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Upcoming Class Joining Information: Drop, Frenzy and Sub/Dom Space.

This post contains the link to join the upcoming class on 9 February 2025. The time listed below is in IST (but should be reflected according to your local time on the event page on Fetlife, as wel...

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Making Money Off Myself Without Appeasing The Male-Gaze.

Commercialised sexuality is a complicated market. When I was a sex-worker, it was something I genuinely wanted to be, but there were parts of it that made me uncomfortable. For one, the agency for ...

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10 Things I Learnt From Being A Kink Educator.

For the past couple of years I have been trying my hand at sexual and kink education. Funnily enough, it's something I said I would never do and in a fun little twist of poetic justice, here we are...

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Class Upload: Consensual Non-Consent

PFA:

  • The recording of the class being taught

  • The reading notes for the class

  • The power-point presentation used to teach the class

Additio...

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Class Joining Information: Consensual Non-Consent.

The following is the joining information for the class on CNC on 26 January 2025. The time below is in IST (Indian Standard Time). The 2025-01-25 09:08:02 +0000 UTC View Post

A Little Update!

If you enjoy my writing, this may be of note to you. I have launched a substack (free for now), it's a blog dedicated to the step-parent/child relationship called Mother Inferior, exploring the soc...

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The Morning After.

The first thing I do as I wake up is shudder. I see you, leaning over me to kiss me, but all I feel is fear. If you go to bed terrified, the fear just percolates inside you, walking around your som...

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Power Exchange: Chapter 3

Note: This is part of a book I am writing, access the earlier chapters at the tag 2025-01-21 03:15:06 +0000 UTC View Post

Neil Gaiman Is A Predator and The Community Knows That.

The man who "introduced" me to BDSM is also the man who introduced me to abuse. I was actively looking for kink, but even outside of that, as a person who exists in the world, is sexual and wants t...

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Podcast E87: Social Media, Art and Anti-Trust.

More serious than usual, but then again, my art may be taking things that should be chill and serious-ing them, anyway.

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The Relationship HighCast: Fear As A Component of Power-Exchange.

Boo!

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Power-Exchange: Chapter 2

Note: This is part of a book I am writing, you can access other chapters at the tag 2025-01-13 04:09:21 +0000 UTC View Post

Power Exchange: Chapter 1.

Chapter 1

Defining Power-Exchange.

For as long as I have heard the terminology discussed, I have also heard it debated. Power-exchange is often used as an umbrella term to encompass any...

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Class Recording: Emotional Sadomasochism.

This is the upload of the class on Emotional Sadomasochism. Alongside the class materials, I am sharing a review page for the class, 2025-01-12 09:59:53 +0000 UTC View Post

Upcoming Class: Joining Information: Emotional Sadomasochism: 12 January 2025

Hello everyone. This is the joining information for the upcoming online class on Emotional Sadomasochism.

The meeting information listed below is in IST (Indian Standard Time), the time in...

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A Bucolic Affair.

I park at the community hall on the top of the hill like she told me to. She insisted the car cannot reach her house and I know she meant that literally, she didn’t mean there is no available par...

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Happy New Year, Everyone!

I know I am bit early on this and this isn't really an essay or any form of content. I just wanted to thank everyone who supports my work for doing so. I really appreciate it and your contributions...

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Podcast E88: Happy Anniversary.

The title is so incredibly misleading.

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The Boogeyman.

There’s a boogeyman in every family. A generationally-curated conglomeration of cultural lore, built upon the back of a specific local legend, that incorporates the nature of fear you need to inc...

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The Emerald Pendant.

My mother gave me a tiny emerald pendant when I was sixteen. It was beautiful, in the box, some things are like that. In the blue velvet-lined box it looked delicate and pretty, laid out in white g...

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Class Upload: Effective Sadism

PFA:

The audio file of the class being taught.
The reading notes.
The powerpoint presentation.

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Why I regret posting a nude to try to popularize my brand.

The first time I posted an *actual* nude picture online I was *shocked* by the response. It was just a picture of me lying naked but it got hits faster than anything I had ever create...

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The End Of Love.

We sat on the balcony of his apartment, looking at the trees and the forest that made it easy to forget we were in the middle of the most polluted city in the world. A good realtor knows to ...

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Upcoming Class: Effective Sadism

Hello all!

These are the details to join the upcoming Effective Sadism Class Live on 22 December at Noon (IST, your local time will vary accordingly, it is correctly reflected on the event p...

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Podcast E86: This Is A Eulogy.

My grandfather died and left me with thoughts of life and death.

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Talking To You.

The sex is completely dispassionate, not in the usual way where the lack of passion is meant to enforce ownership and hierarchy, but in the way that our bodies come together as a way to compensate ...

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Sexual Piety.

I've always felt that in another life I could have been extremely pious. I have no god in this one and unfortunately the political reality and inherent chastity of religion keeps me from engaging i...

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Don’t Let the Mainstreaming Of BDSM/Kink Fool You Into Thinking The World Is More Progressive.

Within the kink subculture, we live in a world that is much more open, structured and sexually liberal than general society. Yesterday, in conversing with a lovely educator from the o...

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The Relationship HighCast: The Little Things!

We always hear people say it is the little things that matter in a relationship but what are these little things? How much do they really matter? Let us discuss!

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He Thought He Would Never.

The first time it happened, I hadn't been expecting it at all. The reason I hadn't been expecting it was because when we first discussed it, the idea seemed to shock him. He said it seemed too aggr...

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