"Overrated Virtues"
Added 2020-07-16 12:05:00 +0000 UTCPatreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss how to identify and overcome negativity, and they answer the following questions:
What are the least valuable virtues? (00:41)
What is the difference between transparent and open? (01:53)
Is it reasonable to refuse to wear a mask amid the pandemic? (06:18)
What is the difference between empathy and compassion? (12:10)
Can jealousy be useful? (22:33)
How is negativity a virtue? (24:38)
Are there any drawbacks with working from home? (32:55)
How do we clearly communicate parameters in a relationship? (52:07)
How do we gain indifference to others’ opinions of us? (56:38)
How would Marie Kondo deal with negativity? (1:01:56)
How do I tactfully handle a friend’s smothering attention? (1:03:23)
How do I positively let go of negative relationships? (1:05:26)
How do you prevent other people’s negativity from turning you negative? (1:13:42)
How do I find consistently positive people? (1:15:18)
LINKS
Article: Comedian’s Email Exchanges with Accusers
Article: The Long Unhappy History of Working from Home
Book: Against Empathy
Book: It Doesn’t Have to Be Crazy at Work
Book: Rework
Coffee: Bandit Coffee Co.
Community: Meetup.com
Essay: How to Understand Your Values
Essay: Meta-Considerate
Instagram: Jordan Moore
Instagram: Podcast Shawn
Instagram: Jessica Williams
Podcast: Jason Fried
Podcast: Jamie Kilstein
Podcast: Negative People
Resources: The Minimalists
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MAXIMS
“You can establish a boundary without erecting a fence.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Compassion is more powerful than criticism.” —Ryan Nicodemus
This Maximal episode corresponds with Minimal episode 243.
Comments
I liked the topic on letting go of negative people. I had a similar problem with my birth father. I find him to be quite negative to me and others. I had talked to my therapist years ago about it and I thought I would share what she said. I kept saying, "I love my father, but he's just mean. Even if I tell him how I feel, he doesn't care." I asked her how do I handle that? She said," in life you will come across many people you will love, but its important to know that you can love someone and not let them walk all over you. Setting boundaries can allow you to say I love you, but I will not let you hurt me." That always stuck with me and maybe one of you might be needing that advice as well.
Brittane Phelps
2021-04-24 15:42:55 +0000 UTCThanks for a great episode! I really liked the discussion on meta considerate/inconsiderate. In Japan we have a saying that doesn't really translate that is on point - "arigatameiwaku," which generally translates as "grateful nuisance" - you're grateful for their intention but it's actually a burden or nuisance to you. Thought your explanation on meta inconsiderate is on point with the general reflection that absolutely everything people do or say are are reflections of their own feelings, so by thinking they are being nice, etc, they are really reflecting their own desire to be liked, or do something they think will be appreciated. Good intentions don't always result in good actions. Thanks!
Alana
2020-07-20 11:07:22 +0000 UTC
