"I like the feeling of hiding my day-to-day identity behind my mask and stand as a kinky sub rubber doll. All my insecurities and fears just fade away." In "Ask A Rubberist" series (ch...
2021-11-16 15:48:27 +0000 UTC View PostFrom the bottom of my heart and my work-related burnout, here's an essay on using BDSM as an escape – and whether his idea is even ethical, relevant or hot. Also: post-digital identity fatigu...
2021-11-04 17:49:03 +0000 UTC View PostDid you ask to see my bruised ass? I guess not - but at least I put a TW on it. That's the interesting thing with bruises – they're a large part of what we go through and what we love in BDSM...
2021-10-24 17:36:39 +0000 UTC View Post
Hello beautiful people and thank you for supporting me here <3
I am drowning in work and unfortunately have no time to finish some essay drafts – so you can have these hardcore baroque a...
2021-10-12 20:18:38 +0000 UTC View Post
It does.
Hard to explain but somehow everything else you wear, touch and desire feels a little bit different once you know that this experience is available to you, stored away in a box...
2021-10-04 12:24:08 +0000 UTC View Post
"The first time I looked at myself when I was in full gear, I felt like an object, in all the best ways". In "Ask A Rubberist" series (check through 2021-09-26 11:15:16 +0000 UTC View Post
In this essay, I ask the question what is erotic dominance made of, especially if you're femme – and probably fail to find a concrete enough answer. It feels like there isn't much written abo...
2021-09-17 14:52:21 +0000 UTC View Post
A couple of months ago, I got tied by 2021-09-09 15:38:55 +0000 UTC View Post
The other day I was in a shower, carefully washing a latex dress with unperfumed soap when I thought, well, I could not envisage doing this six months ago. I got into latex, like many peop...
2021-08-30 11:18:41 +0000 UTC View Post
The latest essay in on the idea of "normal" and the surprising erotic excitement which comes with it, on kinksters with double lives, on outsider identities and why we have to still resist stig...
2021-08-19 10:26:23 +0000 UTC View Post
This outfit was so much pleasure to wear in public (at Klub Verboten on Friday) and I can't post it anywhere else (because tits) – so here it is for the record <3
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2021-08-15 15:12:00 +0000 UTC View PostIn 2021, going to kink parties feels not just too good to be true, but kind of utopian. Imagine. The room is full of people. You can come up to someone and talk to them up close. You can make out w...
2021-08-06 11:18:59 +0000 UTC View PostI am a masochist. I am also a person with a history of chronic pain. I tried to find the connection between these two things, and also wrote about pain highs, the body which (naturally) keeps t...
2021-07-22 21:10:58 +0000 UTC View Post
If you're a nerd for BDSM gear – especially creatively designed and independently produced –...
2021-07-15 21:16:15 +0000 UTC View Post
Still looking for a good scanner, please send recommendations – literally, not joking, I have 30 pictures of my feet I need to scan.
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Hello beautiful people <3
Hope you're having a sexy Summer and thank you for sticking around here while I've been quiet. I have some things to share in the upcoming weeks, and they'r...
2021-07-09 11:24:28 +0000 UTC View Post
I loved doing visual research for the latest piece I wrote about the complex relationship of fashion and fet...
2021-06-20 20:04:13 +0000 UTC View Post
As a fashion writer, I have always been interested in the nature of consumerist desire – and how this kind of desire is different from the one we associate with fetish clothing. I wrote...
2021-06-18 15:40:58 +0000 UTC View Post
What being out about kink means today – and where playing with darkness lands us in the era of hypervisibility.
2021-06-09 16:53:19 +0000 UTC
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A couple of weeks ago I did a Facetime shoot with a wonderful photographer Alexandra Kacha (you can read a beautifu...
2021-06-04 13:55:35 +0000 UTC View Post
This Thursday, kink and fetish party organisers Klub Verboten are running an erotic reading in collabo...
2021-05-19 14:13:42 +0000 UTC View Post
I have a lot of fascination for pro-dommes. They’ve got it all: power, personality, presence, some mi...
2021-05-15 15:13:00 +0000 UTC View Post
I love vintage fetish advertising.
Part of its allure is that aspirational glamorous cold but sexy quality which fashion photography had in the 1990s. The hard eroticism of the body, or...
2021-05-07 11:18:04 +0000 UTC View Post
Today is 2 months since I started this Patreon – lots of love to you all who have chosen to support me, it makes me feel very seen (which is so special for me as a queer, a perv and an exhibition...
2021-05-03 13:33:59 +0000 UTC View PostThis is one of the first essays I have ever written about BDSM – on the beauty of losing control but being in control, on breath play and closeness, and on language. I write because I fall in...
2021-04-29 19:25:44 +0000 UTC View Post
I always get so excited when my day job as a culture writer overlaps with my interest in erotica, ...
2021-04-27 10:34:33 +0000 UTC View Post
Shot in my bedroom in London during the January lockdown by my very priceless friend and collaborator Anya Gorkova. It was nice ...
2021-04-21 09:47:32 +0000 UTC View Post
The beauty of fetish and kink is that they can be anything you make of them. But they can also be tool...
2021-04-15 15:09:13 +0000 UTC View Post
My first essay is on rope – both my experience of being tied up and rope as an ever-shapeshifting erotic practice. But firstly, thank you once again for subscribing and supporting this ...
2021-04-02 16:36:27 +0000 UTC View Post
Could write about enacting your erotic self in your living space after shifting furniture around – because in reality not so many of us do so in the dungeons or even parties anymore. But can also...
2021-03-30 18:33:52 +0000 UTC View Post