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[Bonus Episode] Ep 4 - SPILL IT GIRLIES: The Girlies Giving YOU Advice (...don't sue us)
Added 2024-11-28 00:49:35 +0000 UTCIn today’s bonus episode, we do our best to help you girlies out with situations you asked for advice on. Disclaimer: We have no idea what is going on in life, so like really don’t listen to us. Okay byyyyyeee!
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I personally believe political beliefs should stay personal. My sister-in-law believes in different political views and religious beliefs, and we do just fine. We will talk about it sometimes, but we rather just enjoy life than worry about those headaches haha
Shyan Vigil
2025-10-24 23:47:26 +0000 UTCDamn, wish I had subscribed much earlier and maybe could have saved a friendship of 24 years. Great advice ladies! <3
SasquatchRadius
2025-07-18 16:49:40 +0000 UTCVoting for Trump is a hateful action so I don’t associate with those people
Cristle (Cris)
2025-02-12 11:42:49 +0000 UTCSomeone who works with addicts and loves many of my frequent flyers, you gotta cut them off when they start using you just like they use the substance. As painful as it can be, if they don’t take control of their mental health after opportunities, that is on them. While addiction is a complicated disorder that requires support sometimes you need to distance that especially with attention seeking behavior. ❤️ we need more sober living 😫
Katie
2025-02-12 06:31:28 +0000 UTCYeah I couldn’t even full screen it
Brooke Cole
2025-02-11 01:50:52 +0000 UTCIs it too late to comment? It's not a 1 to 1 but I get what Lily was saying in the beginning. I ended up in my career by chance because I literally wanted to work at the same company an ex worked at. I took whatever job was available and then found myself liking it so I kept doing the best I could. Been in my industry for almost 9 years now.
Bianca
2025-02-07 21:33:09 +0000 UTCi was told by a member of my husbands family ‘whoever voted for Biden is an idiot’ as they knew for a fact i voted for Biden in 2020
heather s
2025-01-10 17:24:16 +0000 UTCI cannot express how much I love these moments. I, single with a dog, am best friends and godmother to a seven-year-old and his little three-year-old sister. My bestie works a lot, and we don’t get to see each other as much as we used to, but we are family and go through everything together. This podcast doesn’t just remind me of her; it feels like a window to our time together and fills that space between our reunions. It’s so comforting to watch and so relatable. I also learned a lot and understand her better by listening to Jessi’s similar retellings. And I learn from Lily too - on how to be there when you’re not physically there. Sounds like a bunch of cheesy nonsense but it's how I’ve felt on my DWKT journey. And for that (and all the laughs) I thank you ❤️
Ana Fox
2024-12-27 10:46:11 +0000 UTCMy daughter is currently going to school for creative writing, theater etc. She works at a radio station on campus. I know it's not a "normal" path, but we want to support her and she works hard. She's been working on a book and who knows?! People just need to let others do their own thing and worry about themselves. She had a lot of classmates who had "normal" career paths lined out and half of them have switched or dropped out of college.
Kristy Russell
2024-12-22 16:23:36 +0000 UTCCame to see if you’d commented - just watched, we have 2 nonverbal children (10 year old twins) and it’s all so true - our girls use Proloquo2go AAC app on iPads, but I know there are free ones just to test out with young children :) I think the free ones we used was LetMeTalk, that was over 5 years ago now though
Kirsty
2024-12-16 17:33:22 +0000 UTCNon verbal 10 year old twin girls here 🥰 it’s so lovely to meet fellow girlies through things like this
Kirsty
2024-12-16 17:30:24 +0000 UTCSo sorry you are going through that, your feelings are valid and you do not have to tolerate that sort of disrespect :(
Emely Arias
2024-12-13 04:09:41 +0000 UTCI loooovved this
Sammy-P
2024-12-08 19:40:25 +0000 UTCNext time can we please let Lily pick the questions?
Stephanie Davis
2024-12-06 05:55:50 +0000 UTCI have no children but I could listen to Jessi talk about parenting for hours lol, it makes me sad about how I was raised but hopeful for my future kids if I prep now.
Jen
2024-12-05 22:53:09 +0000 UTCFor the girlie with the alcoholic, suicidal friend… his health is his own responsibility. As someone who was that person who was hospitalized and talked off the edge constantly, he’s not going to get better if he’s just using you as a crutch. He needs to learn how to support himself and appreciate the support system he has. I would prioritize your happiness and if he doesn’t give you happiness anymore, then wish him the best but let him go
Marley Ortiz
2024-12-05 16:34:38 +0000 UTCReally enjoyed and appreciated this episode, especially the last question expanding on not only personal experience and advice, but also disability awareness, thank you girlies <3
peachystreams
2024-12-05 08:19:48 +0000 UTCI might be in the minority here but I prefer AITA! Advice segments don't keep my attention because I don't want to hear about other people's problems lol Can we continue to get mini topics for bonus episodes?
Cecilia O
2024-12-04 00:51:56 +0000 UTCNoooo don't replace AITA with this :( I just don't find advice giving to be that entertaining
Tabitha Wirtz
2024-12-03 20:47:09 +0000 UTCAhh I'm trying to cast this video and it won't let me, is it because it's not on Patreon and a link from YouTube?
Jessie W
2024-12-03 01:25:56 +0000 UTCLove listening to you girlies. Thanx for the black Friday sale. Might not have joined
Terri Nichols
2024-12-02 16:17:06 +0000 UTCI finally joined!!!!
Ella Roberts
2024-12-02 16:08:01 +0000 UTCLiterally crying when Jessi said that she’s learned so much about herself because of her son. It’s so damn true. I have a nonverbal daughter, she’s 8. It can be so hard but it’s such a beautiful journey. ♥️ I’ll add too - start teaching sign language now, it’s so helpful!! This was great, made me feel seen and I can’t wait for the next Spill It Girlies✨
FadedFox
2024-12-01 19:35:11 +0000 UTCLoved this!
Linn
2024-12-01 17:39:11 +0000 UTCI loved am I the asshole!
Chelsea
2024-12-01 14:35:27 +0000 UTCI am perhaps poorly trying to say I feel like this whole episode other girled Lily 🙈
Valerie M
2024-11-30 23:23:37 +0000 UTCNot you other girling Lily
wale
2024-11-30 22:52:36 +0000 UTCI love the idea of this, and I know each friendship has its own dynamic so I’m not saying anything about that, but given the dynamics of the girlies’ personalities, it honestly just feels like an advice segment in this Patreon should be called or changed to The Jessi Show. And when it comes to the pod eps, I want both of them 🙂
Valerie M
2024-11-30 15:59:39 +0000 UTCI’m a SLP in Canada. I always love hearing the progress of Noah. Love you girlies 🩷
Valerie
2024-11-30 02:14:02 +0000 UTCNo wonder it took them so long to make money from the podcast!! They have to spend so much money on signs!!!
Abby F
2024-11-29 18:57:24 +0000 UTCI have a 6 year old nonverbal boy and his identical twin is verbal so it’s posed some challenges but Jessi is absolutely right about being an advocate for your child. Hes still completely nonverbal and it was hard for me (i am also autistic) but he’s in special schooling and has made so much progress. He’s almost finally potty trained! All this to say it may seem difficult or hopeless but they can be so much more than you think and have they own loves and dislikes. Thanks Jessi, I loved this so much.
Kerstynn
2024-11-29 13:17:12 +0000 UTCi feel that when you recognize they are so far gone and their beliefs are harmful to you or others in some way or another, it is very valid to just cut them off. i’m very sorry that you’re having to hear that from someone who you consider a friend.
shelly
2024-11-29 08:54:38 +0000 UTCI just happen to think this is great, same as Sonia here, I don't have those issues in my life and I could just listen to you talk all day, It's like sharing things from the girlies community through you and sharing opinions, honest thoughts and experiences with each other, sounds great.
Ronnie Shy
2024-11-29 02:21:19 +0000 UTCMeghan would not bully anyone who didn't need some bullying (though, you could add to the form a check box of if someone is sensitive.) BUT YEEEEES PLEASE HAVE A SIG/DBM cross over. And you guys go on their pods. Please.
LuDominari
2024-11-29 00:05:26 +0000 UTCI’m single, all my family is liberal and I’m not a mom, but I could listen to you talk all day
Sonia
2024-11-29 00:02:49 +0000 UTCYay, love this segment!
Kylie
2024-11-28 22:38:58 +0000 UTCjust wanted to add to the "cutting people off for different views" discussion, because i am really feeling that confusion these days. i recently found out that my best friend of my entire life (we're almost thirty) has become so anti-abortion that she believes IVF should be criminalized because it's "killing babies." i tried have a rational discussion about it, but I just got torn down and yelled at and my feelings hurt. I tried to explain to her that as a disabled person, I'm much more likely to require IVF to have kids and she said i was "just being pessimistic." honestly at this point I'm trying to focus on other friendships and distance myself a bit, but I don't know what to do at this point and I feel devalued and ignored.
ember quinn
2024-11-28 19:51:01 +0000 UTCI think an episode with jessi and her dad and one of Lilly and her mom. That would be cool
Tori Rhind
2024-11-28 18:49:38 +0000 UTCLoved it! ❤️
Chris Nuba
2024-11-28 18:21:09 +0000 UTCYep. That might be the hardest part is that other people don't understand. And the "control your kid" comments. Both for us a parent - because, it's not like I'm loving that it's happening😐 and also for her because when they get too overstimulated it's just over. There's no turning back until you get them out of the situation and allow them time to calm down.
T
2024-11-28 18:02:45 +0000 UTCFor the girl with the friend.....block them. I blocked my friend.....you don't need them....it will be so hard! But in the end....it will all work out.
Marcia
2024-11-28 16:48:05 +0000 UTCLoved it!!
Aubrey Papinchock
2024-11-28 16:01:19 +0000 UTCI’m a speech therapist for birth to three kids. People are surprised that we even work with this age bc they aren’t aware of how much these kids do. We absolutely believe that all kids are capable of so much whether it’s learning language or a different way to communicate. That TikTok is so powerful and true. As for parents, you are your child’s best advocate. It’s okay to push for what your child needs. It’s also okay for you to ask for support and help when you need it. I love my job and the kids I work with. Seeing kids succeed is the best feeling.
Emily
2024-11-28 14:28:40 +0000 UTCThere's a way to load it on Spotify. Should be in the patreon info somewhere
Kait • 🍉
2024-11-28 13:16:10 +0000 UTCSame here
Chloe Thijm
2024-11-28 10:42:49 +0000 UTCI loved this episode! Definitely would like to see this as a regular bonus segment.
M@
2024-11-28 08:42:27 +0000 UTCI will say for "weaponized incompetence" and partners helping each other. I will say sometimes two people just prioritize different tasks. I know I feel like I do so much around the house and so does my hubby. But, sometimes he or I get frustrated because we think the other didn't do the most obviously important thing to do. We both prioritize different tasks. I have found asking him do something specific helps. Like if I didn't get to scrubbing the bath tub I'll ask him to do it and he will. Vice Versa if he wants me to do a task he hasn't gotten around to he will ask me to do it.
kristina erickson
2024-11-28 08:29:26 +0000 UTCIs there an audio only? I listen on my phone 🥲
Emma R
2024-11-28 06:20:17 +0000 UTCMy daughter also has adhd and autism and the melt downs are so intense. People who haven't seen them before look horrified when they witness it. She is 11 and we are doing aba now. When she was 3 she would cry for 45+ minutes and slam her head on the ground. It was so hard.
Mary
2024-11-28 05:37:15 +0000 UTC😂😂
Amy L
2024-11-28 05:27:52 +0000 UTCI really appreciate the girlies perspective and I’m excited to see more of these 😊👍🏻
Syd
2024-11-28 04:42:16 +0000 UTCI love hearing your experience with Noah! I am a new SLP and I am literally going to tell all my colleagues they way you phrased his communication style! And Lily’s anecdotes!! I love it and of course love you girlies ❤️
Micaela Jean
2024-11-28 04:39:19 +0000 UTCOne of the hardest thing is helping someone through addiction and being THAT person for them and when they finally turn it around they don’t even truly ever acknowledge how much you went through with them and the sacrifices you made to try and help them. Definitely hard to manage.
Cassie
2024-11-28 04:30:46 +0000 UTCNo hate to the girlies ofc just offering a different perspective🩷
Victoria🫧💕
2024-11-28 04:14:02 +0000 UTCI definitely agree that you’re not a horrible person for not wanting to cut off family. However, as someone who cut off my MAGA parents, I definitely think we shouldn’t de-normalize that. I felt inherently disrespected by them, and they’re unwilling to have any conversations about it so I did what I needed to for my mental health. I think we can normalize both reactions. They don’t need to disrespect you personally for you to decide you’re done.
Victoria🫧💕
2024-11-28 04:08:39 +0000 UTCOmg 😭 I'm Bri and I just want to say, thank you, girlies for the advice💙 Even Lily's comparison of dogs communicating in their own way was helpful 🥹 I really appreciate this community 💗
Brianna Amestoy
2024-11-28 03:40:14 +0000 UTCI'm terrified of being bullied by Meghan.
Andrew Giglio
2024-11-28 03:23:05 +0000 UTCliterally just had a falling out with my best friend (I’m not sure what the future holds for us) so this will be a great distraction for crying! Edit: we made up 😅
A
2024-11-28 02:57:12 +0000 UTCLove the way you girlies articulate your thoughts and opinions! It’s always a treat to hear y’all yap 😄
Mariana V.
2024-11-28 02:54:23 +0000 UTCI hope you're okay 🩵
Orikumar
2024-11-28 02:50:26 +0000 UTCare you telling me that Jessica Urban and the Other Girl aren't in the same room and they don't have unlimited neon signs and even the background is FAKE!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? THE LIES
Orikumar
2024-11-28 02:49:39 +0000 UTCMy daughter has severe ADHD and we think possibly Autism and I can totally relate to the extreme meltdowns Jessi. She's almost 9 and it's really hard sometimes. But she totally also has the attitude of the girl in the video you showed. I would show her but she is SO literal that it would probably piss her off and she'd be so mad that people thought the girl couldn't do things🤣🤣
T
2024-11-28 02:32:32 +0000 UTCLove this 🤍 thank you for posting
Zoe
2024-11-28 02:19:30 +0000 UTCYesss so many assume disabled and neurodivergent people can't do things even have sex or a relationship, people infantalize us so much smh
peachxtaehyung
2024-11-28 02:10:37 +0000 UTCI like this aloooot! Just chatty vids 🩷
Kait • 🍉
2024-11-28 02:00:43 +0000 UTCWhat if someone on the Patreon doesn’t know they aren’t in the same room still and thinks that just have an unlimited amount of neon signs
Abby F
2024-11-28 01:54:56 +0000 UTCOh I loved this 💜
Courtney Cox
2024-11-28 01:53:27 +0000 UTCThis was a vibe, slay guys, and Happy Thanksgiving to the American girlies
Emmy G
2024-11-28 01:50:36 +0000 UTCI LOOOOVE this girlies! If y'all celebrate happy Thanksgiving hope you have a good day and eat a lot of good foods!
peachxtaehyung
2024-11-28 01:47:28 +0000 UTCYess please do more of the spill it girlies episodes I loved this one!
Amy Ventura
2024-11-28 01:36:39 +0000 UTCSame! I don't have android tv or anything, so I wasnt able to connect patreon to the tv, had to always watch on the phone, which is horrible when in bed. Sooooo much better that I can put it on the TV and sleep listening to the girlies
Inês Almeida
2024-11-28 01:20:23 +0000 UTCLove this! The honesty
Patricia
2024-11-28 01:14:13 +0000 UTCHave a Happy Thanksgiving.
Andrew Giglio
2024-11-28 01:13:36 +0000 UTCThank you for uploading it on YouTube girlies!!! Makes my streaming so much easier❤️
Cristina
2024-11-28 00:58:46 +0000 UTCThe thumbnail image with the chalkboard is so cuuutteee!!!
Literally 🧡 Just 🤍 Jess 🩷
2024-11-28 00:58:08 +0000 UTCperfect timing
Carla Gonzalez
2024-11-28 00:53:45 +0000 UTCNew episode!!!!
few word do trick
2024-11-28 00:53:23 +0000 UTCIt may almost be 1am…. but I’m staying up for this🤣🫶🏻
Sabrina🎀
2024-11-28 00:52:57 +0000 UTCExcited to watch
Stephany
2024-11-28 00:51:03 +0000 UTCI needed this 🩷🩷 I've been having extremely bad anxiety today so I need to dissociate with my girlies!!!
Avery 🖤
2024-11-28 00:51:02 +0000 UTCOh my god it’s nearly 1 am and I have to be up at 7 am, why are you two doing this to me
Leah Callaghan
2024-11-28 00:50:48 +0000 UTCi am SAT.
elly blanchard
2024-11-28 00:50:36 +0000 UTCHi girlies love yas. I’m still in hospital but it won’t me from watching
Patrick Snow Jr
2024-11-28 00:50:19 +0000 UTC
