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Aftercare: When your top lets you make a wig for their dick out of freshly-plucked pubic hair and glue. I promise this will only hurt a little bit.

Top: A place for hiding the toys.

Bot...

Nursery Rhyme Week Day Five: Build Your Own Mythology

Ted Hughes wrote children's poetry for three decades, and Moon-Whales was probably his best collection. He built an entire mythology out of all the creatures you can find on the moon. There are moo...

I Was Born Like This. I Don't Want Any Changes

Caster Semenya grew up in a dark, dank province, but she went on to win Olympic gold anyway. Never mind the fact that she overcame the thick smog of poverty in her lungs. Never mind that. She had a...

Finding the State of Mind that Makes for Good Writing

Children are the purest readers you’ll ever have. When they respond to a piece of writing, it’s with absolute delight… or abject boredom. They require a lot of your characters, so you have to...

Ambition

Spoken word poetry has changed the way we see literature today. It’s served up easy, digestible poems that require little of us. They’re entertaining and fun to watch. I love them as much as th...

Implication Week: Stop Being Fancy

I like cupcakes. If I ate as many as I wanted, I’d never eat veggies, and then I’d get sick.

Sugar is an empty calorie. It has no nutritional value. If it’s all you eat, you will develo...

Nursery Rhyme Week Day One: Homage to Plath

You can’t know if a car drives well until you drive it. You can’t tell if the jeans fit until you wear them. You can’t figure out if the dish is delectable until you try it, and you can’t t...

The Road to Fucked Up Power Dynamics

The road to fucked up power dynamics is paved with demands and fragile egos, so if you expect me to submit before your belt is even undone, you’re not going to have a good time. I will eat your d...

I Was Never Really One for Roses

My mother was an engineer, so it wasn’t as though I spent my childhood surrounded by pink and roses. My family valued the sublime things in life, not the pretty ones: Food, not diets. Sex, not ro...

Implications Week Day Three: Economy of Words

Think about each of these words:

Glitter
Glimmer
Shimmer
Gleam
Glow.

All of them describe a different kind of light. These words probably give you a visceral sense of what t...

Red is Useful. Yellow is Better.

Every bottom has two kinds of inner masochists: 

Masochist A calls yellow the instant things get real. Then she spends the rest of the night polishing her halo.

Masoch...

Things That Will Happen When You Find the Kink Scene

You’ll stumble on Fetlife one lazy Sunday afternoon during a Google search on masochism. You’ll see pictures of gore that are worse than the horror movies you used to watch as a child. You'll l...

Things That Will Happen When You Meet an Abusive Dominant

You’ll meet him at a kink event. He will be everything you’ve ever wanted, so one fine Sunday morning, you’ll tack your dynamic together with agreements and sellotape. That conversation will ...

Implication Week Day Two: Appealing to the Subconscious

As a writer, you will pass through the wall of the reader’s unconscious whether you like it or not. Some words play on our minds differently to others. Some images play on our minds differently t...

This Week We're Learning the Power of Implication

A week back, we read this poem by William Carlos Williams:

This Is Just To Say
I have eaten
the plums
that were in
the icebox

and which
you were probably
saving
for...

Indifference

There’s nothing as fatal as indifference, and H’s washed over our relationship like the tide. I had become a triviality to him, so we had to admit that our relationship was over. With no feelin...

I'm Not on the Wank Fodder Team This Year

Can I ask a totally innocent question?

Okay

I was wondering if you had a teen son and he asked for help with something inappropriate but for a reason.

Image Week Day Five: Breaking Out of Old Patterns

In Foe, Nobel Laureate, J.M. Coetzee, writes:

“He turns and turns till he lies at full length, his face to my face. The skin is tight across his bones, his lips are drawn back. ...

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Sex Addiction is the Loneliest Disease that Ever Was

There’s a scene in the movie, Shame, where Michael Fassbender’s sex addict is enduring the last of a day’s compulsive sexual experiences. He’s physically exhausted. He is in psychic agony. ...

Image Week Day Four: Find the Truths the World is Trying to Teach You

Science and the human experience have a lot in common. Soft reeds bend instead of breaking. Adaptable people bend instead of breaking. Water is Mother Nature’s most destructive force even though ...

The LGBTQ Scene is Not the Danger. You are the Danger (Big TW Transphobia)

I grew up in apartheid South Africa, so I heard all the racist stories as a child: Black and brown folk were violent criminals who’d take over the country given half the chance. We called it “s...

My Sexuality Lives in the Mud, Not at the End of a Rainbow

I value a depraved mind over any of the exquisite things the tops in our community are capable of. There's so much beauty and talent to see in the kink world, but if I had to choose one t...

Hitachis in Crack

I've been working through the posts I wrote when I was new to the kink scene. I turned up this one from 2016:

Today I got a Lelo wand.

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Social Media's Favourite Master

Fetlife’s favourite master doesn’t allow hard limits. If you’re in distress, he will just know. He’s that impressive. He’s more domineering than a dominant, and he’s been on K&P a t...

Ignorance Doesn't Have a Consent Acronym

As a kink writer with a breathplay aversion, I’m often accused of being risk averse. I’m not the Kink Karen you think I am. Let’s cut to a metaphor break.

When I was considering brain ...

When All Sex is Make-up Sex

Two yowling cats woke me up at 2 am this morning. This is not unusual. Screaming at each other is their favourite thing to do, and they will do it for hours. I don’t know much about cats beyond t...

If you’re a top who thinks you can handle consent easily, you might not be intentional enough to handle consent easily

Chester was the most aggressive dog at the shelter. Through many months of patient work, he gradually learned to trust. Consent is even more important in shelters than it is in the kink scene, and ...

Depression Recovery is Just One Stitch

The Trouble with Depression Advice

When you’re depressed, they’ll tell you that the sun will come out tomorrow, as though your life is an Annie film and your disorder comes from some mystical place outside of you. And they will ...

Before the Attention Economy, BDSM Used to Happen Without Professional Photographs

They say back in the Paleolithic era, kink was the sort of thing you did in your bedroom with a girlfriend. Sam spanked Jess with a hairbrush and never even considered what the world might think of...