some reflections on changes due to success (September 2017 photo, 2021 writing) (2017) #16a + (2021) -11
Added 2021-11-02 19:50:09 +0000 UTChi my loves! I know I posted some reflections in the previous post about success, how it changes people around you, and how your circle becomes smaller. some people will turn away from you because they don't like seeing you be successful due to the insecurities, resentment, and jealousy it brings up in them. on the flip side of this coin, some people will try to get closer to you solely because you are successful (and not because they actually care about you for who you are). and they will try to use you.
to this day, even when it comes to the success I've been having in 2020 and 2021, people I trusted to care about me say hurtful things when I reach a level of success they never expected from me. my therapist says that it's something that they have to deal with and it's not my job to help them process that. but it doesn't make it any less painful when someone you trust calls you a "selfish bitch" for being successful, or when someone else you trust says that they're "jealous," "it's not fair (how successful you are)," or that "everyone secretly hates you."
Some people I have to cut out of my life, some people I have to limit contact, and some people I just don't share good news with as much anymore.
in this post, I'd like to talk about how success has changed me. Because of how I noticed people changing around me due to my success, I've become more protective of myself. When you become successful in whatever area of your life (health, career, family, relationships, etc.), beware of the people who want to hurt you, use you, etc. I think becoming successful has made me more careful. You have to look out for yourself and prioritize your safety. Your guard has to be up.
Don't settle for people who aren't healthy for you.
This photo was taken after I went to laser-tag.
Comments
A hard earned lesson to be sure, but one I'm glad you've taken to heart. People have agendas, even if they're benevolent they should be weighed against your own needs, wants and resources, material and emotional. On the positive however, once you know what to look out for and how to manage your energy you're less likely to attract people who want to hold you back or drag you down because you have the eye and the strength to dismiss them. So here's to your future, stronger, genuine relationships. And you looked so cute in that pic, hope you had a blast!
Adio Sebastian
2021-11-06 20:37:33 +0000 UTCI would rather not roast back. I appreciate and respect all of my patrons and do my best to be patient if there is a frustration they are having...but of course, if they cross a certain line, they lose the privilege of being my patron and they get blocked . in your case, we were able to resolve your issue easily and you took back the hurtful words you wrote to a fellow patron. We all make mistakes. the important thing is to own up to them and change the behavior, which you did. thank you. π (P.S. another way to easily search through the tag filter is to click on the tags at the bottom of each post. so when you see a twerk post, you'll see a the bottom of the post, it is tagged "twerk". ... so, just click on the tag "twerk" and you'll see all the posts tagged "twerk.") π ... have a great day!
2021-11-04 16:37:30 +0000 UTCLol damn you too nice roast me back thanks for the pro tip
2021-11-04 16:14:09 +0000 UTCthank you for taking back what you said to Kenya. AND I actually have a really easy and simple solution for you to only see exactly what you want to see. if you notice, under all of my posts, you will see that there are tags. you can search for exactly the type of content you are in the mood for through these tags. if you want to see twerk videos, just search "twerk" and everything that is twerk related, you will see. if you want to see bikini content (photos and videos), just search "bikini" and it will pop up. that is a perfect way for you to see what you want to see without seeing these text posts. that's the beauty of Patreon - the content is searchable because of the tags. you can even search by year, etc. whatever type of content you're looking for, just search for it through the tags I use to categorize them. ππ€π» β€οΈ I hope you enjoy this cool feature Patreon has! (and as you can see, there are people who enjoy my written posts... so please just ignore them going forward instead of commenting something hurtful because you can use the tags as filters to see only what you want to see π)
2021-11-04 15:39:08 +0000 UTCMy bad Kenya you straight Brodie. All this monologuing like weβre here for ass and some selfies here and there. Save all that for Twitter Iβm just being honest.
2021-11-04 00:07:20 +0000 UTCplease be respectful to all patrons. I donβt know what exactly you are referring to when you say βa tier without all thisβ
2021-11-03 23:51:17 +0000 UTCBro she not gonna give you the Arbyβs meat flap special. Do you have a tier with out all this ^^^?
2021-11-03 23:49:16 +0000 UTCYes it definitely can, as long as you keep trying and trying some more you'll be fine. Nothing beats failure but a try. ππΎππΎβ€ππΎππΎ
Kenya The Mighty
2021-11-02 19:58:16 +0000 UTCI'm trying! lol. it can be really hard sometimes when people I didn't expect to say some really hurtful things say it.
2021-11-02 19:54:45 +0000 UTCThat's absolutely true. People have their motives whether good or bad, you know how to deal with said people Anna and that's wonderful. β€β€ππΎβ€β€
Kenya The Mighty
2021-11-02 19:53:50 +0000 UTC
