"I hate this... when does it get easier?"
Added 2023-05-28 10:00:02 +0000 UTCGood morning!
I hope you're having a lovely weekend. Today, I'm answering a question that I get kind of a lot: “when does it get easier? I'm having a hard time, when do I stop struggling so much?” It's a broad question, but I will do my best to offer some feedback with examples. Hopefully it can be helpful, if you or someone you care about is grappling with some version of that question right now.
As always, I'm not a therapeutic professional and can only share about this from my experiences. Please take what resonates and leave the rest. ❤️
Chapters:
- 00.00 Intro
- 02.19 Hard conversations
- 09.09 Scary "firsts" and uncertain outcomes
- 14.10 Coping with major life evolutions
- 16.47 Coping with grief, loss, and anger at change (from 1-1 breakups to collective mourning)
- 19.17 The struggle to build new friendships / community
- 20.53 Outro
It was tricky for me to think about how to tackle this subject, because we all build a sense of security in our own ways, and at our own pace. But hopefully some of these stories and questions can be of service.
-
Automated captions provided by Vimeo Transcript attached to the bottom of this post, via Otter AI
With love,
Morgan
Comments
Thanks for this. I ask myself this question several times a day for the last almost two years now
Corey
2023-07-01 19:46:56 +0000 UTC"When does it get easier" has been the main theme of my 2023. Entering my first polyamorous relationship has been fun but not at all easy. Exploring the many factors that were making it challenging was the first step. Neurodivergence, distance, discovering attachment styles, learning how to communicate and state needs, going through firsts... Ultimately, self discovery and giving time to let patterns, familiarity and security develop finally made me arrive at a place where it feels easier. The challenge continues, but it feels somewhat softer. Of course, finding resources like this has helped immensely and it's probably the reason I didn't jump ship, so thank you very much!
sea-lemon
2023-06-30 19:54:06 +0000 UTC
