers from catastrophically bad word choices, I have to pay special attention to making sure folks I work with are comfortable. I've come to live with the fact that my awkward manner will occasionally mean some folks don't want to work with me more than once, but what this photographer did was deliberate and he made no real effort to make things right. That's just reprehensible.

Mr. Otherbee


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