5 Questions about Sex I Wish I Asked Sooner
Added 2023-05-07 10:01:00 +0000 UTCGood morning, and I hope you're having a lovely weekend!
So, lots of people ask me to make sex education videos but I'm unfortunately not a sex educator. However, I can definitely speak to the volatile range of emotions and stressors that come up when navigating that sort of intimacy.
Today, I'll offer 5 questions about sex that I wish I asked sooner, with some personal anecdotes to illustrate what I mean. In the video, I also reference @ericasmith.sex.ed and @consent.wizardry, two accounts that are key parts of my broader, ongoing education. If you've got any stress about these same questions, maybe it will be helpful!
Chapters:
- 00.00 Intro
- 01.05 Do we define sex the same? (and are we continuing our sex education?)
- 04.47 Are there any internal feelings of obligation? (Note: if there are external sexual obligations coming from partner/s, that’s not ok.)
- 08.11 Am I / are we on the sex escalator? (and how does that impact consent?)
- 12.53 Are there any phobias or -isms still in our sex?
- 16.09 Is there any shame or disgust about sex, whether together or apart?
- 21.05 Outro
This is not a comprehensive list of things we can check in about, just a few things that come to mind today. ❤️
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Transcript attached to the bottom of this post, via Otter AI
With love,
Morgan
Comments
Thanks Morgan, this was great!
Crystal Garcia
2023-05-11 17:55:18 +0000 UTCAfter re-watching, I think I could've been clearer re: the obligations part. If your *partner* thinks you're obligated, if they feel entitled to sex at any point, that's not cool. This includes tropes like "it's my birthday, so I get a BJ" or even "its our wedding night, we have to have sex." It might disappoint them, but they'll live. We don't owe anyone any kind of sex at any time.
Morgan
2023-05-07 17:40:46 +0000 UTC
