NEW VIDEO: Fatherless Behaviors
Added 2025-06-04 02:26:22 +0000 UTCHeads-up: It's like 4AM here and this unlisted patron video is still currently processing. It should be available to watch as of like 30 minutes after this post is published - apologies in advance if it gets some kind of copyright strike and I'm not able to get it fixed until the morning.
Hey! My child is due in like 2 weeks! I hope you enjoy this video that contains a lot of meditations about masculinity and fatherhood from the perspective of a fatherless (soon-to-be) father. My current plan, as per the results of the poll a while back, is to now go watch a bunch of post-Endgame Marvel movies and review them in a somewhat casual manner so that my brain doesn’t explode.
Love you all
xoxoxoxo
Comments
This was an unlisted version that was copyright struck - the final release is now public on the channel!
Jack Saint
2025-06-15 09:40:04 +0000 UTCDid this get deleted? :(
S. R.
2025-06-15 06:33:35 +0000 UTCYou're going to be a great fava bean
Ale
2025-06-05 05:37:47 +0000 UTCWhenever this topic comes up, about boys needing to be "led" by their fathers or by male role models or whatever to prevent them from becoming mass shooters, I always feel a lot of anxiety about the idea of motherhood. I really want kids when me and my husband can afford them, but the way this topic is discussed makes me feel like I'd be an entirely useless presence in my theoretical son's life. Like based off the way this topic is discussed and portrayed, after my theoretical son becomes a tween I'm basically gone from his life. I'm cringy and embarrassing to him if seen by his friends, I'm totally innefectual at enforcing rules, and I can't offer any emotional guidance. At best I can become "the important woman in his life" once he's older, a presence he loves but doesn't respect. This discourse feels so demoralising about motherhood, like we're totally superficial compared to fathers. I know that's the opposite of what this video's about lol, just made me think of it I suppose. Really excellent video as always, and congrats to the both of you on the upcoming bub <3
DaisyMaisy
2025-06-05 00:00:33 +0000 UTC(still watching forgive me if this is mentioned later) the poverty specifically experienced by single mothers is connected to misogyny in various ways too.
S. R.
2025-06-04 11:32:58 +0000 UTCThere was a stage where my single mother (of a boy) friend was reading lots of parenting books aimed at this. She told me her conclusion is that at a certain age, young boys can start testing out the boundaries of gender roles in their closest relationships, which includes their mothers and female teachers, and the advice was always to have a male role model/male teacher on call to step in. I remember thinking that sounded like reinforcing the issue - that boys only really have to listen to men... But what do I know, I'm also fatherless lol
S. R.
2025-06-04 11:21:13 +0000 UTCIt has arrived ❤ I’m a father who struggles with these ideas as well - I’m lucky to have had a loving father, but he was from the silent generation and grew up a farmer - his father told him to be a man when his emotions came up - I was lucky to have a father that listened to his wife about how sensitive his son was - he told me he loved me even when he felt the twinge of fear that people would think he was gay for saying that to another man, even if that “man” was a child - and now I have children, including a son, who I love and tell that I love him, but it is hard isn’t it - hard to know what the right way to do it is - there really isn’t a right way that works for all kids - each kid is different; each father is different; each home is different - we just try our best, don’t we - decide on values, treat our children with love, teach them how to emulate those values by loving them ourselves, constantly reassess those values and how we live them, examine how our children are responding to them, remind our self that our goal is to raise someone who can be happy and healthy and who will help others achieve the same - and after all that, recognize how powerless we are to control how everything unfolds - we could try our best and still have children who are unhappy and inflict that unhappiness on others - that’s scary, but entering into fatherhood knowing that means you’re more mentally prepared than most other parents
TwinSteel
2025-06-04 03:55:41 +0000 UTCTwo weeks! Right on time for father's day.
Jake Andrews
2025-06-04 03:54:20 +0000 UTCI now see that it is going to take a bit to process - in my excitement I clicked without reading - my workplace phishing email IT guy would be disappointed
TwinSteel
2025-06-04 02:30:02 +0000 UTC🥳🫂👍🏿
TwinSteel
2025-06-04 02:27:10 +0000 UTC
