Genevieve King

✨Chillpolyamory on YouTube✨

Hi! I'm so excited to finally launch the Chillpolyamory YouTube channel, focused just on media analy...

Bringing up Conflict, Part Two: Tips & Tools

Hi! Happy Easter, if you celebrate. 🐣

Following up to last week's patron exclusive, here's part two about bringing up conflict. Here are some practical tools that I use in my own life to m...

Bringing up Conflict, Part One: Is it Safe?

Hi! I hope you're having a lovely day and weekend. Some of you already noticed, but this week I'm making it official online, that I've changed my name to Genevieve. 😊

Today's resource was ...

LIVE Chat: Building Trust, Unlinking Hierarchy from Safety, and Embracing Monogamous Relationship Anarchy

(Transcript attached, if you'd rather read it)

Thanks to all who came out for yesterday's Live chat! I offer these monthly for €3+ patrons to come ask me whatever you want. I hope it c...

Recap + Bonus Resource: Remodeled Love (relaunched) podcast

Hi there!

I hope you're having a nice weekend. Here is your Bonus resource along with a recap of the posts you may have missed this month.

Bonus Resource : 2024-03-10 11:00:08 +0000 UTC View Post

"Past Lives" is polyamory by another name...

The Oscars are next week, and a polyamorous film is nominated for Best Picture.

Technically, Past Lives is a very polyamorous coded film, but, hear me out. ...

When only two of us are Restructuring…

It can be really tough to know what to do when only two people in a group are changing their relationship. If they start sleeping together, or need space from each other, or want to end just one pa...

LIVE Chat: Honesty vs. Oversharing, Spiraling with Worst Case Scenarios, and Balance During NRE

Thanks to all who came out for yesterday's Live chat. I'm developing a new production schedule to hopefully do these more often, aiming for once a month. Since it's a way to be accessible for all �...

How to Not have Fun: "Superstore" and Militant Non-monogamy

Non-monogamy does not have to be just heavy conversations all the time. We do talk a lot, think a lot and feel a lot. But if all that talking can't lead to feeling a bit closer and more fr...

Can Relationship Anarchy ever coexist with Hierarchy? (and is it even a Binary?)

A question was prompted to me 2 weeks ago, and it's one that I get somewhat often: in practice, is there ever a time when anarchistic and hierarchical approaches can happily coexist? 

Th...

"Bandits" shows how a triad can form organically

Today, I'm continuing my media analysis series with a look at Bandits (2001). This surreal-romance-heist with Bruce Willis, Billy Bob Thornton and Cate Blanchett, gives a solid example of ...

Exercise: “What if it feels like I'm always putting in more effort?”

We’ve likely all been in dynamics where it felt like one person was reaching out more often, picking dates / times / activities more often, was always the one to start hard talks, etc. Sometimes,...

LIVE Chat: On Equal power vs. Equal time, Being the "More Available" Partner, and Anti-hierarchy in 24/7 Kink Dynamics

Thanks to all who came out for the first Live chat of 2024! The recording is here, with approximate timecode markers below. I hope they can be helpful.

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  2024-01-08 17:46:25 +0000 UTC View Post

"I Love You, Man" is high key a polyam rom-com

Happy new year!

Some exciting news. I'm kicking off a new series of video essays about non-monogamy in film and tv (a few of which I covered years ago in written Patreon reviews, but I'll ret...

When a conflict is in public, what's the role of the audience?

Merry Christmas Eve, if you celebrate! 

Since so many people are spending time in large groups this time of year, especially with extended family (who may or may not be easy to be around...

A few concerning patterns... Part Two

Today is part two of some common patterns that I’ve seen erode trust between people, in polyamory or otherwise. It's anecdote-driven, as always, so let me know if you have a different experience ...

A few concerning patterns... Part One

Today is a quick overview of some common patterns that I’ve seen erode trust between people. Any of these topics could be their own video, so let me know which you might want me to expand upon. B...

A (Non-exhaustive) Nonmonogamy Book List

PLEASE NOTE : I've not had the chance to read all of these books, so their inclusion is not necessarily an endorsement. Since helpfulness is subjective, I won't be doing any rankin...

"Why don't we share that?"

What happens when there are parts of someone we love, sides to them, that we don't share together? Interests, desires, experiences, identity... We can't always be the one to explore it with them. I...

Can dating be a bit less... disappointing?

Recent conversations with patrons and clients have focused a lot on the exhaustion of finding people. There will be this desire for new connections, for wanting certain role(s) to be filled in life...

Things to consider when helping a partner support someone else

I was 17 and watching my caregiver get ready for a date, when her phone rang. Her boyfriend had to can...

LIVE CHAT: On Shared Spaces, Possessive Impulses and Going No Contact

Thanks to all the folks who came to hang out in the Live chat yesterday. The recording is here, with approximate timecode markers below. I hope they can be helpful! 

Timecode: 2023-10-30 17:23:55 +0000 UTC View Post